ok my bf just told me that he has 3 kids, we have been going out for 2months know should i keep seeing him or not, but like i do not want to have any kids so idk what to do know
2006-09-12 09:20:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just now told you that he has three kids? Wow, someone is a proud father. I dated a guy one time that had just moved into the area and after we dated for a month he told me that he had three kids by three different women and he had been married 4 times already. Needless to say....we stopped dating after that. That is something that needs to come out in the FIRST part of the getting to know someone phase. I can just hear what he said, "well I wanted her to fall in love with me and not leave me because I have 3 kids." It's an excuse! Also, if he's not proud enough of his kids to tell you before now what's wrong with him?
2006-09-12 09:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to sit down and think about this one! I was 21 when I met my , now husband, and he also informed me 4 days after getting to know him that he had 3 kids. They were 10,9, and6 yrs old. It's really really hard!!!! The ex will always be involved and he will always have money going out and his priorities will be to the kids before you (sometimes) so if you can hang with that then keep seeing him but if you can't deal with sometimes having to cancel your dates,movies trips or such then I would start walking. Good luck to you. If I had the chance to go back to when I was 21 and make the choice of making a life with him again, I probably wouldn't do it! Child support, ex's, later on the teen-age drama, it's all a lot to go through.
2006-09-12 16:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my step mom meet my dad my dad had 3 kids she had no idea at first, but when she found out she was not happy,but 12 years later guess what she's still here, don't let the kids turn you away try it see what happens. Good luck
2006-09-12 16:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have been up front with you on the kiddo situation, so I would leave now before you got any more serious with him. It wouldnt be fair to anyone in the relationship to keep it going if you dont want kids.
2006-09-12 16:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by slim27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't care to much about his kids, that should have been in your first conversation when getting to know each other. Regardless of wether or not you like him, it sounds like he is lacking integrity and charachter. If that doesn't matter to you, and you don't like kids, no you shouldn't keep seeing him , it's not fair to the kids
2006-09-12 16:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Faith M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch him. He waited that long to tell you, so he must not put them high of his list of important things. It doesn't matter if you want them or not right now; he's just a guy you're dating. But the way he is presenting himself as a guy with no kids is just wrong.
2006-09-12 16:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him and be honest about the kids, if he doesn't think its an issue. But, if he is a jerk about it, dump him. Chances are he is looking for a momma figure for the kids.
2006-09-12 16:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by stickinthemud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have told you since the beginning, by withholding information he lied. If you don't want any kids you should really stop seeing him.
2006-09-12 16:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by eld13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he's a nice guy( not really sorry) Was he married does he except responsibility for them now. I say leave him and move on to less baggage, sorry
2006-09-12 16:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out...you're looking at a LOT of trouble......not an easy situation. You'd have to be willing to go through hell and back for this man for it to be right to stay...and by your asking...my vote is "no".
2006-09-12 16:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋