i have paranoia issues to begin with, you don't have to tell me.
but... my girlfriend has had a very colorful past... if you know what i mean.
how can i learn to overcome and move forward with her without having to ever worry or question her honesty or faithfulness?
please help. i love her. i really want to trust her. thanks! :)
2006-09-12 05:07:00 · 11 answers · asked by andy-warhol-buyer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simple advice.
1) If she wants to leave you, there's nothing you can ever do to keep her.
2) If she wants to stay with you, there's nothing anybody can ever do to take her from you.
Your paranoia and untrust is more likely to take her from you than any 'other guy'.
2006-09-12 05:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy , you will just have to have some faith, if she loves you and says shes faithful then just believe it. If there is something glaring in your face then voice you concern and explaian why you feel the way you do , do not over burden here with ,questions and silly parinoid head trips , just go with the flow and take the relationship at face value, trust her completey until she does something to break that trust, you cant let her past dictate your future .......go with the flow and dont get jealous or act like an inspector for the FBI , if shes is gonna be unfaithful she will do it quicker if you constantly ask where she has been or question if she is lying to you or not ........go with the flow ,be a good person and pretend you trust her completely untill you really do
2006-09-12 05:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello this is my suggestion. just love her for what she is , and if you can,t get past the issues then i would move on. Cause with out the trust there is nothing left. but be patient. I am married to a bi female and i didn,t know it till we was married two years . So i kinda been there too. we been married 21 years now. she has only been with two other women and she asked first if it was alright firstmbefore she done anything so you can work thru it .
2006-09-12 05:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by sparkymiloindian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, she has to prove it to you for you to really trust her. It's better to suspect than to not even think about it, cuz if it happens the pain is worse when you trusted her 100%. There is always that what if factor, but don't let it bother you until it actually happens or at least until you find some clues. Enjoy your time together, live it to the fullest.
2006-09-12 05:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT rush yourself into trusting her. You need a gradual approach in order to avoid being hurt in the future. To speed it up a little bit, test your girlfriend. If possible, expose her to situations where she could be attracted to someone else, and if she passes the test then she is yours. Otherwise, she doesn't deserve your love.
2006-09-12 05:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by puckstorm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd like to ask you how do you know about her "colorful past" ?
if you know it from her, well that should prove to you that she is honest and maybe she wants a fresh start; if it's gossip, you shouldn't trust it...
stop torturing youself if you have no serious reasons, concentrate on better things, being paranoid and jelous might push her away faster than any other guy.
good luck! :)
2006-09-12 06:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to just put in blind trust until she gives you a reason not to trust her. If there is not trust there is no relationship. You are going to have to let her past be her past and let her move foreward with you on hers and your future. You are never going to be happy with her until you totally learn to forget her past and trust her now.
2006-09-12 05:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 21:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned.
However...... if you're not inclined to trust even when it is earned the only thing to do is settle yourself that she may stray.
Ask yourself if you'd want to lose her if she did.
Make a choice.
You may not be emotionally well enough to have a relationship.
2006-09-12 05:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust her and love her and hope she dose the same back to you
2006-09-12 05:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by poconewyorkwanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋