Our son is 2 and 1/2 and absolutely refusing to try the potty. Some people say don't push it, others say drag him to the potty 1,000 times a day. I do a little of both. I ask him many times a day if he needs to potty...the answer is always a very resiliant "NOOO!" So we go to the bathroom anyway, go through the routine, no interest. I have tried bringing the chair into the playroom, offering rewards and continual support "I know you can do it!"
Any advice out there for me? Thanks a million!
2006-09-12 08:12:17 · 10 answers · asked by janezanaddict 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Wow! Sounds like you have my son! We went thru the same things - almost to a "T" ....
My son just one day - 2 wks or so after his 3rd birthday, decided to use the potty for #2 (he'd been peein' in the potty for a few weeks - although, not exclusively!) He very authoritatively got up from his activity and said "I haffa poop" ... and away he went!
My husbad was very concerned and would get very upset when he wouldn't use the bathroom. When I finally convinced him that getting mad at a 2 yr old isn't going to do anybody any good, and he relaxed, he was very amazed that what I had been telling him for months was true: One day he's just going to get up and do it and that will be that! Well - that's exactly what happened. He was so proud of himself he called us into the bathroom with, "Hey everybody - come and see my monster poopie!" ... Of course, we made a huge deal out of it and still do! Praise is the best encouragement! :)
We never used a potty chair - a stool in front of the toilet for peeing, and a seat with handles on it to place right on the toilet for him to poop. (little hiney's have a tendancy to hit the water!)
Good luck to you!
2006-09-12 08:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by Toots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things that helped me:
Use cloth underpants. Pull ups are worse than useless. Cloth pants help the child make the connection between peeing=feeling wet!
Stop asking him "Do you need to go potty?" He is 2, of COURSE the answer is going to be NOOOOOO! It's so much fun to say! Tell him: It's time to go potty. Do you want to use the little potty or the big potty? (Or the upstairs potty, or whatever options you have there)
Try watching the "Once upon a Potty" video. My son loved watching that. It really helped him get the concept.
Don't yell at him or "shame" him over accidents. He's been used to using his clothes as a toilet since birth, it's not reasonable to expect him to do a 180 on what he's known his whole life without any struggle at all! Be patient and consistent, and he will get it.
Take him potty as soon as he wakes up if possible, because they usually wake up needing to pee a lot. Going in the potty at those times can be a stepping stone to future success!
2006-09-12 15:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesn't want to go. Then what can I do to make you go to the potty. Try to reason with him and make him feel like a grown-up. If he is still being stubborn say well okay but we are all out of diapers so I guess you'll have to use the potty sometime. Reward him if he does. If he doesn't be patient. My friends son didn't get potty-trained untill he was 4!! good luck!
2006-09-12 19:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the matter or it will never happen. If you try, use the reward system.
My daughter got interested in the potty from seeing other kids her age starting to use the potty at daycare. I decided to take a week off of work a few months before she turned 3. I went to the Dollar store and bought about $10 worth of prizes, wrapped them up in tissue paper and placed them in a basket high up in the closet. I showed them to her and explained to her about how to get one. I told her if she used the potty, she'd get to pick a prize out of the basket. We also used a sticker chart (with small chores: Brushing teeth AM and PM, using the potty, help set/clear the table, clean up toys). These tactics really motivated her to use the potty. It took me 3 days to get her trained, but still wearing pull ups at night time.
2006-09-12 15:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not punish your child for not wanting to use the restroom or accidents. Keep trying and he will get it. As my pediatrician said "no child ever went to the 1st grade in diapers." It took my son 2 months to be consistent with the potty. He is now 28 months and fully trained. Like most things with two year olds, being consistent is the key.
2006-09-12 15:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by lcabsu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a fun game. Toss a floaty ring in the toilet and have him aim for the center of it. Make sure the floaty ring (swim section at dollar store) is too big to flush down the toilet.
2006-09-12 15:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think youre doing the best you can. all kids are stuber hell get it soon enough. maybe temp him with something he really likes. or tell him he wont get something if he cant do it. tell him hes a big boy now. big boys know how to potty. or something around that good lcuk
2006-09-12 15:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney8707 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get the book that is called "Once upon a potty" the boy version. that's what my mom used on me(the girl version) and on my brother(the boy version).
2006-09-12 15:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Tori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time he will eventually go and you wont even have to say one word
2006-09-12 18:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put a cheerio in the pot and tell him to pee on it.this worked for me
2006-09-12 15:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by kissie623 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋