my girfriends son won't listen to her and won't sleep in his own bed, is there anything I can do to help?

Answer 1

Encourage your girlfriend that he has his own bed and needs to sleep in it... ask her if she wants her future 30 year old to come and sleep over? It is a lot of work and will take patience to move the child out into their own bed.

Answer 2

Have her watch Supernanny and you can pick up some very good methods. But CONSISTENCY is the key! Don't give in! They will love you and respect you more in the long run.
You just have to keep putting him back in his bed over and over until he finally stays. It's very hard and you will be lacking a decent night's sleep for a while. If he doesn't listen, get down to his level and calmly tell him that is not acceptable. Have a "naughty step" or time-out chair to put him in. If he gets up, put him there again. Punishment length is 1 minute for every year of age. If he's 3, he only has to sit there for 3 minutes, which seems like forever to a young child. Make him apologize after his punishment is over. You both have to follow the same rules, especially if you live together, or it won't work. All of this takes time and lots of patience, but you will all be happier in the long run. Good luck!

Answer 3

Kids love the attention of their parents. If they can't get this, they will insist on getting it until they get what they want.

There is nothing wrong with this. There will be the occasional time when they want to sleep in mommy's bed because of a bad dream or nightmare.. This will happen.

However, when they won't sleep in their own bed, it is best to use Humor when nothing else works..

Yes, Humor. Kids love to laugh. They love to feel good about themselves and all too. They will sleep in their own beds knowing that somebody shares their sense of the world with them and then make them laugh in the process.

With every humorous quote or saying, there is always a serious message too. It is very surprising at just how kids will respond when the message is brought across in a humorous level , instead of the "disciplinarian parent" level.

Kids love to be on the same level with their parents too. Parents should realize this.

Avoid any kind of physical abuse as well. This will only make things worse.

Answer 4

The most important thing to do is to establish a bedtime routine, like sitting quietly and reading a story before bed. Remove any distractions from the bedroom like a TV or games. If he gets out of bed, gently remind him that he's a big boy and can sleep in his own bed. Under no circumstance allow him in bed with you, you have to lay down the rules.

Answer 5

Stay out of it!
He's not your kid. Parents get real offended when the non-parent steps in.
You can talk to her, and maybe she can ask her son's pediatrician or devise some strategy for bedtime, but you can not try to interfere.
She needs to have the big boy stays in his own bed conversation with him. Get him a night light. A bed item, like a special stuffed toy, or pillow.
I suggest that she establish a routine for her son's bedtime.
Bath, pajamas, brush teeth, get into bed, Mom reads a story, good night. Put him back in bed when he gets out. No argument, no pleading, begging, bribing or whining on her part, with the boy. Repeat until he stays. Stick to the routine.
Eventually he'll do it, but she has to make it happen. Perseverance. Patience. You stay out of it!
Good luck

Answer 6

Your gf can't expect you to be understanding about this. You can't share a bed with her and her son at the same time. But, if you try to do something you are just going to drive a wedge between you and her. (Trust me, I've been there). I allowed my son to sleep in my bed when he was younger and it proved to be a lot of trouble when I was ready for him to sleep in his own bed.

He was 5 when he decided to start sleeping in his own bed. (Yes, 'He' decided). the best things you can do in encourage him to be a big boy, priase him for trying and make him want to do it. don't threaten him, don't punish him for not doing it. Keep in mind that it's not his fault he is sleeping in her bed, this is something that she allowed to happen and now she is taking away from him. Don't make it into more of a punishment!

Answer 7

You didn't say how old the son was. He could be just curious, thinking he'll miss something, or scared, or anything. How long have you been with his Mom? Have there been many men in and out of the kid's life and where is his father? Do you live with Mom or what?

Answer 8

i recognize it really is demanding to do, yet you need to be sure an afternoon that you've him sleep in his personal mattress, and enable him learn about it. you need to get him something particular for that day, and save reminding him all day that this evening he's gonna sleep in his mattress. This shall we him learn about it, so he's not taken aback, and the merciless section starts off, sticking to it. the longer you enable him sleep elsewhere the added sturdy it receives. take him into his mattress, examine him a narrative or something like that to settle him down, turn on a evening gentle or perhaps a track container once you've one, and then turn the gentle out and leave the room. he will upward push up, yet you in basic terms take him again to his mattress, do all of it over again, and again, and again, and again(minus the tale) be prepared this can take hours(on the grounds that he's been allowed to sleep elsewhere-he's gonna attempt to save it up by employing donning you down)or perhaps on a customary foundation of this recurring. sturdy success! yet my 2 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous daughter will run get in her mattress, dragging her blankie in the back of her which includes her undergo, she waits for her bedtime tale(an same one each and every evening and on the top even as contained in the tale the mommy says "hushabye" my daughter waves bye to me, leans as a lot as get her kiss, and snuggles in which includes her blankie and is going to sleep.

Answer 9

You or her will just have to start putting him in his own bed. Maybe have her stay in there with him till he falls asleep. Then if he gets up in the middle of the night and comes in your room. Take him back to his room and put him in bed. Maybe even put a night light in his room if there is not one already. Just stick with it and dont give in.

Answer 10

I have kids and as much as it sux she should lay down in HIS bed with him every nite until he can fall asleep on his own.He probably feels insecure at night.Not to scare u but my son is now 10 and just started to let me tuck him in and walk out of the room.Kids are needy and they are only small for so long.Or if it works out alternate who lays down w him w you sometimes and her sometimes.Try it ,it will work as long as u don't fall asleep first.lol.........