...women who have a lot of these traits, so that I can cut them loose earlier?
I'm thinking of doing some dating again after a breakup.
I believe it is a rare woman that doesn't manifest the things below at least some of the time. What kinds of women manifest them the least? What kinds of women manifest them the most?
-Passive-aggressiveness
-Unfair "scorekeeping"
-Primarily using indirect communication
-Having strongly-held (but mislead) feminist views
-Getting mad because I didn't answer my cell phone while at work, and things like that.
2006-09-12 08:16:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you're carrying a lot of baggage and not really ready for another relationship.
Give yourself some space and when you're ready, you will find someone you like that isn't like your ex.
2006-09-12 08:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by ingy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where have you been looking?
Good women are everywhere and most real woman are looking for a good man so just be patient, know that women who are outwardly very superficial will generally have the majority of the traits that you want to avoid so try to find someone who has substance behind all the glamour. Personally, I like clothes and shoes and bags and all the other stuff but there is so much more to me than that, I can have a serious conversation on just about anything. Try talking to people when you meet them and you will soon tell who is serious and who has substance, don't settle for anything less than the best, good luck.
2006-09-12 15:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by DivaByNature,B*tchByChoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, there are no shortcuts to determining a woman's personality. The only advise I can give you is to be totally honest from the very beginning and let it be known you will not tolerate anything less in return. At the FIRST sign of anything you do not want to tolerate, speak up! If it continues, leave. In general, I have found you are more likely to find your list of undesirable traits in younger women. Most (not all, alas) older women have discarded these immature behaviors and have a more up-front approach.
2006-09-12 15:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooohhhh, good luck with the third on your list! Why can't my husband work out thingsI hint at? WHY do I have to tell him exactly, no fun!
Mind you, I wouldn't say I used it "primarily", but yeah, sometimes, it would be nice to have the signals picked up on. As for the others though, I think I have to plead not guilty.
I think it's a wquestion of finding someone you're in sync with, because even though we all have our idiosyncratic character traits, some people bring out the best and others the worst.
If you over analyse everything, you might miss out on a good relationship.
Good luck in your return to the dating scene. Have fun
2006-09-12 15:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by friendlyshoulder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have certain things you don't like, test a girl right away when you first meet her. Don't answer your cell..see how she reacts...give her something to keep score about and see if she does...talk about feminist views...things like that. Test her and if she passes, then go from there. But remember, women are moody, and tend to change their minds...I know..lol. So be careful...you may think it's a feminist view, but she may not agree. Good luck.
2006-09-12 15:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to find a lot of women that don't posess most of these traits. It sounds like maybe the women you're dating are younger - maybe change that.
there's no magic spot to meet people at, you have to get to know people before getting serious and make these determinations at that time. Most people don't know really what they want/don't want in a relationship so you're one step ahead!
good luck!
2006-09-12 15:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, no one is perfect. Women have their flaws, men have their flaws...that's the way it will always go. If you find a girl who doesn't do any of the things you listed, she will just do other things that eventually you will post on yahoo answers. If you don't want to put up with imperfection, I suggest either indecent magazines, or women with indecent professions.
2006-09-12 15:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by alliekittie18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone puts up a "front" if you will at the beginning. you just have to use your best judgement and cut them loose when you start seeing flaws!!
2006-09-12 15:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt work like that, there are not types of woman that act a certain way, you wont really be able to tell until its too late
2006-09-12 15:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know how to answer this. but i kno i find it very unfair to get mad at so lil things. i guess u'll just have to date and see wat u come up with. sorry i couldn't b much help.
2006-09-12 15:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kate L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋