He wants to control almost every little detail in my life. Can't imagine a man acting like that! What can I do to survive before I leave home 'n go to college?
2006-09-12 03:11:21 · 21 answers · asked by Freeman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know he worries about me but that doesn't mean that he's right about everything and that I dun have my own way of life!? And plus it's all about little unimportant stuff like he wants me to keep the door of my room open while sleeping and so on.
2006-09-12 03:44:46 · update #1
The short answer is to follow his rules while you live at home. The long answer is to talk to him when you are both in a good mood and explain that you are growing up and want to make some of your own decisions. Keep in mind that he probably won't change your curfew, but maybe you two can compromise on some of the little things...
Ask about one or two little things then follow through...show him how dependable and trust worthy you can be. Then talk again. I'm betting he is just trying to protect his baby....Good luck.
2006-09-12 04:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look at the big picture. Your Dad really truly only wants the best for you!! He may think he's teaching you to be able to survive on your own. One day you may look back and appreciate it (particularly if you have kids of your own). You cannot understand the love you feel and the responsibility you shoulder until you have your own kids and begin to go through some of the things you went through with your parents, with your own kids. Just keep your head up and know that it won't be long before you're grown and out of there on your own! Hopefully, Dad will still be around to be there for you! I wish mine was.
2006-09-12 10:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by Peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him letting him know how you feel? Sometimes parents forget that they don't need to yell and scream to make a point. Just because you are a teenager doesn't mean that you don't deserve to be respected and treated like a human being. And look at the bright side, you don't have to deal with it for too much longer...so focus on your studies to make sure that you get accepted into a university so that you can get the heck out of there.
2006-09-12 10:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem with one of my parents. I made a chart that had the number of days, hours, minutes and seconds left until school.
Sometimes you can get permission to go to summer school ahead of the school year. Just call the school and beg. I did internships which only counted for two courses instead of five. That way I got to stay up at school during the summer to make up the credits. Also you can get various jobs nearby your school to cover the rent during the summer.
Another thing I did was take a nap while everyone was awake and got up when everyone went to bed. I also got a job which my parents let me keep because my GPA went up.
You could go to the public library to study because it is quieter there.
2006-09-12 10:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much longer do you have? how old are you? Id say tell the bastard off but then again I had alot of problems with my stepfather growing up...I never talked to my dad much until about 2 years ago...when something happens or my stepmother starts crap with me I still dont say anything...If you have to though just tell him its my life i will live it how i want and u can always use the classic you dont own me, from experince id advise not to say that unless your 18
2006-09-12 10:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just his way of trying to keep you out of trouble. I had very strict rules and I wasn't allowed to do anything. I ran away because I didn't understand why they were like that. I was brought back home and had a choice to straighten up till I was 18 o end up in juvenile hall. I stayed and went by their rules. Now that I am older I look back and see that he was trying to keep me out of trouble, it worked. I didn't get pregnant when I was young and unmarried. I grew up to be a responsible adult.
2006-09-12 10:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure hwo old you are but if your talk ing about college you must be old enough to set some rules with your dad,like sleeping with door open?sit him down and tlak its amazin gsometimes what a good tlak can do to open someones eys,he this case i think your dad needs to know he needs to respect your decison weathe rrigh tor wrong,he`ll be there to tell you if you go wrong,good luck
2006-09-12 10:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are staying in his house so you have to obey his rules. Your turn will come when you make the rules in your own place and then you will expect the same from others.
2006-09-12 10:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me you will never know how much your dad is important to you until you have children so try to make a good relationship from now. After all he is your dad and cares about you.
2006-09-12 10:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by George 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put up with it your time is coming once you leave for college it will be a whole new "free" world for you so look forward to that .
2006-09-12 10:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by mtk721 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋