I have a b/f and we are serious, but have had some issues throught biggest being online things. Our last break of a week about a month ago I found out he had signed up to go on the personals again before things ended as he said we were fighting and he thought I was going to break up w/him. Well turns out he was "liking" someone on there...well he quit talking to that person and we got back together. His ad he put as unsearchable and put very little info. Well I found out about it by looking at a bill.......I thought he would add about having a g/f on there but he didn't. We got in a pretty good fight yesterday about it and he changed it well I thought he added something about a g/f well I found out today that he didn't. He finally did after MUCH bitching from me. I know he has said before that he doesn't as of course the women don't want to talk...as hello you are on the personals. He says he is just looking for friends. If you had a man that was doing this what would you do?
2006-09-12 06:50:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay I know it's really long, but I was trying to be very specific. We were engaged for a yr.....and believe it or not that's how I met him.......I had put something online in fun and took it off a couple of days later...well he happened to e-mail me......and we lived together for the same amount of time as well. He says he loves me and that I'm over-reacting about nothing......is it any better that he put in on there now........he's on another meet place..myspace... and does have he is in a relationship.
2006-09-12 06:59:43 · update #1
Get rid of him. Let him try his luck on the personals.
2006-09-12 06:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, let me tell you this.........if he put that you are his girlfriend on his profile, then he has made up another name that you won't be able to find him under. I did the same thing to my boyfriend. He has a my space that I have never been mentioned in. He is not my friend on there, and he is set to private so that I can not see his profile. How shady is that? These online guys are full of more **** than anyone. They know that they are losers and the only way a girl is ever going to fall for them is if they lie online. And that's what they do. Girl, if you have a feeling something is going on and you don't like it, don't put up with it, Just leave, and I mean it. he will never change. I give it a week and his profile will not include you again.
2006-09-12 13:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like perhaps he donesn't want you as a gf. I mean, why would he have signed up for the online dating (which yes, i know, he signed up for that after you guys had a break in the relationship) and still not have changed his status as to having a gf? He wants to meet new women, make friends, and perhaps find another gf. You should break up with him because clearly he isn't content with you. You deserve a guy that will focus his attention to you and not have a personal ad on the side. Good luck.
2006-09-12 13:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better you go on different paths. I hope he is not your first love, as I know how difficult it can be to let them go. But, dont you think that if he really loved you,...... he would'nt even think about these websites? I mean, for example,... would you have done that? I dont think so! I think you are too good for him and you are at a different level than him. I have never been thru that particular case, but the internet is sooo evil sometimes, and you know,... it can lead him to do things that will hurt you even more. So I would not walk away from this situation,... I would RUN.
2006-09-12 14:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm
if anything you gotta consider what that you met him on line. if he is constantly doing this then he is not taking you seriously which he should and should take him seriously.
If he is not willing respect you and is a repeat offender there is good chance your looking at trouble in your future marriage.
number 1 rule for everyone and anything: dont let anyone dis respect you with in reason.
number 2 rule refer to the first rule
reasoning: once they walk on you and you let them and take them back in any form more than likely they will do it again whether you know about it or not.
2006-09-12 14:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is trying to keep his options open while dating you. he should not be on-line with personals unless he is not with you. make him choose the personals or you. he's just on there in the chance that someone he thinks is better than what he has is on there. why worry yourself about it. let him make the choice. you are probably better off without him anyway if you fight so much. it's not worth it
2006-09-12 13:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by shortnsweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that bastard! hun, if he were only looking for friends he would have put that he had a girlfriend in the first place! the fact that you had to nag at him twice! and he didnt do it the first time just proves hes looking for chicks! I would tell him to choose between the site or me! and leave..then wait for him to call.
you deserve better.
ignore those rude answers!
2006-09-12 13:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by moomoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's into you he shouldn't have a personal ad ... period ... that's what I think ... personals are for love and romance ... not friends and family ... that's what you have "e-mail" for ... !
Sorry ... you can b*tch and b*tch all you want, but it sounds like he's a lost cause ... !
Find a guy who isn't into computers .. lol .. !
2006-09-12 13:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt trust him..honestly because he is not being completely truthful or straight with you...and TRUST is what is important in a relationship...i think you should leave him...and let him realise his mistake...
2006-09-12 13:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by SenSored 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u write too much
2006-09-12 13:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋