This new guy ive been seeing isnt satisfying me but he thinks he is, i thought i could just show him what i like but hes arrogant and doesnt want to take my suggestions as to what makes me feel good. ive been faking it but even when i stopped faking it, he doesnt seem to notice that im not as into it as he is. He wont even let me get on top. Is there anyway to tell him without hurting his feelings? or should i just stop seeing him
2006-09-12 07:59:06 · 19 answers · asked by SHE HATE ME 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hurt that fool's feelings. thats the only way to defeat arrogance
2006-09-12 08:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by madchiman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not doing it for u then the 1st step is to try rectify that thru honest talking, however if as u state in the question he isnt willing to take onboard ur suggestions or feelings then it begs the question how will he respond when u want to provide ur opinion on something out of the bedroom ? I think the best bet is to use this situation to your advantage, see it as a sign and let him down gently. But let him know that u cant go on with someone that cant or wont take ur feelings or input into consideration A relationship is a team effort and cant be upheld just by one party. There must be pleasure, effort and sacrifice on both parts. Good luck to ya :)
2006-09-12 15:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Phantom Viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady if you cant tell him what turns you on then your relationship is already doomed. If you consider him arrogant this wont work. If you like him despite the arrogance then you should tell him what you like and urge him to make you have a real orgasm and let it be a no holds barred orgasm. Scream yell moan groan grab pull and do whatever it takes to let him know he's touched the right buttons.
If he sees that kind of a reaction.......it would probably feed his arrogance and make him want to do it again and again......this way you can have your cake and eat it too...
You can also try being coy and say "this time you just lie down and lets me treat you to something special......get on top of him and you know what to do next......"
2006-09-12 15:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, the chances of females ever getting something outta sex are slim to none because all it does is hurt them and they get emotionally attached to the guy. so you'll either have to tell him about it or just ignore it until you get fed up with it and reach a point of breaking his neck or smothering him in his sleep. just kidding, but really... don't put too much into the sex if you really care about him. if all else fails try to do different positions or secretly coach him by saying that certain things hurt or feel good. good luck!
2006-09-12 15:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by demonswt88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm… I just feel that a person like that should have his feeling hurt a bit now and then… so that he will get some feedback… and perhaps loosen up a bit for the future
2006-09-12 15:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by anutynut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best sex is mutually satisfying, when both people care about pleasing their partner and not just themselves. He's not in it for you, he's in it for himself. I'd suggest telling him some things you'd like to try, or guiding him with your hands. If he resists this, then maybe you need someone who's not so selfish.
2006-09-12 15:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lot of things- one- he doesn't seem to be very compassionate about your feelings and how you want to be treated. Second- seems like he isn't that into you- enough to give you what you want- your suggestions. Good for you- for telling him what you want! Bad for him.... he's gotta go! Go find someone who will take your suggestions and work with them. This guy sounds like a dud.
Good luck!
2006-09-12 15:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is silly for not listening to you. If you have tried to be nice about it, try dominating him. SHOW him how you like to be touched by touching him that way.
If these things don't work, then go ahead and hurt his feelings, and just say it bluntly. That may be the only way to make him listen.
2006-09-12 15:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by alliekittie18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't really sound like he cares about pleasing you. He is it in for himself. HE SUCKS lol.. If you really like him otherwise, I would just sit him down and tell him, listen I am not sure if this is going to work out because... (what ever it is you want to tell him). If he says he will change, try him out. If not, then you can say you warned him and find somebody who is all about pleasing you as much as themselves. good luck.
2006-09-12 15:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit him down and tell him that your not trying to make him feel bad but this is how your feeling and that if he won't take your suggestions then tell him you can't see him anymore.
2006-09-12 15:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Lu-Lu - hopelessly romantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋