My husband and I have been in a relationship for 7 years but have only been married for 5 months. He is 28 and I am 27.
2006-09-12 09:13:33 · 26 answers · asked by K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's totally up to both of you. When ever you think you are ready. There is no real set time.
2006-09-12 09:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years
2006-09-12 16:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by Duke P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that the date of your wedding should matter, since you have been together for 7 years. They do say to wait atleast a year, because supposedly the 1st years the hardest. but that's just what people say! I hae only been married 2 months together 2 1/2 years and for us we are just not ready. I think it's a mutual decision that you two must come together and decide. See if it's the right time! Only you guys know!
2006-09-12 16:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends......
Are you ready to bring a child into your relationship? Are you ready to share your love with a child who will be part of both of you? The child would be a very special person to both of you and to him/herself, of course, and you would want the very best for him/her.....this means the very best from both of you.
You are nearing the time to have children or risk not having them, and yet, you have had little time as a "married" couple. Perhaps you should consider giving yourselves a year or so as a married couple, to experience life together and enjoy freedom as a married couple, and THEN "go for a child or two, or more".
I had six, starting at age 23, I had my ups and downs, but I would have never changed my totally wonderful experiences having and raising my children for all the gold in the world if I had the chance to go back and change anything.
In fact, if I could have, I would have had more! I miscarried three and had they been able to make it through gestation, I would have had nine and I would have been even more ecstatic about it today. This is just the way I am, personally, though. For others, it's up to them, but I recommend parenthood for those who really want to be parents and who prepare themselves for parenthood. Nothing compares to a good parental experience.
My children are all doing well, and they are healthy, loving people. I give THEM all the credit for this in their lives, also. I merely provided them a good "growing environment".
The very best of everything to you and your spouse.
2006-09-12 16:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Seneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that is a personal decision. Do you think you are fianancially secure to raise a child now? Able to buy the baby equipment and toys and clothes? Would you be willing to quit your job to be a stay at home mom to take care of the kids? If you can answer all these questions and I'm sure once you think about it, you'll have more questions as well to answer. But if you can answer yes to all these questions then you are sincerely ready to have kids. But if you say no to any of these questions then you aren't ready. Also talk it over with your husband, because usually guys aren't as ready to have kids as women are and he might freak out if you suddenly get pregnant.
2006-09-12 16:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule. It's a matter of when you're ready to start a family. Waiting could be for financial reasons, career choices, etc. Some couples have a child right away, others wait a while, even a few years. It's whatever is best for the couple.
2006-09-12 16:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by orangefrostie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you and your husband can answer that question. We have no idea of your financial obligations or goals for that matter. When you are in a situation to be able to handle the added responsibilities not just financially but emotionally then you guys can think about having kids.
You would of thought that you guys had already talked about this before getting married, didn't you?
2006-09-12 16:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by ???///??? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we were married 7 years before we had our daughter, but then we only knew each other 8 months before we married. We have been married 14 years in January! and I'm 13 weeks pregnant
God bless and good luck
2006-09-12 16:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally up to you! My husband and I have been married for 4 years, we have no kids yet and maybe we never will. Just depends on whether the timing is right for you both.
2006-09-12 16:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for 7 years, and we had been dating for 3 years before that. Do not plan to have kids anytime soon
2006-09-12 16:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by jimbell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easy answer to your question is: When you both feel like that is the next step in your marriage. You must both want to be parents, and know that your whole life is going to change when that baby arrives. Most importantly are you ready to take on that responsibility?
2006-09-12 16:22:13 · answer #11 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋