Think about your current significant other or one you have had from the past if you are single--how much bullsh*t do you think you could take before you actually had to break things off?
I hear people say that the ultimate betrayal is cheating and they would kick them out in a minute over it--but one can't really say what their reaction would be unless they had been in the same position before. Do you agree?
2006-09-12 04:56:34 · 23 answers · asked by WonderTwit 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How much pain and suffering can one person inflict on another person in a relationship - might be a better question. Some people are just rotten. They know when their partner is besotted and they just walk all over them.....no regard for their feelings whatsoever. It's sad that so many of us do not recognize this at the time - we just forgive them and go back for more of the same. In later years we look back and ask ourselves why we allowed such a situation to continue for so long. It sounds like you are very unhappy. Is your other half cheating on you? If so - let em go. It IS the ultimate betrayal and you need to take back control of things and say "No - I deserve better than this!" Don't be bitter though - just put it down to experience and ask yourself - what can I learn from this??? Better luck next time!
2006-09-12 05:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was a one night stand and he hasn't seen the person since, then I say give it another chance. But then you would have to be 100% sure that he wasn't lying to you, but if he didn't tell you about it in the first place then how can you be so sure that he is even telling you the truth.
If he cheated once, would he do it again if given the opportunity?
These are things that ONLY you can can answer. You could take the advice of someone on here and hate them in the end because it didn't turn out the way you wanted...even my advice for that matter.
So you have to do what YOU feel is right on this one.
Best of Luck and if you have faith in your own judgement then everything will turn out for the best.
2006-09-12 12:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by dolphins31369 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have been betrayed. You love him,he's cheated on you and you still want to be with him. You love him so much you can't stand the thought of being without him. Take some time, just for yourself...quiet time when you will not be disturbed...ask yourself what love really means to you. Do you see this being displayed in this relationship? I remember a relationship I once had. I had some wonderful moments.....almost any relationship will have good MOMENTS....the deal is...is that REALLY enough for you?......just moments. Nobody knows the EXACT nature of anyone else's relationship...I think you are really hurting and I hope you will have the strength to do what is needed for your well-being...whatever that may be. Good luck,friend. I'll say a prayer for you right now.
2006-09-12 12:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how strong your relationship is and how much YOU are willing to put up. Every relationship is different. I personally couldn't be with someone who cheated just because I've dealt with it in the past. I don't want a STD or anything like that. No one can make your mind up, you need to ask yourself was it a one time thing or will it continue to happen.
2006-09-12 12:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by peds LPN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That true! Cheating is it and lies. I think it depends on the person. The way you feel for this person and how much time you invested. If you see the relationship moving foward try to work through it. If no progress nip it in the bud and move on you can do bad by yourself.
2006-09-12 12:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't take any bulls**t. Probably that's why I'm not yet in any relationship. I will advice you to be ready to practice patience and lungsuffering before you make up your mind. If you are already in a bad r/ship...quit now! You can have good friends to keep life goingand more interesting.
2006-09-12 12:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Oyesiri E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that cheating is enough but, like you said you would have to be in that situation. I have'nt been cheated on but, I think if he cheated on me then i couldn't salvage the relationship because that is serious betrayel and i don't think i would be able to look at him the same and that would just kill it right there
2006-09-12 11:59:44 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree. Love, however, isn't supposed to hurt. I don't think I would take very much unhappiness before moving on. Life is too short to be unhappy.
2006-09-12 11:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was married to a cheater for 11 years i kept telling myself it was for the kids but eventually you wake up and say what the @#*& was i thinkin! Yes you do come to the point of thats enough buddy hit the road and when you reach that point youll know it and your life will be better for it!
2006-09-12 12:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by heatherrox_1975 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree with you. each person is unique and he/she reacts diffrently to the pain he/she experiences in the realtiosnhip. sometimes, when a person is so much in love with her/his partner, she becomes blinded by her/his emotion that he/she forgets to think about her/him self anymore.
that's why it is always important to integrate the will and the intellect especially when a person is so much in love so that he/she could still think what is best for her/him.
when you have no self-respect and dignity left for yourself anymore and you have already given so much of yourself to other person, then it is high time to let go.
2006-09-12 12:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by smiling face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋