Do you go out of your way to make things run smoothly? Do you avoid confrontation? Do you put others needs before your own even when they don't deserve it? Do people run to you everytime they need something because you can never say no?
2006-09-12 07:38:08 · 11 answers · asked by WonderTwit 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes to all of the above.
People peaser, 24/7, that's me.
That would be why I work 11 hrs a day, 6 days a week @ like $6 an hour. I would rather just make people happy than argue and have them get mad at me. Then I feel like I need to fix it so why say no at all and avoid the trouble. Anyway, it's something I need to work on, but that is easier said than done!
2006-09-12 07:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kansas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People run to me with problems because they know that I am dependable, not because I am easy to pursuade because that is definately not the case. I will go out of my way to do favors for friends if I think that friend really needs that favor. If they ask me to drive two towns over for a certain ice cream, no, I wouldn't even do that for myself. I don't avoid confrontation, in fact, I think that sometimes people need to be confronted. I dont deal with people that I don't like and I don't have a problem telling people that I don't like them. All in all I guess I would be concidered mean to the people that I dont like and the best friend you could ever have by people that I do like.
2006-09-12 14:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Natty137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Used to big time and sometimes I still do. I did so many things for my friends and not that I ever expected to get things in return but a thank you would have been nice and never even got that. I was afraid that if I couldn't or didnt want to do something for someone that they would be mad at me and it made me feel good to please someone else and I would sit back and get so upset at myself for doing things for everyone. Then one day i sat back and realized the the friendship i was having with my so called best friend was very one sided. I would always give her a call to find out how she is and she would never call me to find out how i was. When i left my husband she said that she would be there for me and ended up she wasn't. 4 months after i left my husband i decided to stop calling my best friend to see how long it would take her to call me. it took her 4 months to call me and the only reason i got a call from her was because her 9 month old was playing with her phone and dialed the fast number to my phone. after that call nothing again for 2 months until she needed a babysitter and then stupidly i said ok. but we are not friends at all anymore and now it really doesn't bother me but it hurt for a long time knowing that i would go out of my way for people and they were only there to take advantage of the situation and never be there for me. Right now I don't have any friends at all it is just me and my two kids trying to make it on our own. OH well. They are all i need right now and the only ones I need to go out of my way for.
2006-09-12 14:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will i do most of them avoid confrontation is number 1 and 2 others need before my own and most of the time people come to me to answer there question..
2006-09-12 14:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be like that. I was raised that way. To do for everyone first then myself. It took someone to point out to me that i was being a dumbass and really putting myself down. After I saw the rainbow I changed I only do for people that I know will return for me when i'm in need. And that is very few. My happiness comes first.
2006-09-12 14:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am a people pleaser
2006-09-12 14:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, try not to, a lot of times, a few people out there, but i've become stronger that I can say no to people i've known since i now know their motives.
2006-09-12 14:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I try to be thoughtful. But in the end, I could care less. I could only say I tried and that's it.
2006-09-12 14:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by xxGlamROCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
yes sometimes.
yes and
yes.
2006-09-12 14:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by love me like me hate me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, im lame like that. lol
2006-09-12 14:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by ezzaphill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋