how do you stop a 3 year old from whinning when he doesnt get what he wants? or is the problem with his mother? he lives wit her and when i get him on my weekend, he is a whinny little brat! but by sunday morning, he is back to "normal" again. whatcha think?
2006-09-12 03:42:27 · 13 answers · asked by mr_mojo_risin_0312 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The mom says no. The child whines. Mom says no some more, and the child cranks up the whining. Mom caves in. Jr. realizes how to get way.
When Jr. is with dad, he tries this tactic again. However, dad has shown a history of it not working, but it takes a day or two for him to remember that it doesn't work, and then ceases to use the tactic.
And yes, it's really that simple. The problem is with the mother who is a spineless whimp. She starts to second guess herself once the whining begins, "what can be the harm, it'll be fine." But what she doesn't realize is that she is demonstating to the child that she really has no authority, and he if keeps trying, he can get what he wants.
2006-09-12 04:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by Manny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u don't like him - do u resent "having" to have weekends with him? i think he's scared and he senses that there is something wrong - kids understand alot more then u know - try a little patience and understanding - he's just a little boy. i don't think it's right you - the father- of ALL people call him a whining little brat - and if he hears u say that it will never change! sounds like u are very young - try communicating "wit" his mother - i'm sure you would both like the best for your son.
2006-09-12 10:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I think he is used to whatever methods that is successful to him. He obviously learned that whining doesn't work with you, and he'd stop after doing it out of habbit. My son used to whine a lot too, until I put my foot down, and told him, unless he can ask nicely without whining, he wouldn't get what he wants. For a long time, he'd still do it, but I quickly correct him and remind him no whining. After a long while, he'd turned around. He still do that from time to time, but no where nearly as much.
2006-09-12 10:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would usually block out the whining and try to just listen to what the child needed. Sometimes it's nothing and sometimes it might be the only way they've learned to communicate. Ignoring them (when it's not a dangerous matter) will usually get them to stop.
2006-09-12 10:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have the same problem with my daughter in law but i don't say anything to my hubby he could get mad but my daughter is the same age as her and when she does bad things or crays for no reason we put her on time out on her bedroom or on the high chair and we let her know why she is been put on time out that teaches her that if she does bad there will be consequences such as not playing or not having cake etc, now my daughter in law she does not know how to listen i dont even think she even know what the word no means and i think is because her mom babys her allot but when she gets older shell have to learn that on every house theres different rules
2006-09-12 11:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother is giving in to every whine of the child.
Sounds like your doing a good job though
2006-09-12 10:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Shockey Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three year olds are smarter than you think maybe he is doing it for attention or because you are taking him out of his everyday environment or because he is tired my three year old is whiny every now and again and he lives with both of us, I thought we had a problem, but I have learned that it is the age.
2006-09-12 11:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either mama lets him get what he wants that way or he is using on you to get attention or something he wants. Either way it can get annoying. three year old can get quite clever in what they do for attention. They are not stupid at all. I have no idea what to do about it beings he loves one place most of the time and at your place part time.
2006-09-12 10:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds that he gets his way far too often with his mother. You should talk to her. Let her know that if she keeps it up, that child is gonna be a whole lot of trouble to handle later when he gets to be a teenage.
2006-09-12 11:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by globotang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT MAY BE HARD FOR HIM TO GO BACK AND FORTH .IT IS ALSO NORMAL FOR A LITTLE ONE TO ACT THIS WAY...DON'T BLAME THE MOM AND TRY NOT TO LOOK AT HIM AS THOUGH HES A BRAT...THAT'S JUST SAD..GOOD LUCK!I HAVE A 2 YEAR OLD....
2006-09-12 11:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by marcialee_1968 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋