What do u guys feel about purity?

Question

Do u think u should wait until marriage??
or
Do u think that it should happen when it happens?

Answer 1

If I ever met a 'wait until marriage' kind of girl I always assumed they were stupid or brainwashed.

Sex is an important part of a relationship and to dive into a life long commitment of marriage without checking to see if you are sexually compatible with your partner is irresponsible and idiotic. It is probably why the divorce rate in this county is at 50%.

People should have sex when they want to. Waiting because of nonsense about 'sin' or it being 'bad' is just asinine.

Having sex with various people on the road to marriage is very sensible and smart. I'm not talking about hundreds of people or even dozens. But if you don't have sex a few times you are in for an unhappy marriage and major marital problems unless you get very lucky.

I started this answer by saying the first thing I thought about a 'pure' girl. The second thing I think is, 'I bet she is useless in bed.' You can't get good at sex, without practice. I would hate to get married to some virgin that didn't know what she was doing. What happens if she doesn't like sex, and I've just agreed to marry her?

Thankfully I chose a non-virgin for marriage, and I would highly recommend that approach.

Answer 2

Personally, I think waiting for marriage is courting disaster. It's not God who wants us to wait until we're married; it's religion. Any religion (this includes you Christian "partners") wants to have some sort of control over it's followers. If it didn't, then it wouldn't exist.

Here in England, UK, the majority of our society grown out of the "say no until marriage" thing. I have to say, it's a good job too!

The problem is that the whole "waiting until married" thing implies that sex is something incredibly special and sacred, or (from e religious perspective) only to be done to create children.

The reason that the various religions say that it is sacred, is because sex is one of the most sensuously enjoyable things that a person can do without taking drugs, and in the past the religions knew that if they could link this act, this pleasure, with God, then it would gain an even greater hold on a persons dutifulness. If they then go on to say that God has said that you can only have sex once you have indulged in the religious ceremony of marriage, then it puts the fear of God into people and they start to think that it is a sin to have sex before marriage.

(off topic - did you know that the only reason that "marriage" is a religious ceremony is because the early religious leaders knew that coupling is a human nature, hard to avoid, and therefore another reason to put the fear of God into someone and convert them - the more people are living under the law of God, the more money the religious leaders (church / temple / mosque) have.)

Anyway, sex is a thing that, when approached with a sensible attitude, can be one of the most pleasurable things that a human being can do. If you are with a new partner, and if you both have tests to prove you are free from infection, then providing that one of you uses the appropriate contraception, you can have sex without condoms and really enjoy it like it's meant to be enjoyed.

(off-topic again...did you know that the reason that certain religions are against contraception is only because it can take the "holiness" out of sex)

At the end of the day, the more of us who lose this rediculous stigmatism that some people have about sex, and start teaching about it in schools (instead of preaching abstinence and ignorance), then the better off we will all be; less unwanted pregnancies, less spread of STI, and more fun to be had by all!

Enjoy!

Answer 3

i personally think u should wait for marriage...because that is ONE of the ways u can try to make sure the man is going to do Right by you...if ur not married, he has a chance to run off and leave.

having said that, i don't look down on people who have sex before marriage. however, there is just a higher chance that 1) u don't know that person well enough if he is trustworthy or not, or 2) if u give him sex, he may be staying for sex and not for YOU

if u wait until marriage, and he shows to u that he can wait, that is one of the ways u can tell if more likely than not, he will try to respect you and Love you for more than just sex.

anyways, i think u know when ur ready... but that doesn't mean u know what He's thinking. love is a fickle thing, and time and committment and actions and words all interact to show you what your intentions are, what his intentions are. if u are a happy, loving, caring, committed couple, do what u feel is right, as a team. but when u feel that person is falling away, disinterested, and u try to get his attention w/ sex, that already shows that the relationshp is more likely to fail, because instead of constantly being attracted and renewed and exciting and loving thru other means, it is ONLY renewed thru sex. be careful, and have good expectations from urself as a woman, from ur partner as a man, and from the relationship. communicate, as long as u are on the same page as ur partner, most likely u will be making good decisions together.

Answer 4

What happens, happens and let it happen. It does not really matter unless you want to wait till marriage. If you have a religion that says, wait, then you should wait. Just make sure anything you do it safe.

Answer 5

Purity is about more than just 'not having sex', there are a lot of things that go along with purity, like your thought life. I think waiting is the most loving thing to do for anyone, but waiting to have sex doesn't make one pure. So if your question is about sex, I say wait, if your question is about purity, than you shouldn't even have to ask about the sex.

Answer 6

happens when it happens...i am 19 and i am still a virgin...i am just holding out.....i am waiting for the right one...not necessarily until marriage though....that may be a lil too long for comfort...lol

it is true you should prolly check out the merchandise before buying it....you dont want to be stuck with damaged goods....

Answer 7

I think it should happen when you know you want to be with that person for a long time (marriage material).

Answer 8

I think you should MAKE IT HAPPEN. The sooner the better. The more the merrier. Go for it. If I was a chick, I would definitely be a nymphomaniac!

Answer 9

I like the idea of it but in reality I would want to test the merchandise before I take delivery. Its truly overrated except if you have very strong moral and religious beliefs.

Answer 10

nicely for me on the grounds that i'm fairly into my church and such i might want to assert it fairly is the whole difficulty to do and be committed to and to relay on. i'd not concepts going out with one of those woman. yet on a conventional adult men attitude maximum might want to imagine not provide those ladies a second look in the experience that they knew if the girl develop into donning considered one of those earrings.