, to the point where I want to lock him in a closet. Nothing is wrong with him physically, he's not sick, he just walks around the house whining...why and how can I curb this.
2006-09-12 07:16:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
IGNORE HIM when he's doing that. the only thing you should tell him ONCE, is "honey, I love you, but I don't like it when you whine and cry. Crying is for babies who don't know how to talk, but because you're a big boy, you need to tell me when you want something by using your words. From now on, when I tell you to use your words, you'll have to stop the whining and the crying." Then after that if you hear him doing it, just say: "use your words" to remind him and then ignore it. Not paying attention to him when he's that way (after a short reminder to use his words) is effective and teached him that you're in control. Always remember when you lose control, it takes your authority away. Children respond best to calm, kind, but firm instruction using as few words as possible (after the initial teaching)
2006-09-12 07:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is almost 2 years old. get him some more interesting toy. as for the whining and grunting or fake crying ignore him. he will stop if he knows you arent going to give into what ever it is he is wanting..
make sure he isn't in wet diapers isn't thirsty. or hungary and then just ignore him.
If all else fails you could pay attention to him and sit down and play with him.. maybe he just wants some attention.
alot of kids will sit and watch tv.
there are alot of things you could be doing with him..
take him for a walk.
does he need a nap.?
pay attention to him and you will figure out what it is that he wants most likely just attention..
good luck
2006-09-12 14:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...I'm sorry to laugh but he is just being a toddler and testing your patience! Plus pushing his limits. Tell him, "We don't whine like that or else.... (insert punishment)". Be consistant and stick to your threat...he will stop when he understands that the whining is unacceptable.
As far as your sanity, get away...when dad or whoever walks through the door go do something without your son! Just make sure the other caregiver is using the same method you are while you are gone so the consistanty sticks.
Good luck!!
2006-09-12 14:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is wanting attention...the best thing to do is put him in a place where he is alone, bedroom or similar...allow him to sit there for one minute per age year, ex. 2yr = 2 minutes. Removing him form socializing will curb the poutings. This is a very negative consequence babies do not like. And if that just will not work and your are being consistent, knock the tar out of him...LOL JOKING!!!!
2006-09-12 14:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by hunter_bug_4me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is doing such a thing with whining, go outside with him, to a park, to a playground to a play day. He is might be just bored to high heavens. Have him do some art work if you don't want to go out. The best way is still to go out with him where he can run around and get rid of his energy.
2006-09-12 14:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by rogermyloverboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, can we get him some things to keep him busy? How about TV? HOW about toys from the second hand store. I bought a bag of toys 4 a buck at the salvation army store. IT kept my sisters 24 month old busy 4 about 3 hours. Then she invites a neighbors 22 month old over and we had to check on them to see if they were OK. Sounds like he needs a pet, or friend, or nursery school.
2006-09-12 14:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are fantastic little learning machines. They learn what works, and repeat that behaviour. Note that I said 'they learn what works' not 'they learn what we tell them'.
He whines because then he gets attention. You need to tell him its not acceptable, that you won't talk to him when he's making those sounds, and that if he wants attention to use words.
Then you need to pay more attention to him when he exhibits good behavior, and give him more praise when he's playing quietly, while not engaging with him when he's whining.
He will fairly rapidly (a few days to a few weeks) adjust his behaviour to whatever gets him the most attention from you - positive OR negative.
2006-09-14 10:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first things first...
Is there a reason for him to be doing his...eg. hungry, looking for attention. If so you need to give (teach) him a better way of telling you what it is that he wants.
You need to look at whats happening before the behaviours
then what hes getting when he does it... (most likely your attention)
If it is attention he's looking for I would have you ignore him and when he's NOT doing it give him lots of attention (play with him sign whatever) this should help as long as everyone does the same thing.
Good luck and if you need anything e-mail me.
2006-09-12 18:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by kittykat_x25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is pushing your buttons! He must want attention! so find a storybook and take some time out together! is there anything new going on in the household maybe he is reverting! That Nanny show is great and she has some great ideas !!
2006-09-12 14:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by hillbilly wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to ignore him... I know it's hard but you have to try. And enjoy those little noises. Soon he'll be grown up & won't be home to make any noise (he'll be too busy 'hanging out' with his friends!)
If he's whining when he talks to you... tell him you won't answer him/get him what he wants/help him until he can talk like a 'big boy'.
2006-09-14 22:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by pc_girl_2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋