He thinks I'm a girly girl (which I really am) and is always talking about how good my skin smells I'm so afraid that if I do, he won't see me the same anymore. So I just can't bring myself to poop or even pass gas when he's home. I've been holding it until he leaves or going to a family member's house to do it. Any tips, hints, clue, etc. on how I can get over this? I am definitely not open to talking to him about it.
2006-09-12 03:11:11 · 29 answers · asked by Tyra J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LMAO -- are you 12?
Just close the bathroom door and take care of yourself.
2006-09-12 03:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you will be misirable if you keep this up. He know's your human and we all have to relieve ourselves. But if you want to know, don't get just any air freshner. Get some Oust!. That stuff works wonders. Spray it real good. Warn him not to go into the bathroom for about 10 min. Chances are, he'll wait. If you have to fart, go to another room, and fan real good, and put on some lotion or something to throw off the smell. But really you can only go throught these motions for so long. Soon you won't even bother anymore and he won't care, cause you will be smelling his sh*t too. lol Love is dealing with the bodily fuctions. I've been there. You will be fine. Just don't hold it in. If you hold gas or poop in too long, you can really hurt yourself. .Good luck Sweetie.
2006-09-12 03:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL i dont meen to laugh but i remember those days. Start by passing gas in the bathroom while he is in the house and keep air freshener in the bathroom. Then as you get more comfortable move on to bigger things. He realizes that you cant be girly all the time and theese are natural function of the body that have to happen he wont care i promise. He might make a joke of it but not to hurt your feelings or anything just to releive some of the tension you might feel about it.
2006-09-12 03:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by ru2tipsy2c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was scared to do it at the house when my boyfriend and i first got together i used to turn on the shower water. He probably knew what i was doing but atleast he didn't say anything. As far as i was concerned he thought i was taking a shower. Then after a while of living together i stopped turning on the water and now i'll just plain tell him, hey i got to go to the bathroom. It just takes a while to get used to. i came from a family that never mentioned pooping or farting infront of eachother so i was embarrassed at first of the reason that i even did those things. Eventually you will get over it believe me. I am with my man for 5 years now and i HAD to get over it. Hope this helps
2006-09-12 03:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a tomboy and I had the same issues as you. I can't even go in a public bathroom. let me assure you though that after I finally had a really bad tummy bug and couldn't help it and had to my husband didn't leave me just cause I made the bathroom a bit stinky. but a few tips cause my mom hated a stinky bathroom. keep air freshener in there and always spray it every time you go in event to pee(he'll never know the difference). Spend extra time in there sporadically even when you don't go poo, light candles in the bathroom especially if company is coming(they can leave the room smelly).
hope it helps some)
2006-09-12 03:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, only you are able to get over this "fear" of being shy. Why don't you take a bottle of air-freshener in the loo with you when you do your business you can just spray a little for the smell. I understand what you are going through, I must still get there and I am already dreading it. So relax and do it one step at a time.
2006-09-12 03:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG--I had this problem too. I actually had my bowels trained to only signal the need to go when he left for work in the morning. I wouldn't fart in front of him either for fear he would think I was gross....but one morning he made the comment that I had farted all night in my sleep and that I should really stop holding it in around him. I was never so relieved in my life! LOL..we still laugh about it sometimes.....
I no longer care if he knows what I'm doing in there and you should relax about it. He knows everybody has to sh*t at some point so its not like you'll be the first.
2006-09-12 03:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would he think differently of you? He already knows you are human and that pooping is a part of everyday life! Just keep some air freshners around and maybe a couple of scented candles in the bathroom if you are embarassed about it. You dont have to broadcast it but you dont have to hide it either. I mean it is your house too! Dont be so simple (LOL!).
2006-09-12 05:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
??? Just do it! You both know you have to, it's not like it's a mystery to him or anything. He does it to, and that doesn't turn YOU off, does it? Didn't think so. If you have any plans for your relationship at all, you're going to have to get used to doing 'your business' with him in the house.
Besides, if he's like most boys, he'll probably find farting funny. Plus, if you don't relieve yourself, you'll probably end up all stressed and unhappy, which he won't think is attractive at all. I think the most important thing is to try it and find out that he couldn't care less, after that you'll probably be okay.
2006-09-12 03:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural function. Everyone does it. Just be discreet. I am the same way though. I have been married for 10 years and as far as my husband is concerned, I don't do those things. lol He KNOWS I do, but I never do when he is around. Not sure why. He has witnessed me give birth to two children, so, I don't know!
2006-09-12 03:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. He knows you do your business and eventually you'll just stop caring. Does he do it? Probably. Lots of girls have this problem, we're supposed to be clean and perfect and smell good all the time. But we're not, and guys know it. If anything, you'll bug each other about it or he'll never say anything and pretend it doesn't happen.
2006-09-12 03:14:01 · answer #11 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋