would you feel that its hypacritical for someone who doesnt have childeren to tell you your not disaplining yours correctly and offer to disaplin them for you????? My five year old called my freinds wife a butt head and i guess really hurt her feelings........when explanined he was wrong and sent him to his room, they said i should have been allot harsher , basically the punishment didnt fit the crime
2006-09-12 06:49:02 · 15 answers · asked by Kitten,Doc 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Every child is different. And you as the parent know your child and know what works and they probably don't know. I would just ignore the situation. I get told what and what not to do with my child all the time and I just ignore it. IIronically, the situation mostly all the time comes from people who have no kids. I know what works when it comes to him and what does not.
2006-09-12 06:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not hypocritical just ignorant of child rearing. What should you have done strike the child? Your friends must have some emotional issues if the words of a five year old hurt them. I would tell my questionable friend if they did not like the way you are raising your child than there is the door. Suggestion for the future if the child is name calling the child has been called names. I would ask the child how being called a name felt to them. Finding empathy for others is the best route. Five year olds mimic behavior so look around for the cause and that is where you will find the answer. Have a happy life and enjoy that five year old they grow up way to fast.
2006-09-15 18:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by tholion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually have no problem with my friends discipline my children as long as they stay with in the limits, we do this to each others kids. But if there is not an agreement as such between the two parties than I think it is out of line. They should have spoke to you first and expressed their feelings and opinions before taken it upon themselves to discipline your child. They don't have children so in my experience people who don't are allot harsher. I would have a talk with them tell them you are sorry about what your child said have the child apologize also, and tell them politely to leave your child discipline up to you.
2006-09-12 06:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by daack7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People do this to me all the time and it drives me crazy. Especially when majority of the time, it's my parents that give me sh*t about my disciplinary measures with my own girls.
When people butt in, I'm not above telling them to butt out. And I find majority of those that tell me that I'm too harsh or not harsh enough are either 1) childless or 2) there child is spoiled and a little demon kid but they can't see it.
2006-09-12 06:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"Consider the source," I always say. *I* am the final arbiter of what is right or wrong for my son; and though I may seek out wisdom from other parents whose opinion I respect, I have no problem disregarding unsolicited advice -- particularly from people who are completely unqualified to speak on a subject.
That having been said, I would say that simply sending a child to his room for calling someone a name was insufficient. The child needs to know that, when he hurts someone -- physically or emotionally -- he needs to make amends; you should have had your child apologize to the person for being rude. My son just turned four, and he already knows to say "Sorry," when he's been bad.
2006-09-12 07:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell your friends to grow up. If a five year old can hurt her feelings, you may want to rethink having such an immature friend.
2006-09-12 07:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by caylinn1996 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was a first time they called someone that - I would have just sent them to their room too. but if it continues and I would be harsher the next time.
2006-09-12 06:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Butt head is hardly a criminal act. I think you did the right thing. what bloody else did they want? plus who are they to say?
2006-09-12 07:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by cherri 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would have called him back from his room and said, "Your right, she is a butt head, but it is not nice to call someone a butt head, even though she is one."
2006-09-12 07:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to them, you know what's best for your kids. While it is important to have rules and to Always uphold them, no matter what the situation, You shouldn't have to act out in your disciplining to please another. Discipline is for improvement not for fear of "rejection" so to speak. When both your kids and you know the rule guidelines very well, they'll have the freedom of expression of knowing where they stand, what they can do, and what they can not. Soon disciplining becomes unneccessary.
2006-09-12 06:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋