We went out for 2 tears then she left me on our 2 year aniversary. She says that she needs to spend "Her time with her" and thats why she left me. Now, I found out that her Universaty Grades are dropping, she's spending way to much money on booze and going out with friends and weekends away. How can I tell her that I love her in a subtle way. I hav to write it in an birthday card... Please help.
2006-09-12 03:55:09 · 20 answers · asked by toodead2bury 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
"Im in love with you" works well.
2006-09-12 03:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get her a birthday card that will make her laugh. The least you can do is get her in a good mood. If you're delivering the card yourself, great. You have time to be as honest as possible and express your concerns about her behavior and how she's changed. If you can't deliver the card yourself, then you need to write out your feelings well.
I don't think we here can offer you outstanding advice...it's really all on your shoulders, no matter what we tell or or how we tell you to do it.
I can, out of experience, however, tell you that honesty will take you all the way. If it doesn't, then at least you know there's nothing more that you possibly could have done.
2006-09-12 03:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. Why no longer tell her? it rather is what you sense. 2.this does not even make any sense. sustain the act, for what? so which you would be able to watch her and her new boyfriend at an identical time as you carry out on the sidelines? Yeah--possibly she'll invite you to the marriage... Honey--life is basically too short for this b**ls**t. And it rather is b**ls**t! tell her which you could not be acquaintances along with her and WHY you could not be acquaintances along with her anymore... Y'comprehend--i do no longer completely get those that prefer to hold out with exes as acquaintances. It confuses issues fairly after a sparkling breakup--and there is frequently a hidden schedule. yet in spite of--she does not prefer to be with you (from what you assert) So i think of you should make a sparkling smash and if u do stay faraway from her till the feelings die down. in spite of the fact that all of it concerns in the style you attitude her with the region. do no longer circulate performing like a dribbling mess. Say some thing like, "....as quickly as I advised you i replaced into over it I wasn't being fullyyt honest....holding a friendship with you this quickly after our breakup is stressful for me..." Blah, blah, blah... The longer you reside in this mess the extra severe you will sense. If she feels no chemistry then you certainly ought to circulate.
2016-11-07 04:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in almost exactly the same situation about 12 years ago. Looking back, she did me the biggest favor of my life. To this day she still has not left herself be happy because she thinks that it will aways be better somwhere else. I've been married to someone else for 10 years now and I have a better life than I thought possible.
I know it sucks, but move on.
2006-09-12 04:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do....DON'T CRITICIZE her recent choices! That will SURELY drive her away. She has to learn it on her own. She'll get tired of that lifestyle soon enough, but everyone I know goes through it some time or another...and they must learn it on their own.
Just be very sweet and write from the heart......all very nice and kind. Talk of some of the happy memories you remember that you think she will remember too.
2006-09-12 03:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st she is your EX-girlfriend. Anything that you do may be unwanted contact. You need to let go. If you send her a card. Just write "Thinking of you " and sign your name. Then go out and enjoy your life. You can't rescue her, all you can do is push her farther away.
2006-09-12 03:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, let it go. Please, don't be chasing after no girl, and for what, so she can leave you again. go find yourself another hot mama. Let that girl go drink herself into a hole somewhere. But if you want to be a fool, then at the end of the card write, "Love", and your name. Then she'll know that you do love her. But I really recommend that you don't do that.
2006-09-12 04:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you have been thinking about her allot and that you heard she is not doing well. (You will score some points just for having her on your mind) Let her know that you are always there for her and that you still care about her. But dint go overboard girls want what they cant have so dint sound too needy. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
2006-09-12 04:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone told me once - there are more fish in the sea.
Let her go - you aren't going to save her. Find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with, without test driving her sexually first.
2006-09-12 03:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel and you can't stand to see her self destructing...why be subltle? might as well tell her the truth and get her something nice to wear,...jewelry..so when she is out bopping around and getting drunk...then she might look at it and think
2006-09-12 04:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like to waste ur time buddy?? Cut it, millions of fish in the sea man!!!
2006-09-12 03:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋