how important are "looks" when it comes to attracting a partner,most people claim to look for personality,but,is it realy possible to look past one`s exterior? if that makes any sense! im not gifted in the "looks" departmant,i would hate to think im a lost cause...
2006-09-12 05:06:27 · 17 answers · asked by CHARLIE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey don't worry about it, looks don't count if you are comfortable with your self as a person. Anyway attractive people grow old and their once cherished looks fade anyway. Enjoy being you, you will find someone i have no doubt, but also make sure you don't pass someone by because you aren't immediately attracted to them, give them a chance. I used to go for really cute lads, but i am happily settled with someone i wouldn't have looked twice at, all because he got talking to me and i thought he was great, we get on so well. ... he was a lot better than the gorgeous lad i went on a date with who boasted that he had 58 pairs of trainers... big deal, shallow!!! Also a lad who made my legs turn to jelly at the sight of him, soon had me running when i realized how dull and unambitious he was....
personality wins over all..
a happy positive out look and a smile will get you a lot further than a gorgeous face wearing a moody expression and a boring personality...
( although it would always be nice to have both eh?)
2006-09-12 05:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People would be lying if they stated they just look for personality because how can you even see (with the naked eye) someone's personality? Its not something you can visualize. There has to be some kind of spark initially which doesnt necessarily have to be in the looks department, it could be your manor or your conversation. You might have a little 'swagger' about yourself. Just cause you feel that you are not gifted in the looks department doesnt mean somebody else feels that way. Maybe you are just being honest or maybe you have a little poor self esteem. But just remember everybody is not looking for the same thing thats why everyone is not made the same. Dont be so hard on yourself; look at Tyrese and Puff Daddy.
2006-09-12 05:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think it is near impossible to see your future partner just strolling down the road looking gorgeous. Most people get with a partner after knowing them for a while, therefore seeing the attractiveness in their personality as well as in their looks. All of us are attractive through the right eyes
2006-09-12 05:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by quozy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could look at it 2 different ways,looks are nice,but personality is better.you see looks will fade after a while,but the personality will last a life time.what girl would like to be with ,a nice looking girl with a dull personality or a girl thats not so good looking with a great personality.ill take the not so good looking girl with a great personality anyday.now dont get me wrong,i dont want someone who can flag down a train,but someone who has some good looks and a great personality.
2006-09-12 05:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think personally at first there is a physical attraction, but then you may speak to the person and they just ain't for you.......on the long term it is the person you fall for ...............you could have a date with the best looking person just to find out that you don't get along or they are not that nice natured !!! Personality wins in the long run x
2006-09-12 05:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets not lie but looks are important for the first five minutes then look at sir clive sinclair, prince philllip, charles, rowan atkinson, micheal winner, lyle lovett, etc - it is the personality that keeps you going fun and kind and loving that is all with good manners and no issue also be interesting think of cool things to do etc good luck and dont focus on negatives all the time it makes you paranoid and pathetic seeming
2006-09-12 05:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by ruddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course the initial factor (assuming it not someone you are in ongoing contact with) will be 'looks'. Only a fool would let that be the deciding factor for a long term relationship. Of course all the above is superseded by MONEY!
2006-09-12 05:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks often are what first attracts a person but personality is the clincher. Talk to women, give them a chance to know your personality, you will find out that that can catch a female too.
2006-09-12 05:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by sweet smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get attracted to the whole package,,, I've met blokes that I didn't think were very attractive before, but their personalities were so good, it made them more attractive, when you love someone you love their looks because they're theirs... does that make sense?! Everyone is gorgeous to someone anyway... good luck
2006-09-13 09:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks aren't important to me at all. I met my husband on line and never knew how he looked until we met in person. I already loved him madly by then. Here we are, 10 years later, happily married, he has gained 65 pounds, is shorter than me, and you know what? I still adore him. To me he is gorgeous because he is such a wonderful person.
2006-09-12 05:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋