me and this really awsome girl have talked for years via mail, web phone you name it but have never met in person... She lives some 1800 miles away on the other side of the u.s.
we are both currently single and cant stop CRAZY flirting... the idea of us meeting keeps getting brought up....
this obviously has been brought up before but never happened as we were both young- now we are in our mid 20's.
While i would like nothing more than to meet her i cant stop asking myself "OK so what if its like BAM instant connection, then what - well i'll see ya time to go home"
basically when the chance of a SUPER long distance relationship could happen is it even worth starting? What ya think and what should i do???
2006-09-12 04:17:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK sorry should have said...OOOOOOO my GOD no shes not ugly...... infact she is INCREDIBLY HOT... perfectly my type.
and its not bs as i have poloroids, digitals, high school photos 35mm you name it... its definetly her.
i appriciate the concern regarding her looks though LOL
2006-09-12 04:30:11 · update #1
Take a chance go meet her
2006-09-12 04:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by CJM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I've read all the other answers and I just want to wring the necks of some of the people. Don't listen to the ones that say, "go meet her and have sex"!!! That's just bull. I've been chatting on the net for over 10 yrs and have met some pretty interesting guys, most were here and others far away I still haven't met YET.
There is this one guy who lives in California, I'm in Arizona. Granted it's not 1800 miles, but we got off to a good start in chatting and finally 4 yrs later he was in Phoenix on a business trip, so I went to meet him for lunch before he had to go back the same day. Even though it was only a 2 - 3 hr visit, we had an awesome time. We just sat and chatted and it seemed that we had more to talk about than we ever did...funny cos nothing seemed to be a repeat of the past four years from the web chatting. That was over three years ago.
This is my answer to your question: If you get the chance, meet on UNfamiliar ground. Don't go to her and don't let her go to you. Meet somewhere in the middle or something. If you stay for longer than a day, don't stay in the same hotel either! Make sure you go to separate places after each meeting. Never invite her to your hotel. This way you both can see what the impact is of either of you leaving each time after seeing each other.
I've got friends that have gotten married and are now living wonderful lives because of the internet. True, there are bad people out there, but if you are careful and don't talk to anyone unless you see a picture (web cam or pic in a REAL setting) then you will be good to go.
P.s. the guy I went to Phoenix to meet, we are still VERY good friends and we continue to talk on an almost daily basis.
2006-09-12 04:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by dolphins31369 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since it's been YEARS..then I say yes...it would be worth it to most certainly meet by now. Would be sad not to after all that. You can get flights these days even across country for just a few hundred dollars...that I think would be worth meeting someone you've been corresponding with for YEARS. Why don't you decide first who will fly to who...then split the air-fare. My son has flown from Pittsburgh, PA to San Diego, CA on $200 (round trip) Just do it! lol BUT, try to meet each other with open minds...if the BAM you mentioned is there - that's great! The "then what?" will work itself out. But if no BAM..don't be disappointed...still be happy for meeting your 'friend' of many years. You'll be asking yourself your whole life what each other was like if you don't meet now...not with so many years of writing..now ya have to meet.
Good luck!
2006-09-12 04:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was you I would go meet her. Its not too many times you can have a really good relationship with somebody just talking to them. You obviously, and she obviously, are into each others personalities, and thats great. So the worst that can happen is yall want to be together, and thats great too. Then yall need to take that one step at a time. This could very well be your soul mate... and well.. if you dont do it, u might regret it for the rest of your life. Life is all about taking risks.. Whatever you choose to do tho, I hope it makes you happy. Good luck, and congratulations.
2006-09-12 04:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by misskaykai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both want to meet, go for it. Long distance relationships are hard but you can make it work if you both desire. Is there a chance that one or the other of you will eventually move to where the other lives to be together? If not, dont waste each others time on a relationship where you two wont ever be together. Good luck
2006-09-12 04:22:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me, but we were in different countries (7000 miles away from each other) and it certainly was like BAM! Eventually, I decidedcided to give it a shot and move with him to his country, it's been 2 years and I don't regret de decision I made.
If you like each other a lot and think you have a chance of getting serious, you'll find a way to go beyond that first meeting. Just go with the flow and give it a try, you don't want to grow old and regret not having met with this awesome girl
2006-09-12 04:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would want to meet the person. I would hate to spend the rest of my life wondering, What if.....
If you guys meet and it is an instant connection then figure it out. Happiness and love does not happen every day, take advantage of it.
Worst case, you meet and there is nothing. You still have your friendship and the questions have been answered.
2006-09-12 04:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by kellbell_62084 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is super likely that the following will happen:
You: hey I'm this guy
Her: Hi!
Silence
Her: Lets have sex!
You do, non stop for a week
You: Hey, this was fantastic but I have to go home now
Her: I know
I don't think it will go any other way and at the end of it you will be far MORE determined to try something with her. I'm not saying you can't, and I'm not saying it will work out, but you'd only be torturing yourself unless you found a way to move there.
I say go, have the sex, but try to curb your new relationship puppy dog feelings afterwards unless you want to try and make the life altering changes to live near her.
2006-09-12 04:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you like eachother enough you can make it work somehow but cross that bridge when you come to it, yes, i think you should meet, you have to take risks or you'll never know and that will drive you insane as you'll always be wondering 'what if'. What have you got to lose at this point?! Good luck for both of you.
2006-09-12 04:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by missy minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should.. Since you have talked & chatted for years!! Imagine if you are not goin to make the trip & meet up.. U will only end up with regret & 'what ifs"... Believe me.. u dont wanna b in that situation..I m sure that u do tink bout her most of the time & putting your life on hold.. Which i dun tink will be good.. But its happenening to me too..
In fact, i m gonna b meeting sumone that i have chatted for bout 2years (everyday) & have not met..
Trust me.. Long distance could work only if you want it too..
Good luck mate!!! Hell..Mayb u shud tell the outcome!!
Cheers..
2006-09-12 04:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Belle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should waste another couple of years emailing her and then meet when you're both 90 and spend a week together before ye die. OF COURSE go meet her - if ye get on one of ye will just have to move -chances are anyway you two will meet and be allergic when your dream flirtathon comes to an end.
2006-09-12 04:20:44 · answer #11 · answered by Its me! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋