I know it is wrong... Now we both agreed “no strings attached”. He is married and doesn't have any kids. I am single and looking for an adventure. I would never ask him to leave his wife b/c I would never consider having a serious relationship with him. I do not believe in cheating and I wouldn't do it. He is the one cheating, and if he is fine with us having sex behind his wife’s back, than its fine with me. I was in a serious relationship and we broke up six months ago. I didn't sleep with another guy since (other than the married guy which started about a month ago). I am afraid of STDs. I rather have sex with him/ a married guy than with a single guy that changes girls like a pair socks. Is there anyone that was in a situation similar to mine??? Any advices?? Give me your opinion....
2006-09-12 09:03:48 · 28 answers · asked by LOST 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said it yourself...you know it´s wrong. So, why do you keep doing it? True, you´re not the one who is married, but you should respect the institution of marriage and get into a relationship with a single man. I feel sorry for his wife. I respect the institution of marriage. It is sacred and shouldn´t be taken lightly.
What goes around, comes around. You´ll get what´s coming to you. Karma is a bit.ch.
2006-09-12 09:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't approve but I can give advice.
First of all how do you know you are the only person he is cheating with? At least with a single guy you have even chances that he will not lie about sleeping around, a married guy that is cheating on his wife is lying to one woman already so he could be lying to a bunch more. He is also good enough with his lies that he may never get caught, especially by you. I would still be worried about STDs, actually I would be even more worried than with the single guy.
2006-09-12 16:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy may be married, and you're single..but you ARE cheating. You're very well aware of the fact that he's married, and that's CHEATING. It's the same for him. Just because he's married, doesn't mean he has used protection. If his wife were to find out, YOU would be the blame for the marriage breakup even if they did have problems prior to your arrival on the scene.
I'm not judging you, but you are ADULTEROUS by being involved with a married man. In these situations, there never is a winner. Someone always gets hurt. How's your conscience treating you ??
2006-09-12 16:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by orangefrostie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can live with it, I don't think it's a problem. HE is the one who has made a commitment to someone. You have not.
However, you must also be prepared to accept the consequences if everyone finds out. You will be the "bad guy." The girl is always the heavy in this situation - no matter whether she's the married one or the mistress. It's not fair, but it's the way it's seen. YOU broke up their happy home (even though I'm sure it wasn't happy). YOU are the tramp. YOU are the aggressor. A man can't help himself, but a girl is always supposed to say, "No."
BTW - Use a condom. If he's sleeping with you, are you sure he isn't sleeping with others as well? Messing around with a married guy is no way to be sure you won't get an STD.
2006-09-12 16:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Anal sex is the most dangerous practice when it comes to STDS. How do you know this married guy is not treating you like a pair of socks. You probably allready have some sort of STD. Just remember,.... whatever comes around, goes around. You will pay for what you are doing with this married man,.... sooner than later, it will come back to you. What you are doing is the lowest of the low. You probably dont have a concience but if you had some what of a heart,... you would stop doing what you are doing. Look at the comments posted for your answers. The men are not respecting you,... hmmmm,... maybe becuz u dont respect yourself.
2006-09-12 16:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can try to let yourself off the hook, but it won't work! You are cheating as well as him!! You wouldn't cheat on someone, but it's ok to cheat with this woman's husband?? Does not add up! What makes you think this married guy isn't sleeping with everyone he can get his hands on? You need to stop kidding yourself. Marriage does not protect anyone from std's!! How would you feel if you were married and some TRAMP was sleeping with YOUR husband? You wouldn't be upset, angry, hateful toward her? It's devastating!! Having your trust betrayed like that. You should be ashamed of yourself. Wake up and get real! You have to be pretty stupid to accept what you've been feeding yourself!!
2006-09-12 16:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello!!! If he is cheating on his wife now, dont you think he could have cheated on her a million times before. He has most likely, and if you dont want a STD then use protection or dont have sex.
I dont mean to sound rude.. Im not trying to be, but just because he is married doesnt mean he doesnt change girls like the single men...
2006-09-12 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are an accomplice. I have done this in the past and after some time I began to feel guilty. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. You would not want someone else to do that to you. I was head over heels in love w/ my married man, but I had to let him go. It's not right. You have to live w/ whatever decision that you make and remember what comes around goes around. If I was his wife and I found out that not only were you sleeping w/ my husband, but you knew he was married. Oh girl!!! I would be on and poppin! Good Luck
2006-09-12 16:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by drubaby32698 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he is cheating on his wife what makes you think you are the only other women??? THINK ABOUT IT. Second if you dont belive in cheating why would you help a MARRIED guy cheat of all. That makes no scence. WAKE UP look at what you you wrote no sence at all, You are no better then he is. Just b/c he married doesnot mean he doesn't have an std.
2006-09-12 16:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please you are assigning your guilt to another way. You are playing with fire. If my sons wife did this to him, I would tell her to put his wife on the road. What you are doing is not only disgraceful to you, but also to this guys wife. If I were her I would track you down and give you a good *** whooping. You should respect someone else's marriage. The best thing you can do is to end this thing before you get really hurt, and I mean hurt. People take what you are doing extremely serious.
2006-09-12 16:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋