My husband went to pick up our son from his afterschool daycare to find him being smacked around with one of the large sit-on bouncing balls by an older boy and the staff standing there paying no attention to it and talking amongst themselves till they saw that he was there to pick up our son. My husband didn't say anything to the staff because he was so upset and did not want to say or do anything he might regret. So I called the following morning and was told that what husband saw was not what happened and given a different story. What to do?
2006-09-12 04:57:48 · 48 answers · asked by N 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
They are lying and rying to underplay the whole issue. It all depends as to how do you want to rear your child. Fighting, bullying etc is very natural, normal and useful for kids and thats what teaches them to defend themselves and live upto adverseries. If you feel that the age difference was too much or that they smacked him badly then you have all the rights to raise the issue strongly with the school
2006-09-12 04:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mash 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have a meeting with the staff and your husband to get the full story before conclusion are made. IF you feel they are negligent
based on the circumstances inform the center you are pulling your child out and you filing a complaint with Social Services. There should have been an accident report filed and given to you and your child should have been supervised. Let go of any deposit and pull your child at once. Do your research and find a high quality daycare center better yet stay home. This is what happens when you in trust people to care for your children. The result never matches up to that of parental care. Don't play with the life of your child. Next time it might be fatal.
2006-09-12 05:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First things first, you should never let them push you around. Be firm in telling them that what you saw was what was happening. If the teachers still deny it take it up with the director of the daycare. Should the denial continue on you must report this to the state (I'd almost venture to say you should in the first place. While I realize that the teachers cannot keep a constant eye on all children at all time, this is a blatant case of neglect since the teachers were talking amongst themselves. You might even want to notify the director of the daycare of the employee's behavior.). Also, I don't know how many children and teachers were present, but I know for most states there is a ratio (in Iowa its one teacher per 4 kids). Double check and make sure the daycare is not in violation of state regulations for day care provisions. Good luck!
2006-09-12 05:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by princezz051 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Involve the police. My daughter who is mixed and lives in a small town has been harassed because of her color. She was cut by a boy with a pair of scissors and all they did is have the boy apologize. A later that same boy and another boy along with him were shoving her to the ground repeatedly. The staff did nothing about this other than to make the boy apologize again. This time I told them if there were another incident I would call the police and press charges against both the school and the child's family. I haven't had an incident in a year now.
2006-09-13 12:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by TheMightyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is a daycare and not a public school, if you can't resolve the problem with the staff...I would change daycares. I know how tough it is finding a good daycare and how stressful it is for a child to change daycares, but it would be worth it. I used to work in a daycare and we had a couple of bullies in there and I told the parents to demand that the bullies be removed from the daycare. After a couple of incidents and the parents being firm, the problem children were removed from the daycare. Tough situation, good luck!
2006-09-12 05:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would contact my local police department and district attorney's office and file a report against the daycare. Get as much proof as you can about what happened. I would also pull my child out of that daycare ASAP. Don't be afraid to use legal action against the daycare. Children don't have the judgement that adults do- it is the daycare's responsibility to protect your child. If they lie to you about something you're husband saw, just think what they may hide from you when you're away. Your child's mental and physical health is THE most important thing. Protect your child and take the appropriate action to prevent this from happening to your child or someone else's child again.
2006-09-12 14:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 - Take your child out of that daycare. A lot worse can be going on and you have no clue. It could have been going on for a long time and just so happens you were lucky to have your husband witness it.
#2 - Call your local news. They LOVE to investigate these types of stories!!!!!!
#3 - Call and report them to the police. File charges.
You could have been the lucky one. The next parent may not! Wouldn't you feel horrible if you knew this was one incident and didn't report it, and the next child was fatally hurt? That would play on your conscience!
Good luck!!!
2006-09-12 05:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went tp ick up my Son from daycare when he was 3 years old. He had bruises on his face and arms. The staff said they were short handed and only had one woman to watch the children. It was not an excuse in my book.
So my offer was this. I aksed them to refund me my entire cost of the daycare for the 6 months my child attended or I wouls Sue them.
They said they cannot refund me 6 motnhs. So I got an attorney and two weeks later, I was refunded all my money.
NOw the question here is what would you do in your case?
2006-09-12 05:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time it is seen by either you or your husband bring it to the attention of the staff immediately and if they still deny it then wait for the parents of the other child to come pick up their child and speak to them. If it continues I would remove my child from that after school child care and find another!! Your child deserves better then that and should not have to be put through that!!
2006-09-13 04:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Immediately withdraw your child from this daycare and file charges with the police department. The daycare has the responsibility of caring for your children and dealing with severe disciplinary issues such as this, and if they are falling behind on this duty, it is a danger to all children.
2006-09-12 05:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by JenV 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
as a daycare teacher/director i suggest you direct your complaint to the head director or owner... if they continue to deny something you or your spouse saw personally i suggest you remove the child from the center and file a report with the appropriate dept in your state. that type of behavior out of staff is not acceptable.
2006-09-12 17:11:11 · answer #11 · answered by crazynanner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋