i personally am pagan, but i want him to choose on his own someday. until then, how do i instill a decent and good belief structure to provide a good foundation for later? should i go the christian route for now?
2006-09-12 06:34:57 · 42 answers · asked by cassie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
just correct him when he does thing wrong like if you catch him in a lie. ask him why did you lie you know you can tell me the truth. just tell him the golden rule if you do unto others as you want to be treated and make age apporitate like for ex if you want people to play with you you have to tell the truth and be nice no hitting and now stealing the toys cause then no one will want to play with you any more and you can teach him about money like if he wants a cookie tell him it is a quarter then give him one then make him give it back if he wants the cookie we did that with my son when he was about two and that knock out the trantrums in the stores when he was not allowed to get ne thing i just simply ask do you have money and when he said no then i said then well you cant get it. but just treat him the morals you have like no hurting others no stealing you can teach him plain old morals but if you do want to teach him about God you can get a toddler bible and they teach him simple morals and about God
well hope this helps you
2006-09-12 06:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally that really goes against the grain. Real 'christian' values only stand for being homophobic, lying, cheating, robbing and murdering.why would you want to teach your children that? Teach you son about the goodness in the world, and how he can help to make it a better place for his generation. By loving, and accepting people as they are and not accepting violence and capitalism at the expense of happiness and inspiration....which is something this planet is in desperate need of right now. If you are Pagan, then you like me know the true path. Don't confuse the lad and teach him the goodness within yourself. that is all he needs to follow. Show him the righteousness of virtue and the strength of...........you don't really need preaching to do you? Teach him the Craft. Bright blessings to you.. and your son.
2006-09-12 06:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too little yet. Why don't you wait until he's old enough to tie his shoes first?
Now, that said, I'm a pagan too, and personally, I couldn't keep a child far enough from Christianity. If you want him to grow up full of guilt, fear, and conflict, by all means expose him to that stuff first. If you're a serious Pagan, and believe me I know it can be tough to stick to your guns in a Christian-dominated world, you wouldn't even be thinking of starting him out that way. If I was raising a kid, to be honest, hon, I'd raise the biggest bonfire-dancin, Beltaine-prancin, Goddess-worshipin' pagan that ever was. Then, when the kid rebels and becomes a Mormon, I know that I at least gave him a decent start. ;-)
Blessed be and good luck!
2006-09-12 06:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't brain wash them!
When they are old enough go through the system from A to Z
Atheism to Zen
Do it without prejudice or bias
Tell them they have the right to beleive in something or nothing
BUT
Do instill good habits in them
Do you really want your son to be a preditor to girls!
Do you really want your son to be wang driven or to undestand and respect women and their senstiivties versus his own gratuitus needs.
This means you do have to teach him that no means no, not convience me
Ethics need not be religious
Saying God will getcha is religous
Saying man will put you away in a hell hole is political
Saying a girl or women is a person with feelings and pride and you need to respect her wishes, desires and space is teaching ethical behavior.
A girl has an opening and gets invaded. Your son has no right to play with her mind, senosoray feelings, emotions or insecurities just so he can get his jollies.
2006-09-12 06:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you pray at home and/or maintain a home altar? Do you pour out libations to the Gods before meals? Do you tell him the old stories? Do you go to Circles and does he get to watch? All of these things teach him what he needs to know now, and later he will ask questions and guide you to teach him more.
And think, many of our stories are considered "Classics" in school. My children's teachers tell me how wonderfully well read they are and how amazed they are that they're familiar with Shakespeare and Homer and Gilgamesh and so many great poets just because of years of bedtime stories. And the words they learn in the old stories become very useful to them as well. Just by reading these stories, ethics are instilled. Of course, some of them are bloody, my son loves the bloody parts of the Odyssey when those rowdy suitors finally get what's coming to them for violating the code of hospitality for all those years- but Bible stories are bloody too. You can skip the bloody parts if you want. But even in the blood, there are ethics. The suitors in the Odyssey violate the code of hospitality, they seduce the maids in the house and mistreat a beggar and one by one they are cut down for it, but mercy is shown to the ones who didn't follow the crowd. And in the story of the Argonaughts, Jason is heaped with rewards for carrying Hera across a stream in the guise of an old woman. These are all important ethics to instill in our children.
2006-09-14 04:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by kaplah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice, of course, is ultimately yours but I wouldn't "go the Christian route for now". So much of it comes across as fear-based, particularly to one so young. Again, this is just my opinion. Many won't like it naturally!
There is a wonderful childrens book (I'm sorry I don't recall the author of publisher) called "What is God?" It is a wonderful introduction to religion in general and speaks briefly about the various world religions in terms that are easily understood by children. I highly recommend it.
2006-09-14 03:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
introduce him to pagan for now. Later in life he could make his own mind up, but he is still only 2 1/2 so maybe wait a bit maybe a year.
2006-09-12 06:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by Clam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not truly believe in Christianity, don't fake it. Allow your son to attend various houses of worship and learn for himself. It does sound as though you are not as much of a pagan as you claim though. Check your own beliefs a little more closely, you may be surprised.
2006-09-12 06:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Spirit Walker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children really learn by example. Show him what you believe by living it. This will instill in him the values you want him to have. If opportunities present themselves (when he is a little older) expose him to other choices. My kids some times went to church with their babysitter. We discuss religions and different beliefs and they have great values. I would have liked for their experiences to have been more diversified, but we live in a remote community with one church.
2006-09-12 06:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by eeyoreshunni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear god - do not go christian!!
Open all doors for him to be able to choose later on but instill in him good morals and respect for others and he will be amazing. If he chooses something later on - good for him, but just look here at all the extremists and it will change your mind.
Give him a biology book instead of a bible
2006-09-12 06:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by ηιgнт ѕтαя 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋