grandmom or daycare?

Question

W ould you keep your child with daycare or with your mother in law.I just dont see how daycare is better then
grandmoms love.

Answer 1

Grandparents if they are willing but sometimes daycare can provide more social stimulation and easier learning from kids his or her own age. Money wise grandparents are easier.

Answer 2

Neither... find someone who will do daycare in their home, with other kids. Your child needs to learn how to socialize with other children (share, play, etc). I have three kids (3,4 & 8) and they were all in private homes (NOT RELATIVES) with at least 2 other children; all similar in age. My oldest walked at 7 months (watched the others do it); my 3 & 4 year olds were both potty trained between 15 & 24 months (again, watching the other kids do it). Yeah, they fight but they've also learned how to compromise, share & work out differences. When you have one adult with 3 kids it's alot easier than 1 adult trying to keep a handle on 6 or 7 (or even more, in some cases!!). Beleive me, daycare would be the worst (and usually the most expensive) option!!! Kids just don't get the attention that they need at such an impressionable age. If worse comes to worse, I'm sure your mother-in-law would work just fine, but again - you have to think of your childs' ability to adapt when, say, school starts? Best of luck to you & your child!

Answer 3

Grandparents are wonderful and your child should have their influence and a relationship with them. However, they also need socialization and education, and that's where a good daycare can benefit your child. My suggestion is to consider having Grandma take the kids to playgroups and activities, or if that's not possible, try what a friend of mine did. Three days a week, her daughter went to daycare, and the other two days, she spent with Grandparents. Good luck in making your decision. Above all, do what's right for your children.

Answer 4

Depends on your child's age. Under 2 grandma hands down. Older than that, part time like 3 mornings a week (a little more as they get older) in daycare. Unfortunately kindergarten today is not like it was when we were kids. Children need that interaction with other kids and the knowledge they gain. Kids start kindergarten today where a 1st grader was 20 years ago. Writing, reading, etc...

Answer 5

As long as the daycare is certified & acredited I went with daycare. I wanted my first son to be around other children to learn social skills, etc. because at the time we didn't know if we would have more or could have more (we started at little later than most). I put him in daycare at 6 months. When he was two I quit work to stay home with him myself.
I never regretted it for a moment, even though at the time we lived near my husband's family & mine. But just do your homework. I was lucky to find a lady who cared for infants to 4 year olds only. She was an ex-first grade teacher & she had plenty of room & plenty of help!

Answer 6

You didn't say how old your child is. When they get a little older, I personally think having them in a daycare or preschool a few times a week (even if just for a few hours) is a great way for the child to socialize and get ready for school. Kids need to learn how to interact with other children.

Answer 7

Both benefit the child. With daycare, the child learns lots of things from sharing with others, to helping others, along with things needed for school. Have grandma watch the child when the daycare is closed, for holidays and such, and watch him/her show off everything learned in daycare. Just be sure to check into the daycare, dont just pick one and put your child in it. Make sure they have compedent employees that know what to do in any situation.

Answer 8

That all depends on the grandmother. Is she in good health and able to take good care of the child? If so that sounds like the perfect option, but if she's not it might be too stressful on her and that's not good for the child or the grandmother, so don't feel guilty about putting the child in daycare.

Answer 9

I put in daycare when she was 3 after my mother had watched her all her life. I felt that she would benifit from interaction with other children.
When i told my mother, she forced my grandma to take back her offer of helping pay for it, to try to force me to use her. I also found out she was teaching my child about her religion, which isnt mine and i strongly opposed to, after she swore she wasnt, and would ask my child things like, "who do you love more? me or mommy?"
If ur MIL is normal, and your certain of it, then fine. However, when the child is a little older, they might benifit from being with other kids - if not daycare then perhaps some class might be nice.

Answer 10

is it really fair to ask the grandparents to look after the child all the time;?
they have raised their family & this should now be their time to relax. You would need to have alternative arrangements in place for when grandparents are sick or maybe wish to take a vacation themselves.
Both options have advantages & disadvantages; you need to weigh up both options & go with what is best for you & your family. 3 of my children were in day care full time for about 3 years( didn't have relatives close by) & it was really the best thing we could have done for my son. my youngest child was just 5 weeks old when she went - my oldest child had been looked after by his great-grandmother but this was 30years ago so I have experienced both options
My daughter has her 2 boys ( 3 & 19months) going to day care 3 days a week & looked after by their other grandmother 1 day.(they live 400k's away from me)
if you decided on the daycare option do check out a few in your area to see which one would be best for your children
I personally would not commit to looking after them full time- but would always be on hand to help out. which I have done when visiting them.

Answer 11

It depends on the child's age and how many children you have. I definitely say grandmother. But once your child reaches a certain age, the interaction with other children helps them prepare for school. I have an only child and he stayed with my mother-in-law until he turned 4 and went to preschool. I loved the individual care that my mother-in-law provided, but he has learned so much in the first month of school it's amazing.