This has been an ongoing issue, at school and in our own backyard. Her mother doesn't seem to care that this is happening. This girl is in the same class as my daughter and we have told this individual that she is not welcome to play with our daughter if this kind of stuff is going to continue. Our daughter knows that this is wrong and that you never hit, punch, spit or slap other ppl. Should we get the police involved? We don't have the option of being able to move, our finances won't allow for this at the present time. Any suggestions?
2006-09-12 05:34:04 · 12 answers · asked by tina p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I had a similar situation several years ago when my son was in grade school. He was being bullied while walking home from school by a child a grade ahead of him. After attempts to talk to the parents failed, I contacted the school and was told that since the trouble didn't happen on school property there was nothing they could do. I ended up contacting the school's DARE officer (a police officer from the community that conducted the DARE program at the school) He "just happened" to be in the area during my sons' walk home one afternoon and saw the child acting aggressively towards another child. He escorted the bully to his home and confronted the parents and then made the school aware that he had done so. THEN the school stepped in with a note to the parents warning of suspension if the behavior continued. Why they waited till after the police got involved I have no clue. I would suggest that you start with your school if they can't or won't help, go to the police.
2006-09-12 07:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by bbwitchd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew.... this is a difficult problem, but you must take action to protect your daughter immediately, before the bullying has a chance to escalate.
Before you go to the police, make certain that your daughter's teacher is fully apprised of the situation... also your daughter's Principal and school counselor. If the bullying continues at school, ask the counselor to set up a conference immediately with you, your husband, and the other girl's parents so that you can address the situation in a rational way, in a neutral, non-threatening environment.
You might also request that the counselor meet with both girls (for several sessions) together during school time in order to mediate, get some dialogue going, and get to the root of the bullying behavior. The other girl could have serious emotional problems which no-one is aware of, due to a difficult home life. etc.
If none of the above makes any difference and the bullying continues, report each incident to the school superintendent.... and go to the police as a last resort, if you have to.
As the mother of a sixth grader, (and as a former victim of bullying myself) I urge you to nip this in the bud as quickly as possible. Don't allow school officials to minimize the problem and whatever you do, DON'T BACK DOWN until this problem is fully addressed and resolved.
Wishing you and your daughter all the best for the future.
2006-09-12 14:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Aly D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take some work on your part, but I promise you, it will work. Bully's mom doesn't care. So.....when your child is outside playing and you see the bully, invite her over. And you need to supervise the entire day of play. And when I say supervise, I mean, camp your buns right out there with them. Initiate games, put together crafts, make snacks, and totally involve yourself with the kids. And when you see bully type behavior from the bully, that is your opportunity to teach and parent that child. Keep it positive and but directly comment on the behavior that the bully is displaying, tell her to stop that, and then role model the behavior that you'd like to see her do. She is growing up in a household where she is not being shown how to appropriately behave with other children, and it takes a village to raise a family. It is kinda hard to bully a child right there in front of their parents, and I never said this was going to be easy. And you may not have the time to put forth the effort needed to counsel this lost child, but if you do, you will be giving this child something they will never forget! Bullys are reformable, and all it may take in this situation is you......
2006-09-12 15:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the school involved and if they won't do anything go to family services, and finally go to the police if it can't be resolved any of these ways. Bullying is usually a result of the child being bullied elswhere in his or her life and a sign that there might be problems with someone else in the bullies life.
2006-09-12 12:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by ddandmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guidance counselor at your childs school may need to be involved as it sounds like the other mother may be neglectful,or atleast not personable to you.Also,make the principal aware so that the staff can implement a watchful eye,and inquire if there are programs or assemblies in place for your child and others dealing with this hurtful issue.Good Luck!!
2006-09-12 12:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's trespassing on your property, you can most certainly get the police involved. If she tells your daughter she's going to spit on her, that's assault. If she spits on your daughter, that's battery. If she tells your daughter she's going to spit on her and then spits on her, that's assault and battery. If she hits, kicks, or punches your daughter with a stick or another object, that's aggravated battery. Have you tried talking to the girls parents? If so, and it continues to happen, I wouldn't feel bad about getting the police involved. She has to learn somehow if her parents aren't going to correct her. If you don't want to see her go to jail, there's a good possibility you can talk to the officer first and tell him the situation. Then, let him scare her straight.
2006-09-12 12:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by aghostprofilebeingempty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call children services and report the parents, if a child becomes a bully theres obvously something failing at home. Plus sounds like the parents also has a parenting problem. Just do it today, see what happens. No point in procrastinating.
2006-09-12 12:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the school involved...or the school police liason. She needs to be stopped.
2006-09-12 12:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about social workers to involve instead of the police, do police care on "child play"??
2006-09-12 12:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by what hack? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call child protective services if the mother will not do anything about her child.
2006-09-12 14:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋