My wife and I always praise her and genuinely give her alot of love. Yet she hardly has any friends in school and once she gets home, sits in front of the Tv rather than play with her siblings. Also when she speaks in front of people other than us, she hesitates and gets flustered. Any games or excercises we can do to improve her confidence and also get her to befriend others?
2006-09-12 03:00:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
I was "shy" and quiet as a child, teen, and young adult. It colored my "decisions" and I was "dependent" upon the decisions of others for the greater part of my life because I desired to be "pleasing to others". This desire was a mistake because the "decisions" of others were often not good for me. I should have been more independent-minded.
You are the first and most formative teacher your child has. Without "smothering" her, show interest in her interests and enable her to learn more and excell in what interests HER, whether it be "head knowledge" or skills. Take her places, e.g., museums, historical places, and/or whatever she appears to have enthusiasm for. This will build her self-confidence in knowledge, at least. Each of us is "given" abilities and strengths. It's merely a matter of "finding" what our abilities and strengths are.
After some time at building her self-confidence, as per above, avail her of social interactions. Start with simply situations with others...all ages...and slowly expand to more complex interactions. Her peer group is important to her and YOU must guide her in building HEALTHY interactions with her "group" so she doesn't fall into "pleasing" others. If she has a strong aversion to others, especially her peer group, you may need to investigate what is causing this. It's not good for any one to have an aversion towards others.
Most importantly, never push her. If she feels she needs to "withdraw", allow her to and, perhaps, move on to more interest and skill building. Be very patient with her. In this way, she actually begins to make her own decisions regarding interactions, she builds her own confidence, and this is foundational to the whole. At every turn, show her a good example by your own self-confidence, independent thinking, desire to interact in a healthy manner with others, including her.
2006-09-12 03:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Seneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say enable him gravitate in route of his own interests. also, discover out basically how a lot he truly like taking area in football. i replaced into an introverted new child which in contact my moms and dads so as that they signed me up for football, little league, scouts, etc attempting to "socialize" me and the outcomes, lengthy time period and short, were and are truly detrimental. This now i imagine they regreat doing, and if I ever have little ones i'll in no way stress them into being social or something else they don't favor to be in. i might want to really nurture and help their interests so as that they can develop into confident of their very own skills, truly of dropping time with something they're no longer sturdy at and in no way drawn to, if no longer downright frightened of. That suggested, he may like karate ir martial arts because it truly is not any longer as aggressive an ecosystem, and the most objective in on the guy and his skills. i might want to verify with him about it, possibly take him to a consultation before signing him up and word if he's drawn to it...if so, great. If no longer...he desires to come back out of that shell on his own; if he's yanked out he may get more desirable proper, yet when no longer, he will run back into it, farther, and make it more suitable.
2016-11-26 19:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop showing too much care and release her. Show passion when she talks as if what she is saying is very important.
Let her do her own stuff alone.
2006-09-12 03:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son 22 now was like that.then one day when he was around 13 he changed let me tell you hes not shy any more.don't worry .its just her personality.if this seems to be a real problem if she in school or when she goes talk to her doctor they may be able to help you.
2006-09-12 03:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes shyness is a fear of rejection, being afraid that people won't like you. Don't worry about her being outgoing, just reassure her that people will like her.
2006-09-12 03:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is sport, team work, she has to decided which one she like
2006-09-12 03:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by hansel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her in karate
2006-09-12 16:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋