Is it common for a mother to take more interest in her daughters kids than her sons kids?
My mum in law always makes more effort for her daughters kids than mine...... your opinion please.
2006-09-12 06:28:18 · 29 answers · asked by jessie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes it is
2006-09-12 06:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by NO! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so, simply because daughter trusts her own mother above all others and would therefore leave her baby or kids with her without a second thought, which in return builds a close relationship with that child. However, that does not mean her son's kids are loved less, as the son's wife would in turn leave her baby or kids with her mother, its human nature, so take heart your kids are loved just as much. You can build on this if you wish, spend more time with mother-in-law, include her more with family activities, hope this one side of it helps you. :)
2006-09-12 06:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by libby l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mum's bond loads with their daughters when they are pregnant which makes their and their childrens relationships closer on that side of the family. Plus its hard for the Mother in law to spend loads of time with her grandchildren on the sons side without seeming over bearing to the daughter in law. A fine line I think! Sons dont realise when Mum is interfering and tell her to cool it where as daughters do, or they use monther's intuition.
2006-09-12 06:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its more a question of mothers feel closer to their daughters, and so take an interest in their children. My Mum in Law only has my hubby, so my kids are everything to her. Whereas my mum has two daughters, me and my sis. I ask my mum for advice on my kids more than my mum in law. I think the secret is to build a good relationship with your mother in law, and then she will feel included in your childrens lives more. She probably feels that you have your own mother who will fulfill the role she plays with her daughters children.
Then again my sis has major probs with her mum in law, who has one daughter and five sons. The daughter lives with her, so her kids get everything and the sons children nothing. Its a question of proximity and closeness!
My mum does more for my sisters kids, but I don't feel neglected. My sister visits my mum more and does more for her than I do, also my sisters kids need more than mine, as we have a better standard of living than my sister. You have to look at the whole picture, and understand where your mum in law is coming from.
2006-09-12 06:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by sarkyastic31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually daughters are closer to their mothers and vice versa, and spend more time together. Thats why mothers usually take more notice of her daughters children than her sons. The saying 'A daughters a daughter all of her life a sons a son til he takes a wife' comes to mind
2006-09-12 06:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by di 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother is always closer to the daughter. A daughters a daughter for the rest of her life.
2006-09-12 06:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that mothers and daughters have a special bond that is not shared with the son. Like a father /son bond. I don't think your mother in law notices what she is doing.
2006-09-12 06:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is NOT. I love and spend time with my daughters and sons children equally.I couldn't even think of doing it any other way.I was at the birth of all my grandchildren.Each has a special place in my heart.To my great happiness each thinks that they are my favorite.Your mum in law is very wrong and missing out on much joy.
2006-09-12 06:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes defo, it's something to do with daughters in law being funny characters in general, although I have to say my mum in law is great - she does nothing for any of us!!! My mum defo pays a lot more attention to mine but that's cos we live so near etc etc..
It's that saying "A son's a son till he takes a wife, a daughter's a daughter for all of her life"
2006-09-12 06:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not the kids. It's the relationship with the daughter. Long before we have children, we imagine getting close to our daughters (if we have them) and their kids. With our sons...we just naturally know...the 'woman' in his life is not his 'mommy' anymore...its his wife. If you want a close gramma/grandkid relationship....make more of an effort to become 'her daughter/her friend'. Ask her to go shopping with you....walk in the park....teach you some of her favorite recipes that her Son loves, etc. Get involved with her and she'll get to know you and your kids more.
A very important note...no derrogatory remarks about her son. Leave him out as topic unless its nice. ;D
Good luck and have fun.
2006-09-12 06:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers are closer to there daughters, and it's the moms that usualy have the kids. mothers usualy don't like who there son chooses in life, cause when it ends the daughter-in-law is gonna screw our sons take him for every penny he has, take half of his pay check so he can't even support himself. even if she never worked a day and he bought everything she still gets half thats not right.
2006-09-12 06:39:30 · answer #11 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋