Please be honest, and answer truthfully.?
Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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3 hours ago
But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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5 hours ago
I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-12 04:02:10 · 12 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ruin a perfectly good friendship. You're still really, really young. You've got all the time in the world to hang out with girls.
Seriously.
2006-09-12 04:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by her letter, I think she's very clearly asking you to back off the love thing and get back to being just a normal friend.
When you've known someone for long, you have a comfort level with them, and thus the body language is more friendly and closer. Since it's seen as an asexual relationship, touching is seen as nothing more than it is. And that's probably how you were.
But after you've told her how you feel, she's more aware of the fact that you see her differently. Having known you for so long, she probably finds it awkward that you feel this way towards her. Thus she's distant from you, yet close to the others she knows, because with them she's safe knowing that they don't feel romantically inclined towards her.
Also, the thing about her never having had a relationship, it doesn't really matter, if that was the matter, she'd be shy and unsure; she sounds pretty sure in that letter.
For now, I suggest you go back to being the buddy you always were, or you'll risk losing that friendship you treasured. Though be prepared, it's going to be tough pretending things are back to normal. Best of luck.
2006-09-12 12:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by friedpaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is respect her wishes. Just keep being her friend. She is 13 and your 15. She might not be as mature as you are and needs more time. Friendship is the best thing to start a relationship. If you keep being her friend then someday maybe something more will blossom. It does happen. Also move on and date someone new. Seeing you with other girls might make her wonder what she is missing and in the meantime you might find someone else that you like just as much. Give her space. You can't make someone love you but if she does she will come around. Good Luck
2006-09-12 11:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK best advice ever IMO for you. You are young she is young far to young for a relationship because neither of you know what you want at your ages, which is true in most cases. You have a crush that will fade over time. Give her space and let her go. Move on, find a hobby, go out with friends, play paintball just do something other then think of her. Most of all GET A GRIP you are a young man growing up to be a real man. At least try to act like one. If you need help ***** slap yourself in the mirror and repeat these words "I will move on".
2006-09-12 11:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop. She doesn't like you. Accept it. Move on, repeat after me, Fu*k her. Say that over and over again. It's always tough to lose that first girl you care about. Remember this- You can come out of a situation stronger or weaker. Trust me there will be others. But not until you put this one behind you. Now say it again Fu*k her, quit giving a damn about her. Listen to yourself man, you sound like a little girl. Why do you even want to settle with one girl at your age. Do you know how many girls I had kissed by the time I was 19? 100. I had made out with 100 girls. You have four years to hit that level. Save the relationship for when you get older. Be young wild and free, while you're young or you will always regret it.
Sorry to be so hard on you, but I'm not your mom, I'm not going to tell you to be nice to her and she'll come back. That sh*t doesn't work, your mom doesn't know how to pick up chicks. I know how to pick up chicks so listen to me. Now say it one more time for me. Fu*k her. You can get a girl who's hotter, funnier. Trust me, there are a billion girls out in the world and chances are she's not at the top of the ladder.
2006-09-12 11:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your best option is just be friends for now. Because you do not want to come across as too intense! which you are now! You need to be having fun, hang around other people. She will be more likely to grow attracted to you, if you look like your having fun with life, as she will see you would be a cool boyfriend cause she will have fun if she is with you. But don't be too clingy. Girls hate clingy, insercure, jelouse boys. Be fun, spontanous, and a little bit bad> Then she will go for you!
2006-09-12 11:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest, your 15, you really shouldn't be worrying yourself with relationships right now. You have your entire life to worry about things like that. Enjoy your teenage years, have fun with your friends, go out, get into trouble (not too much though)....don't hold yourself back with relationships, there'll be plenty of time for that when you're in college and after-wards.
But if you insist on pursuing her, it does appear that she's a bit hesitant. Not necessarily that she doesn't like you, but what you need to do is not push her so much and if it's meant to be it'll happen.
2006-09-12 11:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by SimpleBinary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Using another ID doesn't mean we don't realize that you've asked this question over 100 times now.
Get a life.
2006-09-12 11:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw "let it go". Live your life. If she wants you, maybe she'll have sense enough to come around eventually. You're probably like her safety net or something. Don't sweat it and don't sweat her. If it's meant to be, it'll happen!
2006-09-12 11:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gail R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, youre sensitive. thats a good thing. um, just give her space, and be a good friend to her. and maybe when you guys mature a little bit, something might happen. but be happy just having a good friend.
2006-09-12 11:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by sx_rx_rocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋