If they really loved you why have they abandoned you? why do they allow bad things to happen?Why do they not provide you money so you don't have to work?
2006-09-12 06:11:48 · 29 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I assume you are talking to those who always like to blame God for the faults of men. Like, "Why does God let kids starve and get raped and killed?"
Very good point and comparison, too bad many people are not picking up on it. I applaud your efforts. Good clear thinking.
2006-09-12 06:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Nep-Tunes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your question I take it YOU do blame YOUR parents for the bad things that happened or happen to you. I hate to tell you this but we can only blame them while we are children because we don't know any better. Sometimes it's not their fault it could be some other adult is at fault. I was sexually abused when I was 7. I don't blame my mother for any of it, I blame the adult who did it. But once we are older and can reason for ourselves we are the makers of our own consequences, we can choose. If we do good then we get a good consequence if we do bad then its a bad consequence. And to your question about why they don't provide $ so you wont have to work, I think is more about you being a dependent person on yourself. What happens if they provide you everything within their means and then they both die? You will be left with out being able to care for yourself. In this case I think you asking that question in a way is being selfish. After all your parents do for you, you should want to provide for them in their old age.
Parents do the best they can at the moment needed. It could have been a bad choice but at that time it was the best they could do, then so be it. I always say " Never regret the past , you made the best choices you could at the time you made them."
2006-09-12 13:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah why don't they give me money, they died and where did it all go, oh yeah they didn't have any. Gotta say I do actually. I know they did possibly the best they could but somehow I expected they could have done better, and in some areas were pretty selfish, not researching available literature on child rearing for one thing. Seemed to me when a person knows their parents were in error that a little reading b4 having a child would be in order. Its not like there were not good books out there. One time I mowed this old ladies lawn (already in my teens) and after a day there she sent me home with a parenting book to give my parents which they read (yeah) but that was a little late already.
AND NO not everything, i brought most stuff on myself.
2006-09-12 13:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't blame them. If I have to blame someone in the first place, I think it should be myself. This is because I am the one responsible for my own actions and decisions...not my parents. Actually my parents are here to guide me so it's not fair to blame them for bad things that happen to me.
2006-09-12 13:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kate L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents gave you money so you wouldn't have to work, then would they also have to provide for *your* kids? Obviously you aren't working to provide for your own kids.
Or is it that you'll then blame your kids for abandoning you and that they should also give you money so you can enjoy an easy lifestyle?
2006-09-12 13:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents would give me money if they had it. I do not blame my parents for the things that I have done. They did there best raising me and now its my turn to know what is right and what is wrong!
2006-09-12 13:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not blame my parents for anything about me. However, I do realize that what they gave and did not give have influenced the way I see the world and myself. The material things are meaningless. It's the emotional stuff that both brings me advantages and challenges as it is with everybody.
2006-09-12 13:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be silly and irresponsible to blame your parents when everyone knows it is the fault of the Tooth Fairy.
2006-09-12 13:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by bonzo the tap dancing chimp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should take our pasts and learn from it instead of whining about what "could have been." I am truly grateful for everything my mother did (and father didn't do) because it taught me to be the strong and responsible adult that I am today. "Perfect" childhoods seem to lead to confusing adulthoods because when you get to the real world, you don't know how to cope.
2006-09-12 13:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW I USE TO BLAME ALL THE BAD THINGS ON MY PARENTS AND THEN ONE DAY I REALIZED WHAT I WENT THROUGH IS WHAT MADE ME WHO I AM TODAY. I WOULDN'T CHANGE A THING AS IF I DID, I WOULDN'T HAVE MY OLDEST DAUGHTER. I WOULDN'T BE A LOVING GIVING PERSON.
2006-09-12 13:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by baptism_by_fire_2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋