Everything is messed up. I feel so unhappy at school, i was about to change but at the last minute i changed my mind n now im so sad, i hate everything about this school it's so difficult n all the people at school suck so much n i feel so lonely n scared n everytime i see a couple i get so miserable bcoz i have no guy i feel like i'm never gona feel happy again n my feelings r so mixed and everything's a mess i jst don't know wat to do...im so confused about everything..can anyone help?
2006-09-12 05:45:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
You need to catch your breath and take it down a notch. New places are scary. You don't have established friends, places to go, routines. You have a right to be afraid and anxious.
That said, take it easy. Assess your situation, your strengths and weaknesses. Seek allies, make friends.
You will rarely get an oppurtunity like this in your life to start new. You can be anything you want, no support, but no one stopping you except yourself.
You know you can do this. It is hard but you KNOW you can.
Go and make a friend today. Start small.
2006-09-12 05:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by emperor_chino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a new school for you or are you returning from last year?
Try joining some clubs to get to know new people. Have you joined the soccer team? Get out there and meet people and you will start having fun. As for not having a guy that means you are free to have fun. Get to know a lot of people before you tie yourself down by being part of a couple. If it stays really bad and you are really miserable though, then you need to talk to your parents or school guidance counselor. Maybe you are suffering from depression and just need a little help for a little while. You don't say how long you feel this way but if it continues for a month or so you need to talk to someone.
2006-09-12 12:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by brendagho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you what... enjoy the fact that you don't have to be miserable WITH a partner. There are women that get stuck with drug addicts, alcoholics, child molestors, wife beaters, adulterous males, etc.... Everything's a mess because that is how you are perceiving it. This world can be quite crappy, but it is what WE make of it. God intended it to be beautiful and everything that we may need on a day to day basis. You sound young, and you have the rest of your life ahead, so why waste it being upset because you think things are sooooo bad? Appreciate the fact that you are alive every morning... that you have the opportunity to even GET an education... that you don't have cancer.... that you have the capability to use your mental capacity to the FULLEST potential. There are so many people in this world that I can bet they don't have 1/2 of what you have. And so many people that are dying of diseases that they didn't deserve... should you really be so unhappy then???? Go on a missionary trip. Seek a church. See the link below.
2006-09-12 12:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by ControVerse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of girls have problems with being accepted. Even the popular ones, the only reason they are like that is because they're insecure. School Sucks, i know that, i was there once, and i was in the same boat you are, i wasn't very pretty, and i hated life in general. But i came to realize that if you can hold off on friends and just focus on your studies for now and can hold off on worrying about who likes you and who doesn't, you'll learn you're better off. Try to make at least one best friend, it's better than having a million, and not being able to trust them. If this one person you become friends with accepts you for you and is there for you whenever you need them no matter what, that's the best thing anyone could ask for. But i wish you luck at your school, and if you ever need to talk, I'm a really good listener, and i try to give out the best advise i can.. my id is mimebaby2001.. Good luck, and let me know...
2006-09-12 12:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it one step at a time. If you look at the bigger picture all at once, you'll get overwhelmed. Start by improving your attitude. The people at your school don't suck...you attitude does! You are making yourself miserable. If you are in a better mood, you'll make more friends. Be outgoing. After you have a better attitude, the boyfriend-thing will happen. If you don't like yourself, nobody else will like you either. Just breath. Stop obsessing about being scared and loney and go out and have some fun!
2006-09-12 12:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went away to school, I was scared too. There has to be one person that you can be friends with. If not in your dorm, in one of your classes. You just need one person and then you will have someone to confide in while you build friendships with others. Dive into your studies and don't be afraid to approach your professors about the difficulty you are having. Do ANYTHING but don't sit alone pondering this. Also, you can always talk to your hall director or a campus psych doc to vent and find fun social circles to hang out. You should be enjoying your life, so get out there and make the best of it.
2006-09-12 12:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing at a time. Happiness comes from within. Some people are lucky and they can "decide" to be happy. I dont think its that easy... first you have to understand that not everything is a walk in the park..... ie: school, boyfriends, work, .....
feelings are your minds way of figuring out what is really going on in your reality.
think of it as a choice you are going to make, pick one,,,,, then work on it until you feel you have conquered it.
helpful hint: Men dont like women they have to fix or tame.
Happiness is not given by anyone else... It is worked on for ourselves so that we can offer our own peace instead of taking someone elses.
Bless you.
2006-09-12 12:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by BeezKneez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know how to help, but I feel bad that you are feeling this way. Can you change schools still if it is really that bad? If not, and either way, don't try to rush finding a b/f. You don't need a b/f to feel good about yourself. Try to find some friends and spend time with them. Try to cheer up! Make the best out of the worst!
2006-09-12 12:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by lees girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first want to say that I am not a professional but I think that one might help. First you need to sit down and decide what things in your life are making you feel this way. school, men, what. Then you need to dertime for yourself if you can handle your feelings on your own or do you need someone to help you get past the way that you are feeling. And work up from there.
2006-09-12 12:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by heartcoregirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a teenager, your confused and mixed-up feelings are a normal part of growing up. To get friends, you must be a friend. Seek out "partners" for gym class. Try to have at least one friend in each class. Invite some classmates to your house for stamp collecting or whatever. You need to get out of your rut.
2006-09-12 12:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋