I am living with my wonderful boyfriend who I hope to settle down with one day. I have been friends with this other guy for a few years, but we have spent a little bit of time together recently. I get really excited when he texts me and when I am going to see him. I am pretty sure I wouldn't leave my boyfriend for him and know I wouldn't be unfaithful. I am unsure about my feelings toward my friend so is it wrong to keep seeing him by myself and texting him? especially when it feels so exciting. I also don't know how he feels about me, but wish I did!
2006-09-12 07:47:57 · 15 answers · asked by Oldfruit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're more caught up in the excitement of having a guy express interest in you - being in a long term relationship can get a bit tedious and boring. If you truely love your boyfriend I would recommend that you stop - or at least drastically reduce your contact with the other guy and concentrate on bringing romance and spontanuity back into your relationship - maybe go away for a few days and reignite the spark with your boyfriend - if after trying this you still feel drawn towards the other guy, maybe you and your boyfriend arent really as happy as you think and it maybe best to break up
2006-09-12 21:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, if you are having those feelings, that excitement, you feel something more for him than friends. If you didn't you would not even be thinking about it.
It could also be the fact that you are doing something that you really should not be doing. If your bf found out that you were hanging out and texting with this guy would he get mad? Probably, and the feeling of you being sneaky is probably another thing that is getting you excited.
If you are only pretty sure about your BF, it doesn't sound so convincing. If you love somebody and want to be with somebody you know you do, you dont think you do.
2006-09-12 07:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are getting excited about texts etc from your friend then there is something wrong with the relationship you are in. Maybe you need to forget this friend and concentrate on your boyfriend and getting the spark back. IF you are really unsure about your boyfriend and whether you want to be with him I think you need to realise that he is not the one for you. Maybe you need some time to find yourself./ What ever you do if you do break up with your bf dont jump headlong into something with this other guy. Give yourself some time.
2006-09-12 07:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all unless youare around 26 or so i can't see why you are thinking of getting married. You should be doing what you are trying to do.. go out with as many different guys as possible - try them all on.. see who fits and who doesn't. I can't imagine being tied to one person right now... maybe in a few more years.. I still have a lot to learn about what i like and don't and what i bring to a relationship and what I don't... etc.
So.... break up , move out... get out on your own -support yourself and just have fun!
2006-09-12 07:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're not quite ready to settle down yet. The clincher is that you wish you knew how the other guy felt about you. If you were truly in love with your b/f and were ready to settle down with him now, another man's feelings wouldn't matter.
2006-09-12 07:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to sit down on your own and think about what your partner means to you how youd feel without him, make a list if it helps, do the same with this friend search your feelings about what you actually feel, just dont be unfaithful neither party deserves that treatment, just decide if this guy is a friend or if you want more and decide if your partner still means alot to you? difficult but it must be done
2006-09-12 07:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by sadie 69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i think ur rushing ,,, the rush of excitement feeling usually means you're atracted to him and have a strong liking for him ,,, you must think about it deply at the end of the day is your boyfriend the person you would want to be with in the next 20yrs or so . just go with the flow for a few weeks and see who you're much atracted to and happy with only time will tell ?
2006-09-12 07:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy10 S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not married! Your boyfriends not going to marry you. Remember your only boyfriend and girlfriend. You can do what ever you want, in fact I recommend you go do the other guy, you want to.
Just text him now. Say "I want to do you".
Then write us all back and tell us what happened in detail.
2006-09-12 08:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dodgy
you have to think about the future and how it would be with your boyfriend
then think of how it would affect your entire life and your boyfriend if you got with this other friend.
is it going to be worth all the caios it'll create?
do you really love the guy you are with now?
you have to seriously think about this
and of course follow your heart!
2006-09-12 07:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must of felt that way toward your boyfriend when you first met him.leave the other guy alone,it will end in bits,bet your boyfriend is a lovely guy,stick with him, you wont be diappointed
2006-09-12 07:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by sam tyler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋