I'm 25 and up till a couple months ago I was a virgin. My current girlfriend helped me with that problem. Now, sometimes I have problems maintaining an erection, other times, I can go 30 min, piece of cake. I just can't seem to orgasm with her. She keeps telling me I'm thinking about it too much, but how do I not? I think I'm still a little intimidated by it all. What do you think? Is this normal, or do I have E.D.? Please respond with any feedback. Thank you in advance.
2006-09-12 08:02:55 · 16 answers · asked by johhnyB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do more foreplay
2006-09-12 08:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by madchiman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend had this problem for years, way before we met. He was a virgin into his 20's also. Infact the first two years he was sexually active he never ejaculated from intercourse. I was very hurt by it and thought there was something wrong with me, maybe he was gay ... everything under the moon. I am assuming that while you have mantained your virginity(which is awesome!) you probably pleasured yourself. No vaginal muscle can grip you as tight as your hand. I did some research on this. I can not think of the medical terminology but the slang is "retarded ejaculation/ejauculator" Once I figured out the problem we worked on it, as the sites gave types. We have been together almost 4 years, about 75% of the time he can know ejaculate without any hand contact. There are still times when he can't no matter what. That just guarantees I will get loving the next day too.
Good luck, this can be worked with, and you are not the only one out there. Please realize as much as women can enjoy sex without orgasm so can men.
2006-09-12 08:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Faith M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a similar situation. I have pinpointed it to having sex to quick......i hit upon that having slow, sensual sex just about continually does the trick. If that does no longer paintings, attempt yet another sexual position. make confident you locate one which you both like, and then pass for it, also, in case you nonetheless have the concern, i'd merely say, keep going, because in case you pass for that lengthy, you recognize your lady is orgasming, so, keep up the strong paintings. also, merely be confident you've a sparkling recommendations, I have got here across that the missionary position enables to desirable the concern in that you'll seem into your lady's eyes and be completely concentrated on her.....i desire my suggestion is sensible.
2016-10-16 00:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by duperne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should check with your doctor as soon as possible...will all due respect... Have you ever thought of having sex with guys, Unless you have a problem I don;t see why you can't have a full erection with a woman...maybe you are thinking of something else, and is nothing wrong with that. Please don't take this as if I was making fun of you...there is something wrong and you should find out what it is. Remember you can satisfy a woman by turning her on instead bum bum and go to sleep, play with her, learn that women are different than men...men want to do it and go to sleep, women on the other hand, want you to kiss head to toe and, take your time I mean...take your time.
is nothing better than having healthy safe and tender/rough 45 to an hour sex. Don't just have sex buddy, make love to whoever you shares your bed/car/sofa with...
Good lick, meant luck!! ;)
2006-09-12 08:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by John R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have Erectile Dysfunction. You just need to stop thinking about it, she is right. It is mental. Most problems with male sexuality is in their heads. You are expecting too much of yourself, or you are intimidated or nervous. It is perfectly normal and you dont need to be alarmed. In fact, you need to not think about it at all. Stop thinking that you can't do it and start getting more into what she is doing to you. When you are having sex you should not be thinking about how you need to climax, you should be thinking about how you are going to get her to climax, which should make you climax.
2006-09-12 08:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first began having sex it was hard for me to get off.
i think it was more because i was nervous, thinking about it too much and hoping that i wasn't a disappointment. after a time or two though i got the swing of things and now it comes simply and quick everytime!
just give it a while, you'll get more used to whats going on and you'll start to have more fun with it.
2006-09-12 08:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Skullface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try different positions and lay off playing with your schmeckie for a while. See if that helps. If you are unable to climax when you are by yourself, you should go see a doctor because there may be a physiological problem.
2006-09-12 08:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just your nerves mainly because you are new at this and you started really late in the game. Therefore just relax and take your time and really get the feel of things. Eventually you will be a pro just keep at it.
2006-09-12 08:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Performance anxiety,read about ways to fix the problem,you'll be fine quit stressin.
2006-09-12 08:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too anxious.
If you focus on it too much, you ruin the effect - just enjoy the experience and don't worry about the outcome. Then you'll see that things improve.
2006-09-12 08:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's right. It's not something you can think about. You just have to "go out of your mind" and let your body enjoy the sensations.
2006-09-12 08:06:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋