have a three year old son he has been living with my parents for last 2 years but they retiered and moved to costa rica few months ago . i live close to my college campus my parents pay for college and books/ rent sometimes still but i live next door to a frat house and live with three guy friends and work. the partys offten make noise and sometimes the party is in my apartment. i dont party with them but my son dylan seems to be finding it hard to adapt.
2006-09-12 08:27:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
how can i tell my guy friends to keep it down or too not party in the apartment.
2006-09-12 08:28:22 · update #1
they are good friend and even babysit sometimes and i cant afford to move!!
my son lives with me know full time.
2006-09-12 08:29:03 · update #2
thank god for campus daycare during the day
2006-09-12 08:29:24 · update #3
my parents wont give me anymore money they think its my problem
2006-09-12 08:32:24 · update #4
i do not part my roomates do
2006-09-12 08:44:56 · update #5
Well, I don't know how to judge that situation, but I personally wouldn't party in front of my child.
2006-09-12 08:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok as a mom of 3 I think what you are doing is totally wrong... You need to realize that your child comes before parties friends and even boyfriends. And It is not your parents responsibility to take care of your child for you or even you. Now you said you worked well use some of that money to get a small apt. or something so you can get your baby away from parties BAD things could happen in situations like that. I feel for you and I hope you do that right thing.
2006-09-12 08:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the partying and become the responsible parent. You have to put your son first. If he sees all the partying as he grows up that is what he will do. Kids learn by example. Set a good one for him.
2006-09-12 08:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably misses your parents, he was with them for the last two years. Make sure he has a picture of them to look at, and keep in contact with them, so that he knows they didn't abandon him. You need to cool it with the parties. Noise and drinking, etc. is not good for him to be around that often. If your room-mates insist, then you might want to think about getting a different place. There may be financial assistance available now that you have your child with you. You might want to check on it.
2006-09-12 08:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your setting a horrible exaple! shame on u! j/k
well take ur son out to dinner or to the park or somewhere so that he doesn't see the stuff they do at partying. it's not really good for him to see what happens there. Plus you shouldn't let him go to partying. now that he's seen a little of it he might wanna go when he's a little older say 15 or something. talk to him when he's 7 or 8 and tell him that it's wrong or something like that!!! was i any help? i have a daughter. She;s now 5. it was really hard for both of us starting out but it'll get better i promise. i'm 24 and not married. but we have eachother and that's all that really matters. if u have anymore questions my e-mail address is totally_sarah@hotmail.com
2006-09-12 08:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by sara b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not setting a bad example you are a bad example. Your parents have been raising your child while you get money from them, go to school and party. Time to grow up a face your responsibilities before you have another Baby Daddy. Kids need good and healthy environments...not a bunch of party people.
2006-09-12 08:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by voandginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are setting a terrible example. I can't believe you had to ask this question twice. That boy deserves a real childhood, not a frat party. He's three years old. I hope that you don't leave drugs & alcohol out for him to get into.
2006-09-12 08:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move and you need to grow up. You may be young but when you have a child you have no choice. If you've been in college for two years and your parents have been paying for it and your parents had your kid you should have been able to save up and get your own place. You need to get a job, get out of where you are and put your child first.
2006-09-12 08:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I read your other post. I really think you should put your child into a loving stable home. God bless this child. See I cant have kids and the one I do have was adopted. I would love to have another child. It just breaks my heart for your son. I really hope that you could gow a back bone and tell them, YOU DO NOT WANT THAT CRAP around your son.
2006-09-12 09:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is a bad example!!! you are a single mom in college...you dont HAVE to live next to a frat house or with 2 guys...you are just the kind of person i WANT to see on govt. assistance!!!! you deserve it...afterall you are in college trying to better yourself...go apply for housing assistance so you can move into a home you can afford thats for just you and your son...while you are in college you may also qualify for food stamps and day care assistance for your son...you are what these programs are designed for!!! they arent for the ones abusing them by sitting at home being baby making machines....tax dollars for welfare are for people like you...not the bums who sneak here ileagally and make babies and live off my tax money for years on end and dont try to better themselves....i am VERY proud of you...just move your son out of this environment....and do it ASAP...good luck
2006-09-12 08:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you more worried about your friends than you child? You already know the answer. You just asked hoping some one would make you feel better when you know your son should come first.
2006-09-12 08:36:11 · answer #11 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋