I'm saving myself for marriage but it's hard being around friends who've done it. It's like they think there's something wrong with you. It's not that I haven't had a chance to do it, I just chose not to. Sometimes I feel like a weirdo.
2006-09-12 07:44:36 · 30 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have courage and stand up for what you believe in!! Never let anyone influence the decision you've made for yourself... don't let the haters try to convince you otherwise, as they wish they still had their virginity and the others are trying to help you lose it.
2006-09-12 07:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can see where you would feel weird because not many people wait for marriage to have sex! I think that it is awesome that you are doing that and don't let anyone tell you different. When I was young all my friends had done it and I hadn't. I felt like I didn't fit in, like everyone was laughing at me. Finally almost 17 years old, I did it. Then at 17 I ended up pregnant! Gosh if I could go back! I love my daughter don't get me wrong. But I was not mature enough to be a parent at that age. In my eyes you should be ready to handle the things that come along with sex and at a young age many can't. You should be proud of what you are doing! It is very admiral! When you get married, imagine how your husband will feel knowing he is your first! Don't let other people tell you what to do. Sounds like you got a good head on your shoulders! Follow your heart and you'll be ok!
2006-09-12 14:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that kinda goes with the territory. But why are you letting others define your worth? People will try to make you feel like a loser because either they don't understand or they feel guilty. I know girls who said they were going to wait and didn't. then when I mention I am still a virgin (usually because they ask), they get mean. There are so many great reasons to wait. And you aren't the only one waiting. I am 22 and a virgin and I am waiting until I get married to have sex (i have chances to do it, but I choose not too also). That means that a lot of people look down on me, but you know what? It also means there are a lot of people who respect me. Problem is that we don't see the people who respect us as easily as we see the ones who don't. I think about my little sister and all the younger girls I know that I am setting an example for. Now that is worth feeling like a loser every so often.
2006-09-12 14:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kansas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing wrong with you!! Be very proud of yourself and so will the gentleman that is worthy enough to earn your hand in marriage. You DO NOT need to have sexual experience. It will be automatic when the right person enters your life. I would also suggest that you get pre-marriage counseling as it will be very beneficial for both of you. The more you know and understand each other, the closer you will be. Congratulations on your self respect. Most of the people that you fell weird being around because they have "done it:" would probably tell you in private that they wish they had waited. Good luck to ya!!!! GaryT
2006-09-12 14:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by gary t 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel that way . A lot of people choose to stay a virgin until marriage . There's nothing wrong with that in fact you should be proud of it regardless of what your friends might say . You're making the right choice for you and that's all that matters . Be happy with who you are not what you have or have not done . Hope this helps :)
2006-09-12 14:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by *Mz Ciska* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a mistake, and this is why you feel like a loser.
If you are in a relationship and you WANT to have sex, then nothing should hold you back. If you want to have an enjoyable sex life, then you need to get some practice and learn what you like.
The only reason this whole wait until marriage idea came about was because sexist men wanted virgin women they could have sex with. They didn't want to worry about STDs or worry about being compared to other men in size and ability. But back in those days they also didn't care at all if the women enjoyed the sex. They were just supposed to lie back and take it. They didn't care if the women had fun at all.
Now we live in a far more equal society, but still this kind of repression of women exists, because of sexism and religion. They guilt women into this kind of behavior and it is not a good thing for anyone.
People enter marriage with no clue about sexual compatibility, and then find out to their horror that the wedding night was horrible, they are sexually incompatible with their partner, and CRAP they have just married them!!!
This is no way to start a marriage. Learn about sex, learn what you like. When you meet Mr. Right you will know if he really is Mr. Right in all aspects of life. Live with him for a while just to make sure, then get married. I think this is the smart thing to do.
2006-09-12 14:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Young lady I take my hat off to you. There is nothing wrong with being a virgen its nothing to be ashamed of. And if you feel like your peers are trying to give you a hard time about be strong and firm and looking them straight in the eyes tell them to keep their opinions to themselves and to change the subject. REAL FRIENDs do not pressure friends into doing something that they do not want to do and should respect you wishes. Im a man and I married a virgen and im proud of that. Its funny how most men want to have sex with whom ever as long as they can get it and how the majority of those men prefer to marry a virgen when the time comes. Stick to your guns dont let anyone change your mind for you.
2006-09-12 14:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will feel like a weirdo now around your friends but when you are "grown" and you followed through with your heart and your beliefs you will not be a weirdo, just get through this and don't worry so much what people think,
proud of ya, didn't think there were many like you
take care
2006-09-12 14:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by momma whitley 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin is the right thing if you're not married. God wants us to remain pure the the special person that He brings into our lives. Sex is made into a much bigger deal than it actually is. You're not missing out on anything that you wont be able to enjoy later anyway. Stay strong and don't worry about what others are doing. +
2006-09-12 14:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Joshua J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi there look just because u are a virgin doesnt mean that u are weird, i think that u are special tell me how many girls are virgins almost 1% so u should b proud i am proud of u and b careful because if ur friends keep on saying things to u , u just mite want to do it just to pleasure them but remeber u are something special ,god loves u trust me i wish i would of save my self but its hard 4 a guy 2 lol
2006-09-12 14:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Peaches& Cream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at your answer list.Compare between the posetive and negetive answers.how many has justified as the favour to being virgin till marry?
Just observe there are all (who justified with posetive) has told you that its really a proudy thing, repectable thing.
You will feel the happiest and enoyable one at the first time with the best one you will choose.
Best of Luck
2006-09-12 14:53:48 · answer #11 · answered by Russel Mehedi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋