i think my boyfriend's cheating on me and i need to find out for sure,any ideas on how?

Answer 1

I have the perfect way. All you gotta do is get another e-mail or something, pretending to be some other girl, then e-mail him asking if he's got a girlfriend, and you can take it from there!

Answer 2

Let me just clear something up...if your man is having an affair and you ask him out right, HE WILL LIE! So expect the answer to be "no" no matter when its the truth or not.

But! You can use this to your advantage. Body language is everything. Wait until he's really comfortable. Wait until he's doing something really menial and would least expect such a question and then just drop it in out of the blue.

As soon as you know that you're about to ask, watch his body language. You'll see him in a comfortable state so you will know whether the reaction is genuine shock and disgust (because if he's not having an affair, you can guarantee thats what it will be) or whether its fake. A laugh can be either, as can anger, but his eyes and his voice will give it away. If he looks up, he's lying, if his voice goes nervously shakey, he's lying. If he refuses to look at you, he's lying...this is usually the biggest giveaway, if you've caught him by surprise and he doesn't have time to prepare the lie, he won't look at you.

Your natural instincts should tell you from his reaction. But remember, there can always be an innocent explanation for everything, so even though some of the ladies here would like you to burn him right now - he may not actually be cheating on you. Trust your instinct...and good luck!

Answer 3

Listen for inconsistencies in his stories. If he tells you something, remember EVERY detail, write it down if you have too. The next day ask a question about that story that you already have one of his responses to, and see if he gives you the same answer. Do this with everything he tells you that makes you suspicious. It may take some time to get enough "evidence" to be able to confront him about his stories changing. But if he is cheating on you he will slip up sometime. But, make sure you don't lead on that you are suspicious. If you sound like you're catching on he will be more careful.

Answer 4

I have to agree with the one that said hire a PI. I am a Private Investigator and I have seen this more then once. I have been the decoy to a so-called cheating husband when he wasn't a cheater at all he was working late to buy her a anniversary ring. Don't jump to conclusions but get peace of mind, hire a professional. Then and only then will it stop bothering you. I hope he isn't because there are too many men that do that type of thing.

Answer 5

Are you sure or is this something you suspect? If you're sure confront him with the proof, usually when a woman thinks her man is cheating she's ususally right. Don't play eye spy unless you're ready for the truth.
And remember if he's good at cheating it may be hard to catch him But.... They always trip up along the way. Until you're sure make sure you wear protection when you have sex for your peace of mind and protection.

Answer 6

u can be like Ryan's Roses and have a friend call, offering free flowers to anyone he wants in order to promote a new flower company in the area..... then ask who it is to, and what to write on the card.

also, if u don't trust your boyfriend, most likely than not, the fact that he is or is not cheating is not the problem, the problem is TRUST. and u both have to change something to fix it. whether or not it is asking him about it, or snooping around, whatever. if u find out he's cheating, u'll be angry. if he's not, u'll feel uncomfrotable and always snoop around and be suspicious. that is not a fair, nor desirable relationship. =T

Answer 7

cut off his dick. he'll never cheat again...

OR
hypothetical situation
HIM: Honey im going to the bar with the guys, i wont be home til late
YOU: Ok dear, supper will be in a tupperware in the fridge
HIM: ******* right.
you then follow him and see where he goes. if you see him meet with another girl at say a restaurant, sneak in and sit somewhere where you can see him but he cant see you, then call his cellphone and ask him where he is. if he lies walk up to him, stomp on his nuts with your stiletto heals, smack the ***** hes cheating on you with in the face and bodyslam her into her garden salad, then run out of the restaurant and try to knock over a waiter or two.

easy solution

or ask him to do a threesome.

AWWW MAN! what if he is cheating on you with a dude? or a transvestite, like that dude from Rocky Horror Picture Show? man what an ego breaker that would be. i know my GF dumped me for a chick.

Answer 8

There's obviously a problem if you think he is cheating on you! Just ask him straight out, hopefully you know him well enough to know if he is telling fibbs. Trust is the basis to all relationships and it needs to be worked at. For quick answers and if you've tried the loving approach, go through his phone, especially sent messages, they usually forget to delete them. A man's phone is like his little black book and always gets him found out in the end!!

Answer 9

Gut feelings say alot but could you just be feeling neglected? As I dont know why you think he's cheating on you it's difficult to help but talking to him outright and honestly is the only way you'll decide for sure.

Answer 10

he might just stay out late because you are paranoid and insecure. just a theory based on personal experience.
if you ask him and he says no you still wouldn't believe him even with 24 hr CCTV footage.
sorry but had same grief from an ex for 6 1/2 yrs of not cheating.