Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-12 03:37:16 · 17 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well maybe something could happen one day.. but definitely not right now..the more you ask her or try to talk to her about it, the more you will lose her...
the best thing you can do is leave her alone and just be normal, not "lovey" and let her think about it... when she's ready, she'll let you know
2006-09-12 03:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends isn't so bad. She's 13, remember. I know you said don't say you're too young, but you also said be honest and answer truthfully.
At 13 and 15, being friends is fine. She's being honest with you - you should respect that. Whether she'll feel differently in a couple years, or whether you will, is hard to tell. Keep the friendship if possible and see what happens later.
2006-09-12 03:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not into you. She just wants to be friends so just be friends. The two of you are still growing up. She's only 13! Give her a break! she is in the transitional phase from child to teenager and still figuring out how to be a teenager and figuring out relationships. Cut this poor girl some slack! you want to turn her into a teenager! You can't do that to her! Down boy! Give her space. Just be her friend whiel she makes te transition. Offer moral support during this time. she'll probably be confused for a while. She's figuring some stuff out and getitng her head right. Alll girls go through that. They go from barbie to boys. It's a big transition. Her mom is goign to be the biggest help but just being a friend is the best thing you can do for her. if you care about her feelings you'll back off and just listen when she talks. She will feel like she is being HEARD. She sounds like she's coming to the end of the transition period.
2006-09-12 03:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold out for the future thinking it's all going to be alright. You seem liek you got a good head on ur shoulders for a 15 y/o. You got to know that yes you are still young and she is even younger!!
Maybe she is scared maybe not. My suggestion is to really be the same person as you were before all this happened. Think back to the time when you were both comfortable and having fun. I think the time she found out you liked her scared her for sure. For whatever reason.... Just be a friend that is what she wants so don't try and make it something else. As you said... if you want her to be happy then make her happy... don't pressure her and put her in an uncomfortabel position. If it is fate that you are to be together, it will happen. Just give it time, but don't bank oon false dreams.
2006-09-12 03:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen is very young to commit to a relationship. If she says she wants to be just friends, respect that and allow it to remain so. It could be that her parents don't want her to get into a serious relationship with anyone-period. For one reason or another, some kids are embarrassed to admit that they must abide by their parent's wishes. On the other hand, maybe she is not ready for a relationship with anyone. If you keep bringing it up about a closer relationship, you may alienate her altogether. If you have her for a friend, then you never know what might happen in the future. It's even possible that you yourself might grow out of the feelings you have for her. Just take it one day at a time.
2006-09-12 03:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to make this girl fall madly in love with you. She wants to be kept as a friend and you should keep it that way. Even though it may hurt that she is with other guys, that is normal and a part of life. Just know that if she really wants you, she will come to you. there is no need to beat a dead horse with a stick.
Just write her back and tell her that you too value her friendship more than anything and you would rather have that than nothing at all. Start looking for other females to be interested in- I am sure you will come across that perfect person one day. It mght be when you least expect it!
Dont bring up the conversation again and it should be fine. Good luck!
2006-09-12 03:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her time to see her opinions. My may like and want to have a relationship with but she is figuring that if the relationship doesn't go right that you an d her will never be friend. She like that fact you and her are friend. If she is the friend that tell you every thing, you can probably find what she is and is not looking in a boyfriend. Just consider how she is feeling about the situation. And she is probably scared because this is probably her first relationship that she will be getting into and she does not want to get her feeling hurt is something was to go wrong. just give her a chance.
2006-09-12 03:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kyana W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, obviously she's scared but you also have to let nature take its course, First call her: restore the friendship (no friendship=no relationship). Then talk to her in person whenever you feel that ur ready, let her know ur feelings but keep in mind hers too (really important) then ask her how she feels (not just about u, don't put her in that spot) but about both of u about your friendship. But don't rush anything, if ur sure she likes you but she don't want to ruin the friendship then treat her like a friend let her understand by ur actions that ur friendship is important to u too. but remember: friends like to go out to the movies (like a friend) and receive small gifts(flower, lolly pop(as a friend)) and pretty soon she will understand that u really do like her and that ur interested in her. That's when u share ur feelings again. She will come around. But don't rush things. Let time take it's place too. GOOD LUCK............Treat her good.
2006-09-12 04:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax man! If she's 13 and your 15, you have plenty of time in regards to your relationship. It sounds like you have a good friendship--keep building that!!
Good luck!
2006-09-12 03:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What til you're 21. Too much drama for 15
2006-09-12 03:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by marie1257 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋