I have a fourteen month old daughter. It seems the past few weeks she has been ignoring everything I say and do to her. When she is bad, my family doctor suggested a light tap on the hand, enough for her to know she was wrong. That worked for a great while, but not recently. She does not listen to "No", a tap on the hand. I don't want to raise my voice or spank. I wonder if she is old enough to understand the meaning of time out. I know she has more teeth coming in, but with her past twelve teeth it did not result in her being bad. Any suggestions how to handle this?
2006-09-12 04:59:24 · 10 answers · asked by pearl_of_your_ocean 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I started implementing time out for my daughter.. who is around the same age as yours. The "no" didn't work.. she would also go as far as looking at me and doing it again or laughing when she did it. The tapping on the hand didn't work, because she started hitting herself and still doing the thing she wasn't supposed to.. but when I put her in time out.. her whole world crumbled.. I wanted to hug her.. but I knew.. if I did.. timeout would never work.. and you know what.. it worked.. and still does.
2006-09-12 05:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, your child is not bad. She is exploring her world around her. Babyproof your house. You have to get down at her level and discover what are the things she is curious about. This is also a great way to discover potential choking hazards as well. What can you do about them? Stop looking at your daughter and what you can do about her all the time.The environment is easier to fix and causes less stress on both parent and child. Even using the word no is not a very good technique. How would you like to be told no all the time? It damages self-esteem. Same thing for time outs. How do they build communication skills? What she's doing is perfectly natural. You need to give her praise on a frequent basis. You will find that your use of the word no will be greatly reduced. Get down on the floor and play with her!
I used to work in a baby room (6 weeks to 18 months old). Time out was never used at that age. We used to distract babies or switch activities to something else.
2006-09-12 05:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She is old enough for Time-Out. The rule of thumb for that is 1 yr=1 min and so on up the scale, but not to exceed 5 mins for a child under 5. The hand slap is good but needs to be more than a tap...and make sure that you have on your 'unhappy' face when you are correcting her so that she knows you are not happy with what she has done.
2006-09-12 05:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by HistoryMom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 15 month old baby boy, and he won't listen all the time when I tell him "don't". Even when he does he goes back in a minute and do it again, it's just funny for him, I guess. He likes to play around the computer, or TV, pull my internet cable out. He knows he is not suppose to,because when I tell him no, he moves away,or sometimes just look at me knowing he is in trouble.
Nothing I can do about it, I put everything away,he is locked out of the kitchen, bathrooms (because the water in the toilet looks fun too for him), and even my computer drawers are empty because he takes everything out of and try to eat it. :))
So, I guess, just keep telling her no, and slowly she'll learn,but she is too young to understand why.
Tap on the hand makes my baby laugh, and he loves when I run after him to try to get the new "treasure" he got. (like pens, books, or his favorite: my phone ).
Good luck, and don't stress it, she'll learn!
2006-09-12 05:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by hedychambers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness, she's still very little....she does not yet fully comprehend the meaning of what you're saying. PLEASE be very patient with her....it will come.
Make sure you have things put away that you don't want her touching or playing with, keep doors and windows closed (ones that she can get near), honestly, she is still too young to have ANY kind of harsh discipline at this time....don't worry she will get it in time, but this is where you have to have a ton of patience and just when you think you've run out....dig deep 'cuz you're going to need more.
She is exploring her world, testing her boundaries and all she needs from you is consistency...keep saying no, she won't understand time out at this age.
I applaud you for not wanting to spank her or raise your voice, neither of those things will get the desired results, it's just a way of adults venting their frustration.
Consistency and patience will get results.
2006-09-12 05:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Chatty 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to let her know that she has to listen. I put my son in time out at that age. i just kept telling him that he is in time out for whatever he did. If he tried to get up off the seat them I would sit in back down and tell him he is in time out. for a 14 month old you should only put them in time out no more than a minute.
2006-09-12 05:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lori K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's old enough for time out. Put the chair somewhere and each time she gets up, take her back to the chair to sit her down.
2006-09-12 05:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
She's at a tesy age early. Keep up with the "NO" and try redirecting her when she is up to something she shouldnt be.
2006-09-12 05:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son used to do that he is five now but when he was that little i would get down to his level and look him in the eye and tell him simply what i wanted and when i would see him behaving i would get down and praise him but i would always get down to his level.
2006-09-12 09:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is so young so take it easy and grow up.
2006-09-12 05:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by pirateron 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋