My whole life, I only loved one woman, married her, then things didnt work out as well and we had to seperate. Its been months since our seperation, and I think Im over her, not sure.
Right now, any woman I see, I just dont feel anything towards anyone. I mean, I just dont feel like even dating or trying to start a relationship. I try to keep myself busy the whole day just to avoid it, but I think it has reached to same stage of depression, its getting to me! I just gave up on love I guess, I just dont believe in it anymore. I mean, whenever I see a woman being so nice and sweet and stuff, I just start thinking that she is just faking it and that there is an actual monster beneath that skin that no matter what type of promise she makes that she would love me forever are just lies and that I cant trust anyone anymore.
Sorry, mixed up emotions, just want your opinion on this.. is this normal? how did you go one with your life after such an experience? I dont wanna go crazy you know!
2006-09-12 08:57:33 · 13 answers · asked by Zwerg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ya, I think you are going through some normal things. A good friend of mine went through a similiar thing. After being married for half a decade his wife left him and it hit him hard. He completely mistrusted women. It took him a couple years and alot of dating but he eventually moved on and found a great girl that he has been seeing for the last 2 years. One last piece of advice, do yourself a favor and try not compare your ex to new women you meet. It will be hard, but it will improve your odds of appreciating new women you meet for who they are, instead of who they aren't.
2006-09-12 09:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, once you've had something for such a long time (whether it be a partner or a personal item etc) that you absolutely believe is the best for you, it's very difficult to change. I realize this is exactly the point you're making, but I believe there's life ahead. There are some wonderful people in this world despite what the media will have us believe. I wish you luck finding another and I'm very sure it will happen. Just hang in there.
2006-09-12 16:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rich W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are sooo sweet. I hope you realize that any single girl would be more than lucky to have you to thier side. Its so hard to find a good man nowadays. I cant blame you for how you feel. But you need to regain your confidence, I am sure you have freinds that you can hang out with. Start off with that and then you will be more open to the dating fields, becuz once you are with your freinds,... they will encourage you do this as well. Just be careful,... dont hurt other women becuz of what one did to you. Its not fair to the other person. Best of luck.
2006-09-12 16:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, there are women out there who are looking for real love as well. Just because something didn't work out, doesn't mean you should give up. Just means she wasn't right for you. No matter how much you may love someone, it just sometimes doesn't work. There is someone out there you can love, you just have to be open to it, and accept that the other relationship is over. You also have to let go of the anger. It's paralyzing you in your life.
2006-09-12 16:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by sugarcakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you finally meet a gorgeous and sexy woman that takes your breath away, you will not even think about ur ex or any kind of depression.
I also know that the older you get the more you will guard ur heart from anyone so it does not hurt again.
So i suggest go out more with ur friends and mingle
U just never know when it will hit you with a hot sexy woman!! LOL!!
2006-09-12 16:14:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh...you sound like you're over her....NOT!!
Listen, separation takes time, and right now you're looking for new routines to settle into. You need to work on yourself right now, but rather than slipping into depression (being angry with youself), understand that there's more to life than just women.
Take that anger and do something assertive with it. Start working out if you're out of shape, take up a new class, start a new gig of sort, but whatever you do GET ANGRY, jsut be careful NOT to be aggressive about it. You have some un met needs that need to get takn care of, this is your time to SHINE.
Do it brother and trust me youwill feel better about life and love!!
2006-09-12 16:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Don't give up on love. Just right now try not to concentrate on that . Go on with your daily routine and maybe start hanging out with your friends. Eventually, some lady may come in your life that will surprise you.
2006-09-12 16:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to just do things that you enjoy, don't try to get into another relationship. Just try getting to know yourself again and get back into the things you were missing out on that gave you pleasure. Once you get to know and appreciate your self again you'll be much happier. There's no race to get into another relationship.
2006-09-12 16:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by miss_in4med 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, sometimes bad things happen and thinking about them is not helpful.waht you need to do is go out take a deep breath and smile at everyone you see and say hello. you will then learn that there are lot of other people out there. i will pray for you.i son't even know why i said that
2006-09-12 16:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax when the right woman comes around you'll know right now you just need sometime to forget about what happened. take sometime to yourself. maybe try to pray to god he answers your prayes even if you don't like the answer. go to church god will help you meet the girl of your dreams
2006-09-12 16:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by badgirl 419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋