To the bottle feeding bashers!!!!!?

Question

This is for the people bashing mothers who dont breast feed, have you people ever thought maybe some women cant? I was told by my doctor not to breast feed my son because my milk was contaminted from problems I had in my pregnancy, what was I suppose to do give him milk that could poisin him? People need to mind there business and let us parent our children the way we do, there our children and not yours!!!!!!

Due to medication I was taking during my pregnancy and aftrewards is why I couldnt breast feed thats what I mean by contamination, I bottle fed and my son is healthy and he has only been in the hospital one time in his life and he is an honor roll student so stop saying breast feed kids have less problems then bottle fed kids!!! Its not true and my son is proof

Answer 1

Why yall all gettin so up in arms about folks you don't even know and will never meet?

Is this your way of venting when you get those sneers in the mall, or have unsolicited advice from your MomNLaw and other folks in the family?

Answer 2

I never realized what an issue breastfeeding was until I had my first son. I was not comfortable with the idea of breastfeeding but decided that I would do it because this was my child and i wanted to do the very best for him. In the hospital I was pushed and pushed to do so. My son had major problems latching on. I was worried sick about him. Endless nurses and breastfeeding counselors kept telling me stick to it he will get the hang of it. Well guess what folks He didn't get the hang of it and wound up being hospitalized for dehydration when he was 3 days old. Oh and yes I was in the hospital the whole time with him!!!! Breast feeding is not always the best answer for everyone. I think this should be a Mother's choice. After having my second child I went straight to bottle feeding due to medication I had to take. The nurses were so rude to me when they found out I was not going to breastfeed. I now have 2 healthy children who are of above average intelligence. So please let Mother's make their own decision concerning this issue.

Answer 3

I don't understand why people try to push their beliefs and opinions on others. I have infant twins and never even had the desire to BF. It wasn't out of convenience, it wasn't out of ignorance and it wasn't out of love for my children....I just didn't want to.
As for the person who said that formula is so bad for infants, why is it still being made? Why is formula so readily available if it is so dangerous and bad for babies? There are so many things in the world that can now cause cancer....first it was smoking, now it's second-hand smoke, then it was cell phones....anything can cause it! I lost two very dear people to cancer and neither one did or were around anything that should have brought it on. It's a horrible disease. Does this mean that we should take everything to heart that we read or hear? My point is that there is a reason behind everything in life and I, personally, take everything with a grain of salt because tomorrow it's going to change.
Trust me, I completely understand the mothers who want to BF their babies and I wholeheartedly agree that breast milk is probably best for babies because it is natural. But please don't be the one to turn around and tell someone who has made the decision, whether their choice or not, to breast feed their child.
To those who make the decision to criticize others for doing the opposite of what they believe, how would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot...or more fittingly, the mouth were on the other nipple?
People, relax and enjoy life. There are so many more pressing and serious issues in our world that cause so much tension than whether a mother decides to breastfeed or bottle feed. As long as the child is getting nutrition and being taken care of, what's the point?

Answer 4

With all of the crap that goes on these days, you would think these people would find something other to persecute than a non-breastfeeding mom. My son is 14. But, I was only 20 when I had him. I had a c-section and my milk didn't come in right away. By that time, he was used to the bottle. The Holier-Than-Thou nurse who was "taking care" of us wouldn't give it a rest. I finally told her I was just going to bottle feed. She got up in a soapbox and berated me for "being selfish". Since then, I have realized and remembered that I am the only person I trust to have my baby's own best interest at heart. In my case, I didn't want to torment a newborn into changing his eating habits, or put any more pressure on myself. I had had enough.
YOU do what's best for your kid. Don't worry about these ladies. They are nuts.

Answer 5

I agree! With my middle son I was not able to breast feed do to meds I was taking after his birth. With my third son I simply chose to breast feed for the first week or so, then switched to the bottle because I felt like it. All three are strong, smart (sometimes too smart for their own good), funny & thriving at 10, 7 & 5!!! None have ever had serious health problems, other than the normals colds, flus, bumps & bruises!!!!
I find breast feeding in public annoying & I think mothers who breast feed past about 8 months old strange. At that point it IS strictly for the mother, the baby is NOT benefitting from the breast milk anymore than it would be from the formula.
As for what L a said, I did not stop nor did I not breast feed because I gave a damn about my boobs I JUST DIDN'T WANT TO!!! That does not make me selfish. As I said I feel the moms who breast feed a kid at a year or more old is ONLY doing it for the "mom"!
As for what Christine S said: BULL!!! My boys were brest fed a short time (except the middle one) & NOT one of the three has EVER had a single ailment you listed. As for the low IQ, that it total crap!!!! All three of my boys are very quick & very bright.

I do know one thing that breast feeding is.... it's CHEAPER!!!!!!
Not necessarily better, but cheaper!!!

P.S. Christine S: my children are NOT baby hamsters & since researchers cannot even cure the common cold, cancer, etc. etc. & the list goes on after YEARS & YEARS & BILLIONS & BILLIONS of dollars & since researchers do NOT know the cause of MOST diseases, they can "LINK" anything they want to whatever disease they want JUST TO GET MORE GRANT MONEY!!!! When these researchers start ACTUALLY finding cures for the thousands of diseases out there, then your arguement might hold water...but right now there are way too many kids out in the world who have never been breast fed & there is nothing wrong with them. And there are kids out there who were breast fed who have every little problem that comes down the pike.

Answer 6

Can I ask you a personal question?

Have you ever been told that bottle feeding your baby is "gross" and you should "go to the bathroom to do THAT?"

Have you ever been told horror stories about how your grandma "tried to bottle feed, but the baby got so sick she was FORCED to breastfeed by the pediatrician?"

Have you ever been told by well-meaning but ignorant "great aunt matilda" types that your 5 month old is getting "too old to do that, you need to wean him now!" about your bottle-feeding?

Have you ever had people leave the playground because they were so shocked you were giving your baby a bottle IN PUBLIC?

I'm guessing no. Until society supports BOTH choices EQUALLY, there will still be a need for people like me who try to kindly and politely point out that if breastfeeding is *possible* then it does have advantages over formula feeding. Who educate the rude "Eww GROSS!" crowd that breastfeeding is not gross, unsanitary, indecent, or "bad" in any way, at any age.

I'm sorry that you feel judged, looked down upon, or mistreated by breastfeeding advocates. Not all of us are rude morons, just like not all bottlefeeders are out there telling us to "do that in the bathroom." Try not to lump everyone together, but take each person as an individual and keep an open mind. That's how I try to be. Do I always meet that goal, no but it's a worthwhile effort, right?

Answer 7

I was able to bf my first child for 4-5 months. I enjoyed the time to bond with her and the cost effectiveness of it. I did not enjoy pumping in the bathroom @ work (code "moo"), nor the hastle of storing and heating the little bit I was able to pump.

With my second, I tried to bf her for two weeks. It just did not happen. How was I supposed to keep my now 4 y.o. out of trouble and bf the baby?? I couldn't chase her with a baby @ my breast! It was too much. We switched to formula and I couldn't be happier. Daddy was able to experience the joy of night feedings while I slept.

Bf is such a personal decision. The formulas of today are so close to the "real" thing and so much more convenient. I just wish i didn't cost so much.

Answer 8

I breastfed my first for 2 months but also supplemented with formula so my husband could also share the bonding. I didn't breastfeed to join the elite club, I did it because I have allergies and asthma and hoped this would give him a better start than me.

My next time around probably won't be able to because I have hypothyroid and taking medication which is released through breast milk.

My mom didn't breastfeed her 3 kids and my sister didn't breastfeed her 2 my sister-in-laws didn't breastfeed all kids are great.

Sometimes I think the formula is better because it is consistent and they are not affected by chocolate, coffee and broccoli!!!

Answer 9

I think its up to you if you breast feed or not, I could careless if some doesnt breast feed. For me i pumped for my son when he was in hospital for seven months until he died. ya I was upset sometimes bec. i leeked through my shirt bec. i couldnt pumped ( i was at work) my husband had bring me a knew shirt. and my breast were engorged. but i was determed to breast feed. but this was my decsion, thats the point. no one has the right to tell you how to raise your child.

Answer 10

Please note that I said *CHOOSE* not to even try to nurse in my response to the other question. Some women try it and it doesn't work out for them. That's understandable. And having a medical reason not to nurse is certainly understandable.

I'd be interested in learning more about the condition you had during pregnancy that made breastfeeding impossible. I've truely never heard of breastmilk being "contaminated" before? Was it a medication you needed to take that caused the problem? Would you care to share in hopes of educating others? I volunteer as a breastfeeding counselor and it's always helpful to learn about this kind of stuff in case it comes up with one of the women that I am asked to help. If you don't want to post it here for all, feel free to email me the name of the condition so I can do my own research. It's always good to learn more!