Come to you home and expect you to follow suit? I asked a series of questions up here to try and get a balanced view of the child-centered way of parenting.
I have a friend who thinks a baby's every whimper must be ran to. I have fully childproofed my home, and I find it senseless to run behind her every sound when she is right in the same room with me. Especially so if I am doing my homework or folding laundry or cooking dinner, or helping my older child with schoolwork.
She picks my baby up when I tell her not to. My daughter rubs her eyes and burrows into my chest when she's tired and wants to sleep. She whines when I lay her down for about 2-3 minutes or less then she's out like a light. My friend thinks my 9 month old needs to be held into sleep. However, my baby will not sleep that way. She'll just get restless and agitated.
What gives her the right to try and dictate what I do with my kids? Then try and guilt me becasue I MAKE time for myself and keeping house?
2006-09-12 08:42:55 · 15 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why...because you are allowing it to happen. Put your foot down.
2006-09-12 08:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she doesn't have children. I am sure you are getting extremely annoyed. Maybe you should show her all the responses here.
It sounds like you have a hold on your household. You seem to pay attention to your baby and have experience from previous children. As mothers we all know that rocking your baby to sleep may be nice once in a while but if you always do it she will not learn to comfort herself and she will grow up with self assurance. Especial with females we have to teach them to think on their own and be self dependant. As long as you are always there when she really needs you...i say RIGHT ON MAMA!
Besides a happy mama makes a happy baby. How good would you be to your children if you were miserable?
2006-09-12 08:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mystie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is nuts and she'll pay for foolish parenting in the years to come when her child is a spoiled brat. You however, are raising an independent well adjusted human being. Do not let her pick up your child when you don't want her to, she is way out of bounds there. You seemed to have grasped the fact that your kids need a parent not a friend and your friend hasn't. Don't let her get away with her crap, because she is wrong.
2006-09-12 09:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every person has there own way of parenting and no one parents way is right, you have to find what works for you and you only, it may not work for anyone else but it gets the job done for you. Just let her know that you do things a little different in your house and that you happy with the way things are and it works so your not in any hurry to change things up.
2006-09-12 08:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lyoness 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of you're question is slightly a straw guy, yet you ask it for honest motives. i assume i ought to be defined as "non secular", yet every person who is conscious me will inform you that I run my very own life, and that i do no longer enable my faith, or something for that remember, run it for me. So no, there is not any longer something sinful in wanting to run your guy or woman life, yet i think of it rather is probable a grave sin to furnish somebody the impact that ought to they settle for Christianity they should enable somebody else be in cost of their life. on the different hand, i've got heard an identical element you have from some people in some arguments right here and there, and that i think of it rather is purely a foul parent of speach. i'm hoping this helps. .
2016-11-07 04:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong and not a better mother.
I wanted to tell you jellybean--I didn't like you yesterday. I normally don't like how you word things. I didn't like your question yesterday. I like you today. I've taken some time to read some of your questions. They make sense to me. I don't agree with some but you make sense. You have great points--but sarcasm doesn't show too well in writing. Maybe take a better approach when writing things. I was wondering if either you could repost or I could rephrase and repost your "Bad Mother" list. I LOVED that one. I know--I have a lot of time. Anyway--let me know.
2006-09-12 09:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every parent has their own way of parenting and it's not right for her to think that her way is the only way. I would not appreciate it if she picked my daughter up even though I said not to. I dont see anything wrong with what you doing and she shouldn't either. Good luck and hope for the best
2006-09-12 10:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different Views on Child raising. that is the reason my friends and I DO NOT tell each other "better ways" of doing things. I don't agree with all my friends and what they do with their Children, BUT guess what? they aren't my kids so i stay out of it. You should set that up with your friends. unless someone asks we don't give our Opinions and it prevents alot of fights.
2006-09-12 09:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just trying to help you get the time you need for yourself by holding your baby for you. I wish I had a friend to do that for me when I need it.
2006-09-12 09:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe (since you dont state whether your friend has kids) she really is just trying to help you, or she loves spending time with your kids, or maybe she needs help dealing with her own things and you could show her how
2006-09-12 08:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by stuffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Madam President you are on the move,you are doing great
2006-09-12 11:15:20 · answer #11 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋