I have no idea what to do. We were both drunk. I'm so upset about it. It's my fault.
2006-09-12 08:11:31 · 17 answers · asked by Ally C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a kiss? Would you want to know if your boyfriend had simply kissed another girl while they were both drunk - assuming that it would absolutely never ever happen again?
Now, if this was more of a heavy make-out session, you do need to come clean. If your boyfriend finds out some other way, he'll never believe it was innocent if you keep it from him.
2006-09-12 08:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Robby216 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you shouldn't tell unless if you have plans on seeing this individual again. Being drunk is not an excuse and I don't buy it. I do understand that you are a faithful woman to your soon to be husband. However, you have to be careful when you are getting drunk and who you are going to socialize with. It is your fault...in order for him to kiss you, he must have had been moving closer and closer to you...if you are engaged woman then men have to respect your space. However you allowed him into your space...so that is why I believe it is your fault. And frankly, I am glad that your upset by this because you allowed this to happen. Don't get too drunk then, if you cannot control yourself.
2006-09-12 15:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my boyfriend no matter what. If he loves you and cares about you, then he would never leave you. You could explain that this guy was drunk and out of no where kissed you, you had no control over it. Now, if you were the one that kissed him, I could see your boyfriend being more upset, because you initiated the kiss, but its not your fault if another guy kissed you. He should understand, I promise.
2006-09-12 15:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not tell.
However, ask yourself if you were engaged why were you drunk with another guy? This tells me you do not want to be tied down to one person and you should seriously question whether you want to continue the engagement.
Telling will do nothing but harm your relationship.
2006-09-12 15:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to start off your marriage with a foundation of lies? Ask yourself, "Would I want my fiance to be open and honest with me?"
If he loves you, he'll forgive you and accept you. Give him a chance to prove his love is not as shallow as you might think. BTW, his understanding will only serve to strengthen the love between the two of you.
A strong marriage is an intimate relationship. This means you can share the good and the bad and have the security of knowing that you'll be accepted. If you can only share the good things that happen, your relationship is a shallow one.
2006-09-12 15:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny Zero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell. Explain the whole situation. Tell him how sorry you are etc... cause what if he finds out after you are married. He might get pretty mad, and he probably wont trust you even if it was just a little kiss. The more you hide things, the worse off they seem.. But this is just my opinion.
2006-09-12 15:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!
you did not cheat, you are not owned<== or married
you are free to do as you please. Heck I've kissed many.
Why does this bother you, are you second gessing the person that you are with(good), you need to know that this person is right for you, so you kissed someone, no harm. If you were my GF, I wouldn't care. If you liked that others person, good for me(us), that just means that we were not right for each other
2006-09-12 15:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Don't tell. If it was truly something that's never happened before and you don't plan on having it happen again then i don't see why you'd hurt your fiance' by telling him. Sure, it would ease your guilt, but it would just make him upset. Live with what happened and learn from your mistakes.
2006-09-12 15:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by sommerluvn77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO! Absolutely NOT! He will hold it over your head forever and ever and ever like a jagged dagger waiting to fall. If it was only a kiss, let it go. Don't do it again, chalk it up to experience.
2006-09-12 15:15:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy not even married and whoring around. You must have kissed back. I wouldn't say anything unless you are having thoughts of doing it again
2006-09-12 15:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by daanzig 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋