I'm trying to find out why it is sooooo hard for a guy to meet a woman who he's been chatting to via the net,.. I've chatted to hundreds of women online, but only actually met-up with about 12,.. why's it so difficult?
I feel like no matter how I approach it, I'm seen as desperate, dangerous, a pervert, sex-starved etc,... even if I've been respectful, honest, playful, flirty, fun, open, receptive etc etc,.. I'm THIS close to totally forgetting about having a relationship.
2006-09-12 05:07:19 · 36 answers · asked by wildimagination2003 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it simple .. its a trust factor. Needless to say you can pretend to be what ever you want on the net. So in reality it could be very dangerous to do. I know it took my husband a very long time in order for me trust him to get my phone #
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-12 05:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people are too scared to actually go through with things they've said on the internet. Everyone is gorgeous and fun on the net. In person they aren't! *L* If you are serious about a relationship on the net, its just a matter of finding the right person. You have to be a really good judge of character and people.
I married the man I met on the net! We've been together ever since. Happily ever after so far and coming up on 6 years!
2006-09-12 05:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by K's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Most people are on the net to flirt and have a bit of fun. Not many are genuine and they are usually the ones that are not going to meet you. It is dangerous for women out there, so do understand.
Be exactly who you are because you never know, that person may be the one and you want her to love you for YOU, not a person you've created. It's worked for some....
Sometimes that special person deserves the time to meet and it usually happens when you are not looking. Be happy in yourself and your life and you will find a person who is the same - the only thing missing from both your lives would be each other.
Chin up... boy, she'll be worth the wait, trust me.
2006-09-12 05:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by 675 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a real relationship not an online one, or try unplugging for a night and going out to actually meet a girl. I am a guy and you seem desperate to me even. I think that many women go online to have their egos stroked and feel liked with many of them having no intentions of actually meeting you. If you are that smooth online try doing that in real life. I hope you don't tell them that you chat with tons of girls online and never meet them maybe that is wehre you are going wrong. Either way there is NO substitute for face to face interactions, you can't feel the "spark" over the computer. Good luck, go buy some nice clothes and put on your game face and go to it.
2006-09-12 05:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by curious caucasian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but I've not had a problem in meeting either sex from the net.
Mind you I meet for friendship not relationships, perhaps thats the difference. I build up a rappor then go to email, MSN chats etc and see how both parties feel.
If they don't want to meet up and want to keep it as MSN or whatever only then I've no problem with that at all.
2006-09-12 05:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some poeple take it as just a fun chat game and then others take it a little more serious but know that it is still risk involved. We all have some sort of fear of the unknown. When you see someone in person you are in control and have choice on whether or not you will mingle due to whatever it was that attracted you to them to begin with. On the other hand, chatting on line is just another form of a blind date, dont know what or who the heck you are going to really run into. I have tried online dating and over the phone dating but it still doesn't appeal to me as much as meeting someone in the club or just going to the grocery store.
2006-09-12 05:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by Charisma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a woman its very scarey to meet someone from the internet. The reason being is she knows nothing about you, half the people online arent who they say they are and you dont want to put yourself in a dangerous situation. What I suggest you do is meet in public places initially until you build that trust.
2006-09-12 05:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally the warnings about not meeting a person from over the net and also the fact that some just want to talk and not meet up. i've only met a few, and tbh most of them were real jerks.
2006-09-12 05:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because the internet is seen as a safe way of flirting and fulfilling fantasies. A lot of time distance is the problem. You may be talking to someone and they may be across the country or in another country. I hope you have better luck. Someone may be waiting just for you. Good luck, sweetie.
2006-09-12 05:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by jacquelinebrns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult as a woman to believe the guy you're chatting to isn't a perv or serial killer.... I think you're doing pretty well, I've never met any of the guys I've chatted to!
2006-09-12 05:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋