My 9 yr old with adhs real mom just came back into his life she ahs no rules no bed time and rewards negative behavior even lets him go to the store with no shoes. He goes there every other weekend now and his older sister 14 lives there The school says that is behavior is awful on Mondays after he ahs been there they cant get him to focus at all. How do we tell her to parent better cause it hurts him
2006-09-12 04:42:39 · 7 answers · asked by arkansas-gal 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if all three for u can get 2gether & talk about the childs behavior it would be a great start.ask the mother too go to the school with you guys so that she can hear from the school that what she is doing to her son is not helping him.childern need structure in there live.
2006-09-12 05:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by tooz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the 'real' mom know this is making huge problems for her- I use the word loosely- son? My oldest nephew's biological father was nothing to brag about. The grandmother is a good sort, but it took her a while to learn to put her foot down- and until she did learn, the boy was always hard to deal with after a visit to her.
Make sure your son understands what the rules are in your house, and that they will be enforced. And if worse comes to worst, you may indeed have to cut the visits out- though that will probably involve the courts.
Good luck with the boy: A normal 9 year old can be difficult, and with ADHD is more so.
2006-09-12 11:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a meeting with her. Don't come out & say you are parenting bad but talk about keeping his schedule consistant & correcting negative behavior the same way. That way the child gets consistant treatment at both homes.
2006-09-12 11:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the mom is from Mims, Fl. LOL! Tell her what's going on and also threaten to call family services if things don't change. You should be keeping a journal as well. Very helpful to look back on!!! I wouldn't suggest killing her.
2006-09-12 11:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is affecting him then maybe you should get an attorney involved and go to court limiting his time with his mother. I have a conversation with her and let her know that she has to set rules for him because he needs structure. If it continues or gets worse then involve the attorney. Good Luck with your situation.
2006-09-12 11:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know. It sounds like you might have to get the courts involved. Don't let this woman do this to you. Kill her if you have to.
2006-09-12 11:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by pws8us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her if she doesn't straighten out he isn't go for visits anymore
2006-09-12 11:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋