ok i'm a mum of 1 shes 3, i've lost all my weight after havin her u can't tell my mum sez, anyways y do guy run off wen they no u hav a child i mean y i'm not ugly(agin accordin 2 my mum) i'm only 19 i want 2 find sum 1 2 settle down wit and @ this rate i'll b single 4 the rest of my life. if ur wonderin y so young 4 a mum then e-mail me i don't want ppl thinkin dirty thing about me ok thnx
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2006-09-12 05:14:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It just takes time finding the right one, not all men run a mile when they know you have a kid, I think you may need to look to guys a little older than yourself, I dont think guys your age would be a good place to start, 19 is very young for most blokes to be thinking about raising kids.
Ive got a few friends who have kids, and they have all now found new partners, none of them had any issue with them already having kids.
Dont worry about being single forever, it wont happen, you are still a teenager yourself, youve got so much to do and learn yet.
If I had a penny for evey one of my friends who swore they would never find someone, i'd be very rich now, theres someone out there for everyone, and the right one will not care if youve already got a child, it wont matter to them at all.
Dont be in such a rush to settle down. Maybe you are saying something when you meet guys thats putting them off?
If you come across as looking to settle down, that can put a lot of guys of quickly. Think about what you are saying when you meet them, ask your friends if they think you are maybe coming across wrong to guys. Hopefully your friends will be honest and they can help you out.
I know you want a stable environment for your daughter, but if it takes time to find the right man, its gotta be better than ending up with some loser who wont accept her.
i wish you all the best, as a mum of a three year old, I know how hard it can be.
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2006-09-12 05:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Mum of an 8 year old and I'm a single Mum at 36 for 4 years. I haven't had a relationship in that time but I have built on my skills and myself and put the best effort into raising my child. I'm not an unattractive women, I get attention when I'm out but when I'm with my son its different. Theres a lot of bad press out here about single mums and that is down to the certain few and this can be the cause for what you're talking about. You are young and when the right man comes along it will happen. Take care of yourself and your child and let everything else take care of itself. Don't ever thing that you are ugly. I have a very happy life without a man.
2006-09-12 12:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by kildarababe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mum for seven years before I married again. Now my son is in a relationship with a lovely girl - she's 25 with a young son. And it is hard. My son isn't good father material - he never had a father to play with him, doesn't know how to treat the little boy. The little boy is undisciplined as well, runs riot.
I think this is something that young mothers should consider if they plan a life of single motherhood. Men find it hard to take on the responsibility of other people's children. It is expensive, kids are out of control and they turn your life upside down.
2006-09-12 12:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because right now at 19 and 20 and 21 guys are only looking for one thing and its not to settle down, yes there are the odd male out there in the age range wanting to settle, but sometimes guys look at it as lugage, I have 3 kids myself, and I just found my sould mate and I am 31, and I do not think your trashy alright girl and I promise you life will get better once these boys grow up and realise what they missed out on with you, they will be kicking there own butts for it, so just relax and be the best that you can be for your child, and eventually some boy will grow up and want you and not for a one night stand either
2006-09-12 12:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pity being a single mum meant that you never attended any form of scholastic establishment.
Could somebody please translate this gibberish, then it might be possible to answer. Thanks.
BtW Tricia P - why not call a spade a spade? Assuming a girl is not married (not uncommin these days), it's not a "pre-made" family - it's a train of bastards. That's why many men wouldn't be even remotely interested.
2006-09-12 12:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a single mum.(my ex was abusive).At your age the majority of lads want to go clubbing and have a good time.They see it as baggage.I found my soul mate when I was 31,he treats my girls as his own.You will meet someone,it will take time,enjoy having the one to one with your child.It won't always be that way.Also concentrate on either work or education,hobbies.There are lots of places to find nice guys.
2006-09-12 12:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When men see you they see a premade family... at 19 it is very hard... and most of the "men" you are meeting are probably only boys... give it time and focus on your child... those men will eventually be beating down your door.
2006-09-12 12:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been a single mum for years now, and i hate it some days and other days i just get on with, i am not saying i hate being on my own but sometimes it would be nice just to have a cuddle
2006-09-13 15:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by lovelylips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to raising your child,some decent bloke will turn up at the right time in both you and your childs life.good luck and all the best for the future.
2006-09-12 12:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Scottish♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ♥Fairy♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose a woman with a kid is a pretty serious relationship to get into - so whoeverhas been running away isn't ready for that sort of thing.
2006-09-12 12:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋