if someone that you loved so deeply and put everything on the line for stabbed you in the back and broke your heart so much that at one point you wanted to die just to get rid of the pain that was overwhelming you....how do you find a way to put that behind you and give the person another chance to make a future together?
2006-09-12 04:42:40 · 31 answers · asked by babygirla718 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forgiveness will come with time, as time heals all wounds. But more importantly, you need to ask yourself why are you giving someone who caused you so much pain a second chance? Do you want your emotions to be walked on again? And do you want to be treated like a used rug? Think about it.
Those are the bigger questions here.
2006-09-12 04:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, I'm going through the same thing now with my man. Only you can decide if this is the right person for you, just be sure to consider all aspects of your relationship and seriously ask yourself if this person can make you happy. Are you willing to get look past the hurt and forgive? I tell my man I may someday forgive him for being an idiot but that I will never forget his betrayal. This is important because you must find forgiveness in your heart if it's going to work but you also need to remind yourself that if it ever happenes again, RUN!!! It's a struggle to not have the same fight over and over but at the very least you can try. Like I said, I'm having the same problems lately so I know it's difficult to keep your emotions from controlling your behavior. Take some time off for yourself to get your thoughts and feelings in order before you make any decisions. If this person is really worthwhile he/she will respect your choice to distance yourself for a little while so you can sort things out for yourself. Good luck!!!
2006-09-12 05:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a golden rule I am your friend/mate you hurt me once I forgive you and give you a chance to not do it again or hurt me any way shape or form, you do it again, I may never trust you ever again in my life and if I do for change my mind you will have to earn that trust back, and I hear your pain but you know what its not worth hurting yourself over someone else stupid ways of life, there are so much more fish in the sea and I am sure you can find someone who will not hurt you in anyway. But its you if you want to give it another chance no one can tell you yes or no, its you that has to think about it, if you do will it happen again, if you dont what life could you have that maybe better then the one you were in.
2006-09-12 04:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this...I thought this woman loved me like I loved her....I hoped & prayed for her to reconsider and that we'd have another chance but I don't want to get hurt by her again...it was too painful and while I still love her a lot, she had some issues about me that affected our relationship and hurt my feelings and things could never be the same again! I still want to be friends, she's a good woman but I'm skeptical of another chance and it's best just to move on for now...you should just do the same! It's painful & hard to do but it's the best solution!
2006-09-12 05:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Damned fan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i was once in your shoes
u need to stay strong
balance everything out
ask yourself is it worth it to go through that pain again
but before u take him back
u need to see that this person has change thru consistency
make sure he is in for the long run
not because of dependency
keep your head up
u r a strong individual
this situation made u stronger i hope u know that
if anything email me
i could give u advice on things
peterfl999@yahoo.com
2006-09-12 06:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are afraid to get hurt again and i don'ty blame you. I think you should still forgive him even though you and him may not get back together. Forgiving him willl make you feel so much better about yourself.
Don't give up on life you had a life before he existed to you.
2006-09-12 04:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl i wouldn't go back you are going to open it all back up again and going to let you down harder i know from experience and it is best to move on to better things and believe me all of this will pass by in time so hang in there.
2006-09-12 04:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship heartbroken is part of our life, it hurt and you want to do everything to get rid of the hurt. But remember hurt is problem....problem needs a solution.......solution are so many kind.....if you find the solution you should accept it , put aside the hurt and f orgive the person who hurt you.....
2006-09-12 04:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by ETan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to ask yourself, "Is this man worth it?" or can you seriously be with him day to day without thinking about what he has done? If he is worth it to you, then you can put it behind you. One word of advice is do not bring it up over and over because that will seriously kill any rekindling. Try to think about the good times and the positive things about him.
2006-09-12 04:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Geez, if you could learn to trust someone like that again then you are a better person than me!
Then again, most people are better than me, because I'm a cartoon baddie.
2006-09-12 04:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mumrah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋