I kissed another guy even though he says things are alright between us i can hear the discomfort, & unassurance in his voice. He dosn't trust me. he's not happy. All i want is for things to go back to the way they were. What do I do?
2006-09-12 09:07:03 · 25 answers · asked by badgirl 419 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like it's gonna be a rough road for you. if you really like the guy AND if you think you really made a mistake, then you will have to endure the discomfort as long as he wants to dish it out. during that time, make sure you make him feel as though he is your priority and suck up whatever "mood" he's in until he gets over it. he will subconsciously realize that it was a mistake and will be able to move on.
oh, and it will help NOT TO DO THAT AGAIN
2006-09-12 09:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by loveholio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are a bad bad girl. Seems like he's really got hurt and is really mad at you. Whom else do you expect to trust you after that? Thank god the guy is still with you. But your relation is getting worse by every second. Mend it asap.
Its tough to instill trust back again.
Arrange a place like a dinner where it is calm enough for him to hear you...for a really intimate talk...a confessing kinda one. Accept and apologize for your mistake...sincerely. Tell him that you care for and understand his feelings you are really disturbed that he's hurt. Not just tell him, make him feel that you are being honest. But this is just a first stitch to the nasty cut.
Never expect everything to go back as they were. Trust takes long time to build. And its been broken. It will take longer to rebuild. Your best options are to make him feel by your actions in future that he still is important to you and you sincerely dont want this relation to fall apart. Remember the "actions...louder than word " thing?
2006-09-12 09:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really hard. Once somebody has been hurt by cheating, that feeling no matter how bad they want to get rid of it, does not go away. He sounds like he cares about you, but to be honest he might never trust you again.
He will either learn to deal with it, or in time it will drive him crazy and he will have to move on.
Just keep reassuring him about how much you care,how you made a mistake and dont hold any secrets from him.
2006-09-12 09:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP KISSING OTHER GUYS! If I was your man I would have left your sorry ***. No girl cheats on me because that is so disrespectful and I'm not going to stick around for that when I could go out on the street and get any girl I want.
2006-09-12 09:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to break up for a little while. dont get with anyone else. Things are not gonna go back the way things were b/c you cant rewind time. But if we could....Also, by breaking up then he can have time to himself to think things through. If not, he's gonna be this way for a looong time. It might not be what you want, but it is the best. good luck
2006-09-12 09:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that is earned, and thus takes time. Your actions stated that what you wanted were more important to you, than were his feelings, and now he questions the value you place on the relationship, compared to yourself. He is feeling the fear of not being too important to you, and that would make anyone unhappy. Thus you need to instill in him how important he is to you, and how you now realize it all the more.
2006-09-12 09:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the reason why my first love and I broke up....in simplest terms...it's over. Once betrayed a relationship can never go back to the same... I know..been through it three times and watched it happen to a few of my friends.
2006-09-12 09:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by Cathy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things will never be the way they were before. There will always be a squestion in the back of his mind. Do you blame him? What is the situation wa sreversed? How would you feel?
2006-09-12 09:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by kmday1130 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had this same problem Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now, and after our 3 month anniversary i kissed my ex. He's still mad at me, but i proved to him that i did love him. So, just prove to him that you really care about him and do nething that he needs for that reassurance. If he really likes you he will forgive you!
2006-09-12 09:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by nikkicomstock_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kiss another guy, I can understand why he doesn't trust. He may not never gain any trust from you. It's nothing you can do.
2006-09-12 09:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by incredible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋