2006-09-12 08:40:53 · 19 answers · asked by shanasterms 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are ready.
2006-09-12 08:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever YOU feel comfortable doing it. In the end, ur feelings are the only one's that are going to count, because they may or may not approve. In the end, you are out to make yourself more comfortable and happy, and even though they are ur family, u cant live ur entire life trying to make them happy, doing what they think you should. If ur ok doing it now, then sit them down and do it now. If u feel u want to wait, then wait. It is all up to u and ur feelings.
2006-09-12 08:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by scorpioangel22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really close to them and they're even half way observant, they probably have a suspicion already. It might be easier to tell them one at a time if it's going to be hard on you to take off some of the pressure. For instance, take your dad out to breakfast, just the two of you, and break it to him first. Then, tell your mom, or vice versa. Or, if you can't bear to face one of them, tell the one you are less nervous about and then ask them to help you break it to the other one. If you have siblings, you don't have to tell them at all if you don't want to, since it's not their business. Or, if you think they'll all be ok with it, except for maybe one person, wait until everyone's together to break it to them at the same time, so that you'll have lots of support around you.
My parents are very liberal, but my mom sometimes surprises me with what she will and won't be ok with. I was scared to death to tell my parents I was getting divorced, because they both liked my ex. I took my dad out to breakfast when I came home for Christmas. I was on the verge of tears when I told him I had some bad news for him, that I was getting a divorce. I thought he was going to be really upset, that I'd let him down. But he just looked at me and laughed and said that that was a personal choice, no one's business but my own, and that it wasn't "bad news." Not happy news, but not bad news, either. He said that bad news would be that I had cancer and my nose was about to fall off, that that actually happened to guy he used to work with. He said he'd tell my mom for me and tell her not to give me a hard time, and he kept his word. I didn't hear another thing about it from anyone the whole time I was home. It was such a relief.
My youngest brother's gay. I think that was hard on my mom because she doesn't understand the idea of being gay, but no one in my family rejects him because of it. It's been my observation that people who are homophobic are so because they're too busy trying to figure out the dynamics of the actual sex act to be able to get past that to the idea that a loving relationship means so much more than sex, regardless of who the participants are. If you don't think they already suspect, it might be better to drop some hints before out and out tell them to limit the amount of shock and make it a less awkward moment.
2006-09-12 09:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a best time but you should tell them. They are your parents and they will love you no matter what. They may seem mad or upset at first but its something that will have to sink in. They will get used to it eventually. If you are OK with it then eventually they will be too. They will accept you for who you are.
2006-09-12 08:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by EMW 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure they have already guessed, as well as everyone else. I was able to guess with most of the kids that went to school with my son YEARS before they came out. I couldn't believe that some people didn't pick up on it.
2006-09-12 08:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kayt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's entirely up to you sweetie. If you feel that you are tired of not being able to be yourself around your family and friends then it is definately time. No one can tell you when or how to do it, it's on you.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-12 09:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully they probably already know it's 2006 nothings really a secret these days. Tell the one person you feel most comfortable with your secret them it will spread like herpe's
2006-09-12 08:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by nealy pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them when everyone is in a good mood. They might already know they could just be waiting for you to come out.
2006-09-12 09:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are telling your family about being gay or bisexual, it really isn't any of their business; but if you are trying to come out of the closet. Tact and there really isn't any good timing. You have to be careful what you say, and approach all things with tact. - I hope this helps
2006-09-12 08:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by sandrawiltzen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you should, the sooner the better. If they don't accept it then you need to move on - your true family are those people who love and accept you as you are, which may not be those related to you by blood
2006-09-12 08:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother. Just let them find out on their own. Usually they have a pretty good idea anyways, they are just waiting for you to say something.
2006-09-12 08:43:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋