Can I judge a person by their past? If a person had a crazy past, such as?

Question

drug use for 10 years, drinking and sex? However they want a new life and are showing to me with actions, is that enough?

Answer 1

I don't know and the person who is promising you to be different doesn't know either.

You're really rolling the dice on this one.

Answer 2

Of course it is enough!! You can't judge someone for what they have done in thier past.... You wouldn't want to be judged now would you? No I didn't think so. Just think of it this way, if that person hadn't gone through / experienced those things then they wouldn't be the same person that they are right now. We all have pasts and we all have made mistakes. We all learn and grow from the things we go through in every day life. I am not telling you to completely forget about what you have been told but take it with a grain of salt, file it away for refrence. NEVER throw it in the persons face. You can't hold something that happened before you were in the picture in against someone. Just be aware of signs of relapse tho. s h i t happens... sometimes people will return to whats comfortable. Good luck

Answer 3

Don't ever be trapped in such romanticism that you can give some one a new chance in life.If some one has such a past as you have described you should always observe him and try his friendship.My personal experience says that only 10% of them seriously want to change.They become parasite after a year or too and you can never get rid of them.

Answer 4

I don't think you or anyone else has the right to judged anyone. We are all humans and all make mistakes. But we learn from our mistakes and continue in the right direction of life. What helps a lot is having the support of friends and loved ones. If you love this person be by their side and support them every step of the way. If you say this person is showing you with action and not with words they are really trying to be a different person then what makes you wonder? Put yourself in their shoes how would you fill if people continue to judged you after you are trying to change for the better? It takes a lot of will and power to want to change your life, especially when you are addictive to drugs. My respects to this person for being strong enough and willing enough to want to change their life.. My question to you is, do you think you are strong enough to be there by their side every step of the way? I really hope yo say yes believe it or not you would make a big difference in their life and in yours too. God put you in this person's path for a reason.... Remember a kind gesture lasts a lifetime and generosity is a sign of a great soul..

Answer 5

You could judge a person based on their past because in many instances past behavior predicts future behavior. However, would you want someone to base your entire being on the mistakes that you have made in your past especially if you have learned from them and were able to move on and grow as an individual? Everyone makes mistakes and/or has lived certain lifestyles that they most likely now live to regret...If there are actions beyond their words and if you really believe that they are changing why judge them on their past? If anything, your judgement of them should be based on their present behavior and should go from there...

Answer 6

I think you should look at the person now and ask yourself was he really changed if he has not changed than yes you can judge but you also got to ask why 10 years ago did he do that to him self i think their is a story behind it but if there's no then ya you can judge a person by there past

Answer 7

I Actually knew someone like this. He has reformed and shown total remorse. He has tuned his life around. So I would say based on this, what do you think? I say if he REALLY is repentant and has gotten his act together or is making an honest effort, you can't really judge them by their past. Because he was honest about his past, It was easier to trust him. If they are currently drinking or doing drugs your don't want this person in your life. However, I also know someone who REFUSES to rid themselves of drugs and alcohol. This person is also lazy and refuses to get a job.

Answer 8

Well, if person has such a past that you describe itş very easily that they can in near future or already, suffer from some disease...are you willing to risk your life for someone with such prone to addiction?

Answer 9

I have been involved with a guy for almost 3 years now and when we hang out with his friends they tell me the crazy things he used to do but he has grown up a bit since then and says that he could never do those things again. So I don't think you should judge someone from their past.... only from their future with you.

Answer 10

Depends on a lot of things, for one how long they've stopped with the drinking and sex. Some people put the past behind them, some people do so long enough to get married then fall back into it. Very hard to say, you have to be very careful.

Answer 11

I agree with the first two, although you might need to be a bit more cautious in determining that the person is sincere. This is especially true for a woman considering marriage, who must be very careful at all time. Consider a reasonably long engagement and see if this holds, if marriage is what you're contemplating.