i cannot help but think my fiance is cheating on me! i just have this jelousy that hits every now and then. i dont know how to control it. i tell myself she isnt but i never know! am i just paranoid or should i worry?
2006-09-12 03:25:01 · 28 answers · asked by mr_mojo_risin_0312 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have no evidence. its just like a feeling or almostinstinct. i trust her but its that voice in the back of my mind telling me.
2006-09-12 03:28:15 · update #1
first off im the guy!!!!! and 2nd i have no evidence
2006-09-12 03:30:59 · update #2
she did tell me that with her last husband, she cheated on him, but that they had just filed for seperation.
2006-09-12 03:33:31 · update #3
Obviously if you have these feelings you don't trust her. It's probably your own insecurities. Is she way hotter than you?
2006-09-12 03:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no hard evidence it is your insecurity feeding on you. As long as you maintain this "jealousy" and "think" she's cheating on you, don't get married. You really can't tell her of your paranoia because she would call off the engagement if she was smart. This is a lifetime problem you have had since puberty hit you. Counseling through a university, clinic, etc. is the least you can do now to give yourself some hope. Jealousy is a killer of all relationships and marriages. If you cannot control it, if this is the way it is going to be, talk with her and accept that this may not be the time for a fiance. You cannot ignore jealousy and expect to have a happy life. Deal with it in counseling. Get referral from a referral service and then go in for a brief interview before signing on. If you care for this woman, you do not want to ruin her life along with yours due to jealously.
Do you two talk? Or is it just a physical thing? The former guarantees success, the latter guarantees failure.
2006-09-12 03:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you think she is cheating ? jealousy can be there in two situations.... either you are so much in love that the thought of her being with someone else makes you mad... or your ego is not able to take it and makes you insecure and jealous. well.. whatever the reason is.. better would be to talk to your fiance.. tell her how you feel. make up your mind for once and all and stick by that decision. don't mess up a good relation because of unnecessary jealousy.
2006-09-12 03:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like youre just paranoid. Unless you have reasons to believe that she would cheat, like past behavior or something, You should just come out and ask her. Thats the best way. Good luck and hope the wedding is beautiful!
2006-09-12 03:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by -*~KrissyJo~*- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definately not normal. Love involves trust, and if you lack trust in someone, then your really don't love them .Seek help for your distrust of your fiance before you get married, oherwise you are in for some big troubles, which can tear the both of you apart.
2006-09-12 03:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she told you something before you got engaged, the cheating part, but sounds like their marriage was over,
I will tell you this if you are only engaged and thinking this,, you need to get out,, you get married and then things turn ugly because you are a jealous person,, This certainly isnt fair for her to get back into another crappy relationship
2006-09-12 04:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that? what is she doing to cause this?
When did you start with the low self esteem?
You know this isn't normal, this isn't a healthy relationship, cause love is based on 'trust' if you can't trust her, you have nothing, and it is only a dysfunctional relationship. time to split.. till you are truly ready for a relationship
2006-09-12 03:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not trust her that is a big problem. Weather or not she is or is not Trust is a big thing, I would reavaluate your relationship very carefully, But go with your instenct, It is usually right.
2006-09-12 03:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just a self esteem problem with you. Unless she's given you hardcore evidence of this, you shouldn't worry about it. Yeah I'd say your "noid".
2006-09-12 03:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit down and tell her the feelings ur having cause i get like that every now and then and it always turns out that im over reacting and jealous cause we end up in fights about girls
2006-09-12 03:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by vicki d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋