I am 28 year old single mother of 1. I am still living with the father of my child. However my love for him was chrushed when I found out he was sleeping with my older sister. I am unable to provide a stable life for my daughter on my own; that is why I am still living with him. He does love his daughter, and I want him to be a part of her life. I am moving on with my own interests though, I am going back to college to major in Business administration. I want to be able to provide for my daughter, on my own.
In order to focus on my own goals. I need to get my head out of the clouds. I have a really BAD case of lust, for this guy that goes to my gym. I don't even know his name, and he is taking up way to much of mind. I don't want to start a relationship because I need to focus on my daughter and college. I thought it would fade away but my lust has turned into intense desire. Now I can't thing about anythin but him.. What should I do? serious answers please!
2006-09-12 06:42:58 · 25 answers · asked by Canswer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
study, masturbate, study...
2006-09-12 06:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in an unhappy situation at home. Going back to college? Great idea! Don't want to start a new relationship at this time? Really good plan! Lusting for a man you don't even know?
Not so good! (C'mon, did I really have to tell you that?)
Your husband did a really rotten thing by sleeping with your sister. I recommend councilling for you & your husband, both separetly & as a couple. If there's a chance you can save your marriage then the both of you need to try. You won't have a good foundation to build a new relationship until you clear the rubble of the old one anyway.
No matter what the outcome of your marriage, stick with your plan on building your own life. It will be good for you & your daughter.
2006-09-12 13:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need a vacation. Second, you need to get the hell away from that gym. Try going at a different time than you usually do. Third, you need to get the hell away from you baby's dad. This is a horrible situation that will only get ugly. Get away now while you can plan, because sure as the sun rises he will eventually quit being so nice to you and then you will be completely on your own very suddenly. Next, get some counseling if you can to help you see this whole situation with a fresh perspective.
Last, don't sign off on all men just because you were unfortunate to deal with one pig. Too bad you sister has no morals.
2006-09-12 13:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem that a bit of careful time management won't solve - and since you are split but still living with your ex you have a live-in babysitter available, which is useful. If he's not an ex yet however then you dump him.
So here's what you do. First you arrange your studdies in such a manner that you can have a free night. Then you ask this guy that you want if he wants to go out with you. If the answer is "yes" then you have your ex mind your child and you go out with him - and who knows where that might lead?
If the answer is "no" then you will no there is no point wasting your mental engergies on him any further and you can then purge him from your mind and no longer be distracted from your studies.
If you do go out with him and it goes somewhere, don't worry - as long as you make it clear that your studies are important to you - he will know not to distract you from them.
2006-09-12 13:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by a1mandrake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you focus, you can have both college and whatever relationship you want with this guy. Make your child your first priority but realize that too much work and no relaxation time will only increase your strees and take you away from your goal. Be careful not to get pregnent again. Good luck.
2006-09-12 13:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that you should go back to school. Also, I think that you should give this guy a hint so see if he feel the same way for you. Sounds like you are sexually deprive and want to have sex. If that the case, just please yourself by getting to know this guy. Just make sure that your head is still going back to school and be able to provide for your daughter.
2006-09-12 13:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by revolou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seeing how lust is the desire to have him...and not the love for him....then you could just walk up to him...and say I want to fu*ck you....and either he will or won't......now, for me, I would stop going to the gym, hoping to see him, go at different times...when you hope he is not there...and go until you find that time...and get your mind back on school and daughter
2006-09-12 13:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way. U are putting this man, who U don't even know in front of Ur daughter. Ur daughter is the one who U are trying to have a better for. before U do anything that U might regret, try to 4give Ur husband. if U can't, think about Ur daughter, she deserves better. stop going to the gym when U know this guy is there. ask Urself, why am I going back to college, for MY DAUGHTER...
2006-09-12 13:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop going to the gym, lust and desire are prtty much the same thing. Dont think about sex without a relationship
2006-09-12 13:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first get rid of the loser boyfriend, if the child is his, then you would be intitled to child support which would help with being on your own, or maybe you could stay with family until you got on your own two feet.
as for the other, if your going to jump this guys bone, be very very discreet you don't want to give your ex any ammo in a custody fight
2006-09-12 13:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by luau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want more, sex with this guy, or a secure future for your daughter, which will enable you access to not only this one guy, but many more attractive men, who are also stable in their lives? Choice is yours really.
2006-09-12 14:50:58 · answer #11 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋