I have a 3 year old son who just will not listen. I have tried giving him time-outs, I've tried praising him for good behavior. On the rare occasion I do spank him he just laughs at me. Any suggestions?!
2006-09-12 04:37:45 · 29 answers · asked by princezz051 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Time outs consist of 3 minutes sitting in a chair. I usually give him 3 chances to sit there by himself before I sit him on my lap. His favorite toys are off-limits for the day. Unfortunately I can't take away tv/movies since he never watches them (by his choice). Also, the reward system hasn't worked in the past. As far as the spankings go, I know I do it hard enough since there is a red mark there that lasts a couple minutes.
2006-09-12 05:43:21 · update #1
Listen... truly listen to this and your life will be so much better. Be stern. I know that you feel bad being "mean" to him but you can't let a 2 year old child have any idea in the world that you are there puppet. Whatever you say to your child make sure you come through. There is nothing else worse than empty threats. If you say I am going to put you in your room if you do _____ again, you best do exactly that if they do. Use tones which are a lot more easy for children to understand necessarily then words. Don't yell but speak strongly while making eye contact. They will do what you want them to do once they realize that Mommy isn't going to give into me anymore. These are the years that they develop there personality and if they walk all over you now they will walk all over you years from now and honestly they aren't going to remember you being "mean" to them at this age. Think about it... what do you remember from when you were 2? Good luck and please try this. It will be hard at first because they are used to getting there own way or you being soft but he will soon forget that Mommy and start to respect this one.
2006-09-12 06:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, first thing you need to know is if he laughed at a spanking then it was not spanked hard enough for it to be effective. But what I have found to work well is turning his feelings around, what I mean about that is you should show him that he is hurting your feelings and that's something no child wants to do (hurt mommy). At first he will laugh but if your acting skills are practiced then he can and will be convinced. When something is taken away from him or if he gets a time out that time out should be enforced and not altered at all. This will take time as he already has complete control and it will be hard for him to give that up, but he will and you will be much happier and have a happier child. Trust me I have experience.
2006-09-12 04:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my sons was just like that. One time when I sent him to his room he told me you think that hurts. I have a TV, a stereo, a VCR, movies, books and toys there. When I was done with his room there were 2 beds ( his and his older brothers) and a Bible. Their room stayed that way for a month. His older brother did all the rest of the punishing. It worked!.
Have you tried taking away something that he likes, a favorite toy
or game for a while. Explain to him that when he learns to behave he will get it back. Also be form with the time outs, when he gets up just put him back again. Also talk to him and find out why he is misbehaving, is there something that is bothering him?
Above all, keep in mind that this is probably just a stage he is going through and he will be his lovable self again soon.
2006-09-12 05:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by brendagho 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The day holiday is unquestionably a thank you to circulate. take a seat her down someplace like interior the front room or the kitchen and then walk far off from her, yet determine you're someplace the place you will see her and she or he will't see you. then you could save a watch on her and make sure she remains positioned. enable her cry her little eyes out, and as quickly as she is done, then you circulate as much as her with a peaceful yet stern voice and tell her what she did incorrect and inspire her to say sorry. you merely ought to be the mother, be the guideline maker and be somebody she will discover ways to understand, whether she is feeling disillusioned. and of direction, as quickly as each and everything has been taken care of out, fairly some love is the terrific therapy! solid success!
2016-10-14 22:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by ranford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come up with a reward system. Even three year olds know that if they act good for a few days they can go get ice cream, etc. Be consistent. If his punishment is no toys when he has a temper tantrum then stick with it. Eventually he will grow out of it. Hang in there. Good Luck!
2006-09-12 04:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What has worked for me with all five of my kids is I count 1, 2 ,3. 1 is to get their attention, 2 is stop now and if I have to say 3 then the punishment comes. (think of a traffic light. go, caution, stop now.) It gives them a chance to stop and think of what they are doing. (works great in public too.) Also with my 3 1/2 yr old, when he gets really upset or obnoxious, I talk to him really close in a whisper. It makes him calm down enough to deal with as rationally as you can with a toddler. Hope this helps and good luck.
2006-09-13 03:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by mom2mbkcr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we use the bad girl/boy corner.. they seem to hate knowing that thats their area when they are bad.. they have to stand there or sit there... for about 5 minutes i guess its the longest 5 minutes of their life.. it has worked for us.. Or u could take away all toys expect like 10 then each time he`s bad u take away one toy and put it in a box in your room where he cant get to them. Then if he countinues to behave bad u take away another toy. So then if he runs out of toys then he has to earn them back.
2006-09-12 05:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This new world has everyone thinking it is wrong to spank your child. As the Bible says "Spare the Rod Spoil the Child". Trust me I grew up with these values and was spanked and Im a better man and better father for following these guidlines.Never spank in anger and trust me your not spanking hard enough if he is laughing.
2006-09-12 04:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by oldnavy_76 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
there are special rules the mom has to listen to when you put a child in "time out"
this will help you as long as you follow every instruction. I have this posted at my home for my parents to see. (I am a licenced day care provider) and it works on my kids, 4 and 5 years old.
http://www.dbpeds.org/articles/detail.cfm?TextID=28
2006-09-12 04:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he disobeys you, just get to his level, look right in his eyes and say why he was naughty and stuff with an ''angry'', ''serious'' tone if you understand. But if it doesn't work, just try and try again. But if it works, tell him then that he must sit somewhere in a corner for example for like 5 minutes. After that, repeat why he had to sit in the corner and tell that he has to say sorry and that he means it.
2006-09-12 05:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Chelsea Blue ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋